greeting question?

Question

ok.. this is the situation :

Before reading this keep in mind that my boyfriends family
does not get along with me.

I was invited to a graduation by my boyfriends parents. We met with them near the graduation hall when it was over. They didnt say hi or anything.. didnt even aknoledged that I was there,so I didnt greet them.After we left my boyfriend told me that I should have greeted them first because they were there first. But they invited me...

so who is right
I think that they should have greeted me first because they invited me.
They think that I should have greeted them first because they were there first.

the thing is that we live in Puerto Rico.... and it seems weird if we greet people we know with handshakes... that could have been a bad move

Answer 1

I think that two wrongs don't make a right, be the better person and greet them next time. Kill em with kindness that's my motto =)

Answer 2

That's a good question. Just when I think I've figured out that the answer to that question is a nice little hug regardless of how long I've known whom, I'll find that I have created an awkward moment that only starts to disappear once I'm in the taxi home. I think shaking hands is the 'safe' thing to do. If you've had a good laugh or watched an emotional movie together, a hug isn't out of the question. If you're leaving a business meeting or at the coffee shop a simple little handshake will do. If you've been drinking, all bets are off and hugs will most likely take over in any formal situation.

Answer 3

I think the problem goes deeper than the greeting. If the real problem is not solved it does not matter, there will be something else to argue about later, regardless of who was right or wrong this time. In my opinion if you have to argue about who greets who first then there should not be a greeting at all. Both parties were rude.

Answer 4

It is water under the bridge, or spilled milk for now. That day cannot be revisited, so it is useless to worry over it. If a similar situation occurs, and the parents again fail to acknowledge you, simply introduce yourself and see where it goes from there. In this case, it may be that neither of you are comfortable with greeting the other, so let it be and try not to stress over it. If you do not get along, as stated in your explanation, it may be better that you do not speak.

Answer 5

Regardless of who was there first or what, you should have greeted them. It's the polite thing to do. Be the bigger man, or woman in your case. Just because somebody else treats you wrong or looks down on you, doesn't mean you have to do the same think to them.

Answer 6

I think they could have at least acknowledged you since they invited you. Next time around I would say hello to them first and see how it goes, if they don't respond then you have a problem.

Answer 7

While it was rude of them to ignore you, it was also rude of you to ignore them. It doesn't matter who greets who first, someone just needs to step up and do the greeting. They may not like you, but you need to show them your maturity by being kind to them whenever you see them, regardless of how they act towards you.

Answer 8

always greet them no matter who gets there first. its the way it is. especially if they dont like you because if you shake theres hands and say hello everytime you meet them you will still be showing them respect and it will grow on them.

when i enter my girlfriends house i have to shake every male hand there because its a sign of respect. my gf would yell at me afterwards if i didnt because its rude. her grandfather didnt like me at first but now he does because i always shake his hand out of respect.

be curtious to those around you even if they arent towards you.

Answer 9

If they don't get along with you I don't see the point of you greeting them or they greeting you.

Answer 10

Why don't they get along with you? Is it because you cannot spell acknowledge? Or is it because you are acting like a child " No you say hello to me first!"