my mothers sister (my aunt) just died at 1:27 a.m. this morning my mother isn't handeling it too good, as expected, but what can I do to help make her feel better and not break down in front of her?????
2007-06-04 06:06:31 · 6 answers · asked by Pearl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take care of as many of the arrangements as you can without her asking - calling family and friends, contacting the paper, ordering flowers, prepping for the funeral dinner, etc.
Understand that things she finds comforting one minute will drive her insane the next - be flexible and don't take it personally. Kind of follow her lead and understand she might just need to be alone sometimes.
Mostly just be there and show her you love her and understand. It's really hard because you're hurting, too. But she won't forget the fact that you're there and loved your aunt, too. You'll both get through this, but it's going to be awful for a while.
Last thing - sometimes it feels better if you're openly grieving in front of each other. It's okay to have a good cry together.
2007-06-04 06:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your aunt. Just be with your mother to comfort her, and it's okay for you to break down and cry in front of her.
2007-06-04 06:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes silence is more powerful than words.
All you can do - because you are hurting too - is to be there and not say too much. If you're asked, be truthful, Mom, I know your loss - and I'm afraid if I talk too much I'll break down - and not be able to help you get through this. But know that I'm here and I understand how you feel.
That probably isn't enough - it's never enough - but that's all you have.
Be strong.
2007-06-04 06:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there be a ear to listen a shoulder to cry on be supportive and understanding allow for her to grieve and don't feed her any typical BS about it happens it's a part of life everyone knows this but it still hurts like H E L L
2007-06-04 06:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just help her around the house, and just say things to comfort her, and try to take care of her,and let her know,that you are there for her, I'm so sorry for your lost
2007-06-04 06:32:37 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST TRY AND MAKE HER COMFORTABLE!
I'M SORRY ABOUT YOUR AUNT.
2007-06-04 07:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by POO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋