Am i being emotionally abused?

Question

When i try to talk to my paretns they tell me to shut up or change the subject, when i get hurt they tell me im being a baby or lieng, everything i try and do they nitpick at and tell me that its all wrong , i was physically abused before but my mom isnt with him anymore, but when i try to tlka to mom about flashbacks she tells me to shut up or changes the subject. When i ask to go to a friends house all day (noon till 8) they tell me i dont need to i need to stay here and get stuff done (even though everything is done) they wont let my friends come on the porch to talk for 5 mins because the dog is annoyin them and they dont need to be here. Am i emotionally abused?

Answer 1

Sounds like it. You should really talk to a school counselor or doctor about this. Good luck to you and stay strong.

Answer 2

You certainly sound like a person who's emotional needs are not being met. It is possible that your Mom and step-parent just don't have any idea how to deal with your needs and are ignoring them instead. Parents are people too, and, just like people, some of them are just rude! At the very least they are guilty of emotional negligence. If I were you, instead of trying to put a name to what is going on, I would find an adult such as a teacher or school counselor, Aunt, Grandparent, whomever, that will listen to you with an open mind and then try to help you learn to deal with the things that happened in your past and are going on now. You are in a very difficult situation and it is not one that you can get yourself out of by yourself. I encourage you to talk to the school counselor because you really could use some professional counseling to help you with all this, not because there is something wrong with you, but because there is something wrong with some of the adults you have been in contact with and they harmed you. You need to be able to get these events in context in your mind and put them to rest in order to grow in an emotionally healthy way. You aren't responsible for the behavior of the person who abused you or the behavior of your Mom in telling you to shut up and refusing to listen to you, that much is for sure! If the first adult you approach won't help, don't give up, keep trying. One thing is for sure, as things stand, your home-life is awful, and unfortunately, it seems to be left up to you to find an adult who can change that.

Answer 3

hai ur mom or dad doesnt wanna talk to u about any subject means they r neither comfortable nor secure .may be they just simply dont know how to deal with that particular situation.if u think they r abusing u ,u deednt get abused and remember one thing u can always be good even if the other person is not .so ,calmly explain to them that u can take care of ur self and show they that all ur friends are responsible and dependeble.at the end of the day its how u carry off urself .slowly they ll come to realize that u can be safe ur own .if u think its gonna take too long just talk to them calmly and logically.

Answer 4

Sounds like mom is uncomfortable talking about the past, and I think that is understandable, unfortunately she does a real disservice to you and herself by avoiding the issues. That doesn't constitute abuse, it's just neglectful. I suggest you would do well to see a school counsellor, or a minister, or someone that can intervene with you and your mom. At the very least it would give you someone to work out your own issues with.

Answer 5

I think you probably are based on what you say. Particularly about the flashbacks. Can you talk to a counselor at school or church or contact an agency near to you? I know first hand about some of this and my heart is with you. Good luck.

Answer 6

Your situation sounds most stressful, and must be causing you great doubts about your goodness. It can be a challenge, but since most of emotional abuse is what we do with what we see, hear, and feel, it sounds like you are on the right track to seek support. It means that at least YOU think you are better and more worthy than you are being treated.

It is hard to forgive "adult" parents, who may be responding to their own 'life stresses'.

Please seek a professional who can help you grow through this most uncomfortable situation

Answer 7

It is hard to say for sure, that is the frustrating thing about emotional abuse. There are no physical bruises, but the pain is just as great if not worse. Based on what you are saying, it sounds like it. Try to talk to someone you trust. XOXO

Answer 8

Of course you are. These people don't deserve to be parents. I think you should visit a psychologist in order to get over it. Do what you want girl. Don't let her judje you. If you keep listening to her you'll end up alone with no friends, full af anger and hate.

Answer 9

You should talk to a counseller. What your mum is doing is out of order. maybe she knows what kind of man her last man was and it hurts her to hear it from you? just try and get along with her and if it doesnt work out then leave it. when you're upset just talk to your friends. or maybe if you have a kind neigbour talk to them. teachers can help too. pick out your favourite one and kindly ask for some sessions with them. hope that helps
good luck xx

Answer 10

Some times parents themselves do feel insecure or their expectations from destiny do fall flat and they have no one else except children to vent their frustrations. But this is a wrong concoction. Parents must love their children. You are at no fault but your parents must learn to deal with you. IF you are at fault then they should scold you but whenever you do a good thing they should encourage you and shower you with love... God help them...