i am dating this girl who has had a fair few boyfriends in the past.
i really really like her and she really likes me, but i am frigid because this is my first real relationship.
the furthest she has gone is snogging in past relationships
i can kinda do that but we want to go a little further but its like a have a barier that stops me (frigid) :-( and i just don't know what to do to overcome frigidness
2007-06-04 03:28:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're definitely not frigid. I must be the twentieth person to tell you that so believe it ! :) You're just young and not yet ready to have sex. You know something - what you've described happens to older people too but i think they're better able to handle it then. Please give yourself time (like a few more years) and don't let yourself feel pressurized into doing what you're not ready for. You will be able to overcome this so called 'frigidness'. Good luck.
2007-06-04 04:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by reeaita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'fridgidness' is a horrible term- you're not frigid, you're just nervous and very young! I lost my virginity when I was in a relationship when I was 14 (he was too), and looking back I believe that I was too young. I wasnt confident enough to say what felt bad and what felt good, and as a consequence, the sex was rubbish for years and years. If you are just kissing at the moment, and you are happy with that, then keep it that way- theres no reason to go any further. Obviously, you're a young man so you're going to be thinking about going further, but if you wait it will be loads and loads better! I hope she isnt making you feel under pressure about it- if she isnt then thats proof that you are both happy with the way it is, and it will naturally progress when you are (hopefully) quite a bit older!!
2007-06-04 10:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by Biznitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ''frigidness'' may just be telling you that you're not ready to go further. And at your age, I don't see why you would want to go any further than kissing.
You don't have a problem. You're just not ready. So just take it easy. Taking the next step can wait until you're much older and have more experience with life. Don't force yourself.
2007-06-04 10:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by Maria Brightly Burning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait. your body is telling you that you're not ready. be patient. when you're ready, the tension will be gone and everything will feel easy. tell her you just want to spend time with her and not think about sex for a while. if you can go out together and just have fun spending time together and still think of things to say to eachother without talking about sex, chances are you guys are a good match and it will come naturally. if you can't figure out what to say or do with eachother without sex, then you really aren't good for eachother
2007-06-04 10:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by twosey ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone else already said what I was going to put & I hate getting the same answer twenty times, so I'll spare you.
but I wanted you to know that I love that you used "snogging". hahaha. ( :
2007-06-04 10:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by mandasaurus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are still young to be getting into relationship. You must grow up first and you will see things will be a lot more easier.
2007-06-04 10:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by Maphondo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not frigid. You're just shy.
If you're 14, then you really aren't ready.
2007-06-04 10:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you are not ready to go further. Don't force it, just wait until you are ready.
2007-06-04 10:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Andee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only 14, dont force anything it will happen when it happens. Trying to force it will only make things worse.
2007-06-04 10:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by billiecep2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're only 14 . this could be why you won't let yourself go any further . just wait until you feel comfortable . . and older .
2007-06-04 10:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by Chante Alexis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋