How many teenage girls(12-19) would get married if they were considered adults as soon as they got their .?

Question

I am just curious as to this because it would cut down on single teen mothers, women wouldn't be sleeping with tons of differnet guys, they'd only be sleeping with their husbands, they'd be provided for all their lives unless the husband died, the parents of these women wouldn't need to worry about their daughters getting knocked up outside of marriage. Girls are adults as soon as they get their first period in my religion(Islam) and women get married around 14. I'm wondering if women 12-19 would get married if it was legal.

I live in USA. In KSA girls sometimes get married at 14 because they want to get married not because they are forecd to do so. It's entirely their choice their decision if they want to get married or not. If a girl doesn't want to get married at 14 she isn't forced.

People in Islam hardly get divorces. It is discouraged because the parents should try to work their issues out before they go through a divorce for the sake of the children. And these women enjoy being married at a young age. Some even get married to men in their late 20s early 30s. They enjoy taking care of their husbands, being pregnant, and having a house to look after. They can finish their education if they want to and their husband can't stop them. The grandparents just take care of the children while the women are at school. There are some women who choose to get married because they are sick of being in school and want to start families at an early age. My mother in law got married at 13 and she didn't have any problems and all 7 of her children turned out fine. So not all women lose their pregnancies in a miscarriage to the poster who said that "girls" these ages lose their children due to getting pregnant so young. They are perfectly healthy and have healthy kids.

Answer 1

No, probably not. Just because I wouldn't want to be tied down at such a young age. I want my freedom as a teen, and probably most do too.

That would just make more teens grow up faster and start to have kids younger because they are starting a family....We don't want to be worried about having a husband and starting a family.


And also, single mothers aren't such a bad thing. They provide for their families just like a regular parent would. We women are strong and don't need a man just to support us...

Answer 2

In Guatemala that was the norm. As a 20-yr-old, it was a bit of a shock to the system to see 16-yr-olds getting married and having babies. However, taking into consideration the culture and the level of education that these girls had, it became evident that this was not necesarily a bad system.

The majority of these girls had very limited access to schooling and education. At the best, they received a 7-8-9th grad education. They were, however, bilingual, speaking Spanish (for the most part) and K'iche. The life expectancy was significantly lower than that of the US or Canada, the standard of living was what we would consider scandalous and sub-human. They had dirt floors, some people had flushing toilets, running water was sporadic, as was electricity. In a town of several thousand, there were TWO automobiles, one being a motorcycle. I think there were a couple of televisions, but never watched while I was there. Heating was done by wood fire. Bathing was in an outside hut called a "temascal". These people were very poor.

Typically, this does not translate well into our (US/Canadian/most of Europe) society. Girls of this age (12-19) are expected to finish high school, and are encouraged to further their education. As well, according to the literature I have read, the trend toward spousal abuse is more prevalent in younger women. Younger women who begin having sexual relationships (and I am referring to teenagers) are much more prone to developing cervical cancer. And finally, a teenaged girl may be physically able to bear children, but this does not mean that she is emotionally able to handle the responsibility of rearing them, or being responsible for a home and husband. Moreover, any man who would be in a financial position to take on a child bride would be significantly older than she. And in general, most men do not wish to have a child bearing their children, but a woman, confident and capable. Men bear the stress and responsibility of providing for a family and should not have to also be saddled with the burdens of adolescence in their wives.

You are right, however, the problem of teenaged pregnancy is epidemic. Too often these young girls are mistakenly taught that exploring their sexuality at so tender an age is fine and that becoming a teenaged mom is something that "just happens". Where does the responsibility lie? I believe it's with the parents. It is up to parents to teach their children that sexuality is great....so long as you are married! NOT BEFORE! Having children is a blessing. When you are married! NOT BEFORE!

The problem with society is that parents have dropped the ball. Premature marriage is not the solution. Parenting these girls to adulthood is.

Answer 3

this was the practice centuries back. but now society has made it acceptable to have sex before marriage,have multiple sex partners, and children out of wed lock. and since most people,not all people think this is acceptable behavior then it's ok. no matter how or what you say no one will truly answer or address the question at hand. all they will do is attack islaam b/c of what the media has put out there that muslim girls and women are forced into marriage. they will believe the media over anyone who is a real and true muslim and if they took the time to meet one then they would find out the truth a/b it and start thinking for themselves. but that will never happen,b/c of the narrow mindedness of the ignorant. i do believe that marriage at an early age is one idea that would put an end to ths recklessness we are seeing in ths country. it's ok to promote fornication and not marriage. yeah that's an intelligent way of thinking.NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!



if you got married at an early age of course they would live with one of their in-laws until they were able to be self sufficent and as for the higher divorce rate of course you wouldn't get married unless both parties are mature enough to handle it. while it may be best for some it may not be for others. it's a/b the maturity of the people involved. my inlaws were married at 17 and guess what they're still married (35yrs)and my aunt was married at 17 was married for 45yrs until her husband died from cancer. my grandmother was married at 16 and they were together for a while b/f they split. so there ar examples. most adult marriages don't work sometimes either again it's a/b the maturity of the people. you can still be immature whether you ar 12,25, or 35 so again what's the point of attacking someone for asking a question based on intelligence maybe if it was still acceptable to marry at an early age we wouldn't have the societal issue we are facing today. it's just a thought..


hold up i just read other posts. although my grandmother didn't graduate both my in laws and aunt are very educated people who grew up in the church and thought it was morally correcet to get married young then to committ fornication. it seems like most of you think people who are muslim and get married young are not educated. and islaam does promote the education of girls and women. education is not prohibited at all nor is it prevented after marriage. i have many friends who are in school and are married so that's not a true statement. some of you need to stop listening and believing the media.

Answer 4

I'm not a teenager but I'm gonna pop in on this one.
I'm not Islam, I'm a Christian...that happened late in my life.
But as a woman I think I have a 'soap box' here. So here goes.
For centuries women have been getting 'knocked up', having babies out of wed lock, or horror of horrors going to a back alley abortionist to end a pregancy. I do not believe that marrying a young girl off is going to end the problems that are so prevalent today. Simply marrying a girl off does not insure that she will be provided for properly by her husband nor does it insure that she will not sleep with many many men.No matter what her religion.
The problem with American culture today is that women simply don't have a CLUE which way to go. If we work full time and have children(I've been there) we are too stretched.If we choose to stay at home with the children we are considered traitors to some cause that we never agreed to. We are looked down on or criticized no matter what route we take.
NOW to the men of our nation. Our men nowadays(thanks Gloria) expect us to pop out 5 kids and hold down a full time job while frying up the bacon in the pan and never never let him forget he's a man......(If you don't get that one look up old commercials)
The feminist movement in this country took a wrong turn somewhere.The male children since that movement I think are just as lost. THEY drop their seed wherever and just leave.Maybe because they have been taught that the woman 'can do it all' including single parenting.
Well, we can't stay home and raise our babies, we are expected to leave them and go work full time, and we still don't get paid equal. So, who is at home watching the children?
And where is Ms. Gloria Steinmen now? The leader of that 'movement'? who is quoted saying , "I don't think marriage has a good name. ... Legally speaking, it was designed for a person and a half. You became a semi-nonperson when you got married."
She got married.

I went a bit off topic, sorry. I'm stepping off my soap box now.
I'm thinking of changing my screen name to 'MuslimMom' just to see how many 'Christians' attack me. Some of you responders SERIOUSLY need to research before you respond.
PEACE (look it up)....here's a link:
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/peace

Answer 5

it would cut down on single teen mothers but not on uneducated mothers without jobs or adequate health insurance.

i am 25 and i am getting married next summer to a wonderful man. when i think about the guys i dated when i was that age........ they were the "cool" kids. and i wouldn't be caught dead with any of them now. i make better choices now....... i have a good education, etc.

but that was a really good question! i enjoyed answering it!

Answer 6

you would have to have a whole cultural shift for this to be effective........what country are you from?

of the muslim countries i have visited or have friends from most do not have a majority of ppl getting married at 14

If it was an accepted part of culture and ppl still went to school etc than it would be good.

Also, ppl did not notice your ? was about GIRLS --they tend to be a bit more mature at that age then boys--and they would have to marry older guys that were mature and employed to be able to care for her. This is so far from reality in THIS country (usa) that they can't even wrap there heads around the concept.

when would they date? in second grade? --you see, they can't even realize dating is a modern invention---ppl used to look for the right person to be married to w/ modern dating

i would loose my teenage years!!!!!! --teenage years for girls is ALSO a modern idea....I wonder if these ppl are educated and have studied history?

Answer 7

No way no one would. That really would take away there childhood/teenage years. And 12-19 is still young and there is no point of them having children and sleeping with someone.

Answer 8

Islam is completely wrong on this one. Psychology has shown that girls that age are not psychologically prepared, nor are they (necessarily) physically prepared for birth. Unfortunately, a lot of girls who get pregnant that young lose their babies to miscarriage - God's way of saying they're not ready.

And, in many Muslim nations including Morocco, where I live - LAW has contradicted Islam. Moroccan women cannot marry until they are 18, which is normal and sane.

Answer 9

16+ is legal for marriage in almost every state, a few as young as 14 in a baby is involved.

Answer 10

Why would anyone do that? When would they start dating- 2nd grade??? They'd never find someone they would want to be with for the rest of their life by the time they are 14 or 15.