I'll just call my Sister in law B. In early May I started asking B when her sons B-day party would be, and was told quite a few times that she hadn't planned it yet but that it would probably be a few weeks away as she had just had her daughters party. No big deal to me but the last time I asked her she said that his party would be on the 12th. Well that happened to be the same day that my son was having graduating in karate and getting his new belt so I told her that we may not be able to make it but that we would try. B proceeded to go off on me and told me that I had known about his party for a month. Although she didn't know where or what time the party was to be held until the day before the party. I gave out invitations to my daughter party 3 weeks before and she called day of the party with every excuse in the book as to why her family couldn't come. She has 5 children and we have missed 2 of her childrens parties ever. I'm ticked and I feel like she's being childish.
2007-06-04 05:23:30 · 5 answers · asked by CountryGirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes she is a B**** My children personally gaver her Son his gift like 2 days after his party. We did have my Daughter party and we all had a tons of fun which is one reason why I'm so ticked. I could really care less to see her - ever- but do feel that her children should not have missed out because she's so resentful. She is like this all of the time and everyone just excuses her because that just how she is but I think if that's the case, she's pittiful excuse for a person. I have tried being her friend and finally had to distance myself - life was too dramatic. I have 4 Sisters and we have never fought as much as my Sister in Law and me.
2007-06-04 05:41:30 · update #1
Kill her with kindness. You need to pick and choose your battles and this one is quite petty. It is not worth getting in a argument over. If she is going to be childish and immature about it instead of getting angry just be the better one of the situation. You all have your own lives and it is not going to work out where you can be there for all functions. So don't take this personal just feel sorry for her that she is being so stupid. Don't feed into her behavior. Just move past this and you will be the better one out of the 2 of you. Do not take her behavior personally. It is all about how you treat it. Just ignore it and if she brings it up just be very calm and mature about it.
2007-06-04 05:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can match you, my sister in law didn't come to her only nephews birthday because that was the day (Saturday) that she uses to catch up on her laundry and shopping.
Guess what, we were better off without her here complaining how busy she is. What do you do, if you have email explain in a direct but polite way that she never did tell you when the party was and it makes you wonder why after receiving your child invitation that she didn't address it immediately if she new there was a scheduling conflict. Also, let her know that your intent is not to hurt people but to make sure that your child comes first.
Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh, I just won't invite mine again.
2007-06-04 12:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's being really selfish and unreasonable. You have 2 options: 1) talk to her honestly and explain your position with kindess and love OR 2) ignore her reaction and try to just have a good time w/ your child at her party and send a gift in the mail for her child saying you're very sorry you couldn't attend.
I hope things work out. She sounds like a B*TCH...
2007-06-04 12:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you; she's acting like a spoiled brat. Sounds like no matter what you do, she's not going to be satisfied. And this kind of thing usually causes problems throughout the whole family. Suggest to her that maybe you need to get together with your calendars so that parties can be planned ahead of time to make it easier for all family members to be more likely to attend. Either way, schedule the things for your kids and enjoy the events, with or without her.
2007-06-04 12:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the only little bit of pathetic power she has, by the sounds of things. Rise above it, smile brightly and pretend all is sweetness and light. That'll annoy the bejaysus out of her for sure.
2007-06-05 00:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋