Have you ever felt finished/spent/done, and if so, how does one recover?

Question

I've gone through alot in my 25 years, and in the last year alone have gone through numerous health ailments from anxiety/panic attacks, breathing problems/asthma, pneumonia, and all sorts of things.

I've also just finished college, and did LOTSSSS of work. I now feel spent. I"ve just recovered from all my health ailments and feel normal again to a degree, but just feel so....depressed because I'm not what I used to be.

You know how you feel like when you're a kid, all invincible and you take on more than you can handle?

Well right now I feel 80.

WHat happened to me? Is this normal?

It's scary b/c I'm pressured by my parents to "get a job" and I havent been able to get myself to interviews since I knew I really wasn't mentally ready for that, but I managed to get my resumes going.

I'm just in a very fragile state right now, and I need advice on how to recover?

If I don't recover....well then, I"ll just lead a depressing life and end up nowhere lol.

HELP PLEASE! anyone!

Answer 1

I have suffered with depression, eating disorders, self injury, suicidal thoughts, etc. on and off my entire life. Here is the best advice I've got.

*Start talking about it.... with your parents, a therapist, your doctor. Just start talking! Isolation will only aggravate the situation and make you feel all alone. A support system around you will not only help you but make you feel cared for.

*Take care of your body. Your body can really work for you when you take care of it. Exercise has been shown in numerous studies to alleviate depression and eating healthfully is good for your body and will make you feel better about yourself. Shower (which is sometimes difficult to do when severally depressed, trust me!) and get plenty of sunlight. Do yoga, walk around the block... basically get off the couch and do something healthful.

* Start a Gratitude Journal (write what your thankful for) or a Positivity Book (fill it with drawings, poems, quotes, song lyrics that make you happy) or a Joy Box (Candles, good smelling lotions, favorite cds, stuffed animals). Basically anything that has a sole purpose of focusing on the positive things in life. My friend once told me that no matter how bad things seemed there were always 15 good things going on... and than she made me write them. Every week. And they would sometimes be lame, but you have to look for even the tiniest thing... ie) everyone you know and love woke up this morning, or your favorite tv show is on tonight, or you ran 1 mile more than you did last week. IT takes a lot of work and focus to change into a positive mindset, but you can do it! Tell yourself you are a happy, positive, beautiful individual.. .eventually it will sink in.

*Lastly, Medications if necessary. See your doc. Their your friend not your enemy.

Answer 2

If you have just graduated are you sure the career and degree you chose are right for you? Most people finish college enthusiastic about their career and eager to get started. Were your grades good? It sounds as though you are depressed about your prospects and depression could have been one cause of your period of illnesses.

If you are not sure it is the life work you want then get started in something else no matter how menial. Any job looks better on a resume' than a long period of unemployment. If all else fails write a book about how to get started in a new career or set up a consulting business advising people how to do this. The research and work necessary to accomplish this will serve you well in getting your own life going again.

Hope this helps. Good luck, good health, peace and love!

Edit: A book (old) that helps get one started Is:

Abraham A. Low MD;"Mental Health Through Will Training"; Willett Publishing Co., Glencoe IL, 1997

This book has been in continuous publication since 1950 and is still available from Amazon.com

Answer 3

Well take it from someone who has been there plenty of times; at your age I also felt the same as you but my problem was two kids in diapers and a selfish husband. Since then those problems seem small and silly but then Oh My!!! My advice is from experience (30 yrs more than you) and that is to just do it....act as if....motion creates motion...if you do something when you don't feel like it, it creates strength and confidence. Don't dwell on the negative and the thought that you aren't what you used to be, because frankly you are not meant to be "what you used to be" you should be changing and growing all the time and taking joy in that discovery. Remember when you were a kid, you weren't afraid of discovery, don't be now...you have already taken the right step in getting your resume' ready, now send it out, don't wait till you feel better, just do it! You will certainly feel in a better mood when a prospective job is presented to you and that won't happen if they don't see your resume...good luck, you can do this, remember, you are in charge of how you feel!

Answer 4

Hun you have enough material to look at the brighter side of your life with. YO Ovecame all of those illneses, you graduated... some people don't even pass 7 grade! I do see your point, where you need a break. If I was in your shoes, I would ask my parents to let me take a break from teir nagging for one full month, in that month find a new meanig for your life, hobbies new friends adn rest as much (no partying hard ok) and be ready for the battle (life) the next month. If you parents keep on telling you to get off your ***...then use that as a recovery! picture that if you are finally able to move out to your own place, you are going to be able to do whatever you want, but be cautious though, because at the same time you will have more responsibilities, like paying bills, so you would definetly need to keep a job. The plus side willbe that you will able to do as your please with your free time!

Answer 5

I can totally understand where you're coming from and I'm afraid I'll be the same way when I graduate (I'm a junior in college).
After I graduate, I plan to leave the US and travel to another country to teach English (it doesn't matter what your degree is, as long as you have one). At this point I'm interested in teaching in Asia because that's an area of focus within my degree. I'm hoping that this will give me a chance to give back some of what I've learned while at college, and allow me to do something I truly believe I will enjoy. It doesn't pay well but most programs provide housing and food, and besides...you get to travel to another country! I'm hoping that this ambition will give me a way to have some downtime after the stress of college, and plus it will look great on a resume when I finally decide to come back and settle into a career.
Sometimes I feel like everything is going way too fast, and I hope you can find something that works for you to give you a break.

Answer 6

You will recover when your brain doesn't have to erase false expectations. You will need to learn the social aspects of the greeting and interface and the second vocabulary. It will be essential that you learn about your feelings of having your aura stimulated or changed. Then you will have to find a friend and join in friendship to his group. Until then you must remain an outsider by definition and manage the problems of being like all of us in this mental health disorder category.

Answer 7

Find the one thing you feel can truly make you happy, and incorporate it into your life. No life is perfect, and you're not alone. Give yourself a goal, or something you hope to take part in, and stick with it. Helping others often has a great psychological value, and is a great way to make a difference in the world.

Answer 8

i change my CD and move, and listen to nobody.if we do our best is sufficient.sure u will get the result,remember we are not god are we?

Answer 9

http://www.feelinggood.com
http://www.dbsalliance.org