Everythings gone so wrong.
I know that what im going to say will seem like im the biggest cow ever but i seriously couldnt help myself.
Back in March Me and my boyfriend were going through a rocky patch and i found it easier to confide in his friend (Phil) After a few of our chats we really started to like eachother and started texting.
Hes a decent guy and didnt want to hurt my biyf so a couple of times he kept backing out and saying he didnt like me, which of course i understood why he was doing that.
One night we met up and ended up sleeping together, after that it all went down hill. I was feeling guilty and went out and got majorly drunk, i came home and spoke to him on msn and then the next day he says that he dosnt want me anymore as i have really hurt him by being obsessive, making him feel small, changing my mind etc. That was two weeks ago and even now hes saying he has no feelings for me atall now, i dont get it tho as the day before he said all that he told me he was serious about me.
Iv said to him that i dont think he could change his mind about me that quickly but he seems adiment. He talks to me when im around my boyfriend but he wont actually talk to me.
I know i hurt him but he really is who i want, could someone really change their mind about somebody they like so quickly?
2007-06-04 03:37:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. He had the sex and now he's done.
2007-06-04 03:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by Andee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In that case, you were being a cow. I doubt trying to get him back will work. You've lost him, you've treated him badly and hurt him and now he doesn't want you back, why would he?
If she broke up with you even when he could get sex from you, that truly proves you must have done something wrong. Truly.
I would apolagize for hurting him like you did. Ask to speak with him aline, just for a minute. Or send an e-mail. Tell him that you understand what a cow you've been and you can't beleive you could have done those things to him. You understand that he doesn't want you back but you have to say sorry for what you did and if you had it your way, you would do it over and still be with him.
2007-06-04 10:45:53 · answer #2 · answered by Bren J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he feels guilty about snatching his buddy's girl away and he doesn't want to have any part in it. When he tells you he has no feelings for you he is also trying to tell himself that, because he doesn't want to go through with the pain of either 1) taking you away from his friend, or (more likely?) 2) watching the two of you together from the sidelines while pining for you.
He also wants you to make up your mind--either be faithful to your bf, or ditch him and give full attention to Phil. Put yourself in his shoes and you'll find it's selfish to give your attention to him when you please, and hold back when you're scared. He doesn't know if you really want him or not.
I think you should tell your bf about the situation (but maybe omit the fact that it was HIS FRIEND you slept with, and save that for another day), and all take a breather for awhile, and THEN approach Phil again.
2007-06-04 10:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont take it wrong but try this it is the most effective one - give him a b*job that he will never forget in his life.
but u must accept my comment abt u - u r not just a cow.. there is a four letter word in English which if I use will make u feel bad but that is what u r. sorry abt that.
2007-06-04 10:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, it sounds like to me that he was just trying to act nice and everything just to sleep with you. But yes, to answer your question, someone can change their mind that fast because maybe they thought they liked you, but then they realize that they dont, and they like another person, but yeah.
2007-06-04 10:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its possible for someone to change their mind so fast, but those are the people who known what they want or it maybe that their confused and they don t to get hurt anymore. seriously just give him sometime and i m pretty sur he ll change him mind.
2007-06-04 10:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey forget that guy he is not worth he only wanted the sex
so here this just try and forget that idiot he lied to you thats what he did i believe actions speaks louder than words he is a total
loser he and your boyfriend forget them they are not worth your tears my dear,,,,,,,,,,,,go out there and you will find someone better than those two guys they have issues......
2007-06-04 10:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek mental help, seriously guys don't like nut cases.
2007-06-04 10:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by al_sparagus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u didnt respect ur relationship and jumped in bed with him perhaps he is feeling bad about this...
2007-06-04 10:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Turn your caps lock off.
2007-06-04 10:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by not applicable 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋