Its ugly, ugly.and there r 2 other little girls(no relation)in the wedding wearing lovely dresses thier Mom chose for them..i want my daughter to look lovely (shes always beautiful, goes without saying) but the dress looks like a salvation army reject!! I have a very pretty dress i want her to wear instead..its just embarassing to have her wear the one my sil chose..am i totally off base?
2007-06-04 04:04:22 · 16 answers · asked by rhayninglillies 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yep. You're out of line.
If this were YOUR wedding, I would agree with you - but it's not your wedding is it?
However, it wouldn't hurt to show your SIL the other dress next to the one she wants.
KEY - no whining, pleading, gushing etc. over your choice of dress. Remember, the BRIDE (not you) has picked out what SHE wants. Just show her the two dresses and ask her opinion.
But remember, the choice is up to HER - not you.
2007-06-04 04:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask your mother-in-law what she thinks. Voice your concerns to and through her rather than going directly to the bride. No grandma wants their grandbaby to look bad. Who knows maybe your SIL really loves the dress she picked and wanted something extra special for your daughter. Then wouldn't you feel like a heel for complaining if in reality she was trying to do something special for the girl. When you do talk with your MIL, just ask if she knows why the girls' dresses don't match. Whatever you do don't complain about the dress to your MIL otherwise you could be setting the stage for future problems with your relatives. Keep telling yourself it's the bride's decision not your's. Also, don't make a fuss at the wedding or the reception by going out of your way to point out that you did not pick the dress. It will make you look petty especially if others feel it's actually cute.
2007-06-04 04:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by Industry_Kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world are they not all wearing the same dress? I've never seen a wedding where the flower girls didn't all have the same dress on. They look adorable when they all match.
Just politely tell your SIL something like you really think the one she picked looks bad with your daughter's complexion, and you would like to pick something else that compliments her skin and the other girls' dresses.
BTW, my little girl is going to be a flower girl this coming Friday night, and I got her dress at flowergirldressforless.com. They have some beautiful dresses, and the prices are great. And it only took 5 days to get to me after placing the order.
2007-06-04 04:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can buy the same dress for your daughter as the other girls are wearing - of course after clearing it with your SIL. Is there some reason that she picked out the 'special' dress for your daughter??? It might be something that she totally loves and thinks is really cute - and your fashion tastes do not match. It is best to chat with her about it. She might think that she is honoring your daughter by having her in a dress that is different than the others while you think that she is insulting her... Talking it out to find out if she actually adores the dress and/or asking about going with a matching gown might be the best solution.
2007-06-04 04:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by Only_my_opinion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't the girls wearing the same dress? Also, why is a 2 year old in a wedding? Other then her wearing the same dress as the other two girls which is definitely standard practice, you don't normally get to pick the flower girl dress. However, since the other two girl's moms picked out their dresses I'm not sure why you didn't get to pick your daughters. I think there is more to this situation than your mentioning or more than you know.
2007-06-04 04:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show up with the dress you chose on her. "I put it on her right before the wedding and she just cried and cried until I took it off. So we used her Easter dress instead."
If your SIL is going to pick a fight with you over this - on her own wedding day, no less, when all those details suddenly stop mattering! - then she's a control freak and a loser and was going to fall out with you anyway. Just accept the dress and then don't have her wear it.
Sure, technically you are supposed to do what the bride wants - but this is such a minor thing (or should be to the bride), and if it bothers you that much ... what. Ever. Just avoid having her wear a color that does not look good with the wedding party. Like if the wedding party is in white and red, don't put your daughter in green =P
2007-06-04 04:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by zilmag 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Dear,
It is HER wedding, not yours! If you don't like it just tell your Sister in law that you don't want your daughter to participate in the wedding. Unfortunately that will be mean and rude, but that way both of you will be satisfied.
You have no saying in the details of any persons decisions or details. Maybe you can mention something in a polite manner but is her decision to choose whatever she wants for HER wedding. Someone doesn't like it... tough!!!
Why is it that when someone is getting married there are always people who want to make decisions that pertain to the bride and groom??? I believe that when someone sends an invitation to a wedding or invite someone to participate on it there should be a note that says: " Your comments are welcome and appreciated but ultimately everything concerning our wedding will be our decision."
I hear this all the time when someone is getting married. There is always someone unsatisfied who wants to add more stress to those whom are already very stress.
Everyone has the right to have the wedding that they want without been put in a position where they have to decide if they want the wedding That they hope to have or if they should make changes so that others are happy.
2007-06-04 04:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by Belle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she picked it out and paid for it, (and didnt get it from salvation army thrift store) I'd have her wear it. You can always have your daughters pictures taken professionally in the dress you love. Just remember its HER wedding pictures that will look funny with a flower girl who's dress is ugly. its not your wedding, I wouldnt worry about it. If anyone asks, make sure that they know you didnt pick it out. lol
If she got the stupid dress from a thrift store, then i'd ask if she could wear the other one that is prettier, or just put it on her, she probably wouldnt notice if she got it from a thrift store, but if she paid good money for it, she'd notice.
IDK good luck.
2007-06-04 04:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by mannasox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, why did the other moms get to pick their dresses and not you? bring the dress you like to your sil and ask her if it would be ok to change it. if she seems uncomfortable or hurt, tell her you'd be happy to dress your baby in whatever she likes. its just a dress. your baby is beautiful no matter what.
if its that horrible, have her wear it for the ceremony and change it at the reception.
2007-06-04 04:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by twosey ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, no doubt about it. Your mom has enough to deal with on this day, dont add any stress. Who knows you may like the way you look and you may meet a cool guy at the wedding. You have to be open to change, even if its for a short while. You never know what may come out of it.
2016-05-21 01:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋