In most relationships its the blokes who allways end up paying for everything you do as a couple. This may include dinner outings going to the cinema or anything you enjoy doing as a couple. I believe that after a while in a relationship the female should pay for a few things as well. What do you all think.
2007-06-04 02:14:58 · 31 answers · asked by silk101 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe in going dutch
2007-06-04 02:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
YES YES YES... If she has the means to pay for a dinner here and there, she should want to treat you if you are being good to her...or buy concert tickets or what ever! If you have chosen to date a woman who is financially limited however, if shes a single mom and cant afford things, she can always make meals at home for you or do other things to show that she cares about you and appreciates the things you do for her. If you feel like you are getting the short end of the stick, its time to re-evaluate if you really want to date this person
2007-06-08 00:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by taco_mel_1964 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be wary of a guy that is pushing for me to pay for dates.
If you're in the early stages of dating, then it is customarily the gentleman that pays. That's just how it goes.
If you've been going out for quite some time, and you're still paying every single time, then that could be questionable, but not necessarily. IF you make a lot more money than she does then of course you should continue to pay. If you guys earn about the same then she should contribute now and then.
My husband would be MORTIFIED if I pulled out my wallet to pay after we had dinner. Don't you notice that the wait staff places the check on the man's side of the table? Of course our money comes from the same account, but still.
It is a man's role to take care of a woman. Its that simple. Some day you'll find a girl that you really want to take care of, and it won't matter to you that you're paying. Once you're married, you'll have to provide everything for her anyway, especially if she stays home to care for the little ones.
2007-06-04 02:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think its bad if a woman wnats to treat the man. I mean after all a woman who is capable shouldn't feel they dont have to. Women are equal now in many countries and it's not bad manners for a woman to treat.
However if the guy starts to expect this, it's time to move on. In a time where many women have better paying jobs than the men they date or marry its very modern to be able to treat the man you like to a dinner or something once in a while.
2007-06-04 02:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a girl I will always offer to pay but 9/10 the guy will refuse and pay anyway! I was talking about this with one of my male friends a few years ago and he said that he didn't necessarily want her to pay but he would respect her a lot more if she showed willing to pay. I also think it depends on who asked who out on the date. If a guy says to a girl "Let me take you out" then it creates the impression that he will actually be paying for it all and vice versa!
2007-06-04 02:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by kat l 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also contribute financially to the relationship. Not 50-50, but a great deal.
It's not a matter of romance, or the man "allowing" me to pay. It's simply common courtesy. When we go out on a date, he pays 95% of the time. In exchange, I make delicious home cooked meals for him that he would otherwise not have. He's used to microwave food! LOL
And then a few times, I insist on treating.
2007-06-04 02:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
absolutely. womens emotions differ from mens, so when a guy pays in the beginning we feel all touched and what not and find you generous for offering to pay for us. it shows you dont mind spending your money on us. if the relationship goes a long way though and you're the only one shellin out money, she's a gold digger, say bye bye or she'll clean you out. also there's nothing wrong with going dutch every now and then.
2007-06-04 02:19:08 · answer #7 · answered by mandersmo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going dutch is horrible. I can do this with my girlfriends!
Ladies like to feel like they are being treated like ladies and men like to feel appreciated. This is where "courting" comes from. I think it's important for the man to take care of things on the date and let the lady relax. After dating has been established and a commitment formed, the woman could offer to pick up small things like: the cab fare, coffee or a tip.
After marriage, of course, everything is pooled
Its not really about the money, its about men being men and women being women. Im not suggesting that the woman EXPECT things...this would be unappreciative and abnoxious. She should always say thank you and he should be happy to do it.
Roles are being lost these days and romance is being thrown out the window.
Personally, I dont know any men that would allow their date to pay for anything
2007-06-04 02:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by selery222 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree.
I believe it should be half and half.
When either one wishes to pay for it all then they may do so.
But it should be equal in relationships.
The men can't be expected to pay for everything just because they're men.
Woman work too nowadays, so its only fair.
[On a personal note I get embarrassed when someone pays for me so insist on at least paying half. Damn my pride.]
2007-06-04 02:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by monkey with a crayon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally i like to pay my own way when i go out with a guy.
In the beginning its okay for him to pay for most outings but once things get comfortable and settled i like to pay for myself and him as well.
Im not a fan of the old fashioned way of dating, where the guy pays for everything, i like to be independant and i feel paying for the outing displays that.
Why should the man do all the payin? in my opinion its time for women to join in and share the cost! its the 21st century!
2007-06-04 03:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by MissyKGodsAngel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a couple no. His lordship wont let me.So I have to have an imagination,and arrange things with out him knowing, like tickets to some car racing thing. Then a pick nick after he dose like it though. I'm a romantic and like doing things like that for him.haven't a clue about the car thing though.haha.He asks me if I'm having fun.O YEA.
BUT HE'S WORTH IT.
2007-06-04 02:28:44 · answer #11 · answered by "!" 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋