I have a good male friend of mine who is in a bad relationship that is basically over. He complains about this relationship and always says he's going to break it off soon but never does. I ask him why he holds onto this if it makes him unhappy and he said he'd rather be this way than alone.
I thought males wanted to be single to mingle with girls, so what's up with this male?
2007-06-04 04:36:51 · 11 answers · asked by Stargaze2509 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has a week soul. If you want to help him, talk to him and tell him that the life is wonderful with or without a partner, he needs to find himself first then he can establish a strong relationship with another girl. May be he feels that he don't have lot of chances to meet another one, but you can tell him that he deserve more for him self and he shouldn't be worried about females, sooner or later he will met the partner of his life.
2007-06-04 04:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by HAYDER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are a lot of guys that just don't want to be alone. Not everyone wants to play the crowd (in a manner of speaking). Actually, I'd say that most men don't want to . . . it's mostly a myth pushed on the populous by scandalous TV shows and movies. After all, how boring would a movie be without some kind of infidelity or joking about things that don't happen every day? Don't get me wrong, lots of guys want to "mingle" and never settle down (or wait until they're old farts to get married). It's mostly the club crowd that's like that though, and I can see right through it all. I guess I'm in a better position to do it since I'm a guy and they don't have anything to hide from me though. Anyway, I'm one of those guys that just wants to settle down and have a happy life. I would rather be alone than mistreated though. Have a nice day!
2007-06-04 11:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are like that. Some really like being in relatioships and having that someone to see and kiss and spend the night with all the time. I think it can be healthy in some cases, but with your friend, it seems like an unhealthy need. He's sacrificing happiness for comfort, which doesn't make a whole lot of sense. This is the reason people go back to their ex's so often... they miss that companionship that they built, and don't wanna put in the work with someone else. So he's clinging on to this girl.
2007-06-04 11:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to popular belief, males get attached to females. When we have something for a long time we get attached to it, we never want to see it leave. Not all guys are players that go out to the club and have sex with every girl they bring home. Most males want a steady relationship, and finding the right person takes a long time and it is a hassle. This guy probably doesn't want to have to go out and try to look for another girl. I am speechless to why he has stayed with this girl if it is making him unhappy.
2007-06-04 11:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys don't have the best of luck getting girls, myself included. When those types of guys are single they tend to find girls who only want to be their friend. As a result we tend to feel like we're not good enough. That feelings makes us feel lonely. We may find someone and end up in a bad relationship, but we'd prefer it over being alone.
2007-06-04 11:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by fallen_angel_0_2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
single and mingle definately would be great but women today aren't into "mingling". i've been single for the past two months and i'm kinda liking it but i'm kinda wanting to get back into a relationship. on the other hand flirting with women on a daily basis is pretty sweet without feeling guilty.
2007-06-04 11:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by aaronbegood2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he feels like a part of his life would be missing if he wasnt in a relationship, although hes in an un happy relationship he might still like the sercurity of knowing that theres someone there..
2007-06-04 11:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by matthew g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just guys. Loneliness is the most pervasive illness in the world.
2007-06-04 11:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is different, I enjoy being single, but I also enjoy that helpless romance that over takes me when I find a good person! he is probably just insecure! be there for him give him your point of view...
2007-06-04 11:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by Soap Box Preacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is lack of sense of security
2007-06-05 05:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by heberen83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋