80% of the comunication is about thier child but is mostly stuff tim could tell his dad(what he did at school/sports/what he ate at lunch ects).The other 20% is personal stuff about her(what her gyn told her,her father health,work issue ect) nothing to do with thier son.They have been divorced(he left her and she was very bitter about it) for 5yrs and she has been in and out of 5-6 relationships since then but has lots of friends she could talk to.My bf has joint custody and once called the school to get info about tims school activites.When his ex found out she was pissed her responce was "i allways make sure u get the stuff u need".Which is true but why would she care?its like she wants to be the one to hand him the stuff but why?My bf sees nothing wrong in what she is doing is it just me?
2007-06-04 05:04:50 · 8 answers · asked by katie5duceete 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If they have a child together, they will always have a relationship whether you are around or not, so you have to be okay with it.
2007-06-04 05:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Do not listen to all the posters saying "it is their business" and to butt out. I'm assuming you are more than a one night stand with this guy and the relationship is serious. Therefore, under no circumstances is it EVER ok for your man and another woman to talk about her gyny visit. Ask your bf if it would be ok to talk to your coworker about his erectile dysfunction. I would never stand for such a thing.
Now, on to the other stuff. Yes, they do need to speak about the child. But daily is pushing it. And talking about trivial things like what the kid ate that day is not necessary. He should (and is obligated seeing how he is the father) to speak directly to his son about these things. If she gets angry, well that is her business and let her get angry. Neither of you have to put up with it.
As for them being friends, that is nice to a point. It is much better to be friendly in these situations than have a seething exwife breathing down your neck. However, being "friends" is crossing the line as well. Being civil with one another and talking about the weather is ok. I would put my foot down on her talking about her father or anything else really. He should treat her as an aquaintance in situations that do not DIRECTLY involve his son.
2007-06-04 08:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by FreakyGeeky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They will always have correspondence being that they have a child together. If you dont trust him or dont like the idea of them always having a connection, you need to end the relationship now because your feelings will only get worse.
It is normal for her and him to talk about their son but if they're calling/texting each other all day then you have to talk to your bf about how it makes you feel. If its only once a day just for her to let him know how their sons doing its ok.
He has every right to go to his school and get info about his son though. He shouldnt have to rely on her to know what his son is doing in school. Hes his dad for gods sake. Why shouldnt a dad be able to get info about his own son at school?
How does your bf feel about his ex telling him her personal things? Its important for him to know about her health because she is his sons mom but he doesnt need to know about her gyno visits! The only things he really needs to know about her personal life is if her health is failing, she lost her job (therefore losing her income to help support the child) or if she is thinking about getting romantically involved with someone (hed probly want to meet the guy first if hes going to be around his son). Other than that he doesnt need to know anything about her unless it involves their son in some way.
Sit down and have a talk with your bf about how these things make you feel. Get his opinions on how he feels about her calling all the time, and go from there.
2007-06-04 05:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not normal, my brother in law does the same thing with his ex wife and lets just say his current girlfriend is very needy and lets it slide. now he has been back and forth between the 2 relationships, upsetting the kids everytime. but they both keep letting him do it. the ex wife because they obviously still have feelings for each other (they stay on the phone, talking and texting a ridiculous amount of time), and the current gf because like I said she's needy.
In short, if you think there is a problem, and it seems u do, then there probably is.
don't be the needy current girlfriend. put your foot down. or, like someone else said above, bail out now. it is probably a losing situation on ur end. sorry.
2007-06-04 05:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by ★Amy★ 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Listen, I am really not trying to be rude, but you need to butt out of their business. You are the GIRLFRIEND, Not step-mother. And even if you were, your crossing a line. They need to talk to each other about their child. If they want to be friends and talk about other things, that's great. The better the relationship they have, the better off the child will be. You need to trust your boyfriend and not be so jealous.
2007-06-04 05:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Small Town Gal 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
she likes being the info giver. it will never stop til he puts his foot down. he needs to tell her that he would like to hear stuff from the son not her. unless its something from a dr or health reason and if its an e.r.... that he has a life and that she is an ex for a reason.
2007-06-04 05:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then there is nothing wrong with it, stuff about her dad is important to know since its his sons grandfather. you need to butt out and mind your business. what he does with his childs mother is none of your business. he sees no problem so there isnt one so back off and mind your business
2007-06-04 05:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They still have feelings for each other,bail out now!
2007-06-04 05:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋