I am not sure but I think my fiancee is cheating on me.He never calls anymore,lies to me all the time,and never shows up when he is suppost too.I recently found out that he has been hanging out with a few girls down at his friends house but didnt want to tell me.Lied about where he was and who was with him.The girl seems to kinda like him.I met her and all she did was talk to my fiancee and hit on him in front of me. Am I just jealous or could there be something going on? He hasnt acted like this since we were kids.
Thanks
2007-06-04 01:04:46 · 31 answers · asked by mama_mandy05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey my name is Rukiya am realy sad to hear that but let me tell you something what my mother told me. "You can never change a man and STOP MAKING EXCUSES for him. He doesnt appreciate you why waste your time. Cause my dear Time wasted never recoverd (Time waits for NO ONE). It will take time to get over him but is for the best. I believe there is someone out there for you who is going to make you the most happy woman in the world. I just want you to remember this.... NEVER CRY FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP IN YOUR LIFE BECAUSE FOR THE ONE WHOM YOU CRY DOES NOT DESERVE YOUR TEARS AND THE ONE WHO DESERVES YOUR TEARS WILL NEVER LET YOU CRY.
2007-06-04 01:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by rukiya m 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So miss, how did you know that he was/is cheating? You know(I hope you do), sometimes we overreact on something or someone because we care for that person.
You stated that he is your fiancee, then by this time, you should have been planning for your wedding. I have the best and the worst suggestion that you may do, that will either make or break your relationship. Talk to him upfront. Ask him what is happening to him,to your relationship and/or to your life. Ask everything you want to know. But be strong to face his answers , whatever may the outcome be.
If both of your love is strong enough to withstand this test, then you are really for each other.
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Sorry but I'm sad because I answer things like this. Good relationships going to not so good relationships.
But nonetheless, smile for you are still alive and your realtionship has lasted for this long(based from what you have said, from your childhood)." Expect the worst, but hope for the best", a saying I learned from a person.
2007-06-04 01:29:36 · answer #2 · answered by JD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds to me like he is getting tired of you. I have no idea about him cheating. My guess is as good as yours. The best way to find out is ask. If you are not satisfied with the answer, then forget him. I wouldn't put up with his lies. You shouldn't have to. He is suppose to be a mature adult so if he can't tell you something that makes sense, something is not right. I most certainly would let him know that until he get's his act together, there won't be any marriage. If he don't care about that, then let him go. Sounds like he is in his "little boy" mode. He's not through playin. At least you don't have to spend the rest of your life with the "JERK".
2007-06-04 01:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the fact that he lied means a lot. That gives you all the reason to not trust him and he dug himself into his own hole on that one. I would say confront him about it since you have every reason to. If he still lies i would talk directly to the girl or to a mutual friend that might know something. Dont let him tell you you're wrong for asking him about it because if you're positive he's there then you may not want to marry what he's putting you through.
Sorry! Good Luck!
2007-06-04 01:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to tell u this but something is going on! Maybe he hasnt cheated on u yet but he is definately thinking about it! All in all r u sure u want to marry a man who keeps breaking dates with u or lies to u! But the worst is the fact that he lets another girl flirt with him and hit on him infront of u! That is seriously disrespective! U need to think about what ur future with a man like this would be like!!!! But if in the end u wanna be with him then you need to confront him and either let it go or let him go!
2007-06-04 01:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Stacey-Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question about two or three times, already. That behavior is SO typical of men when they're cheating. What more proof do you really need? Follow your gut-feeling; it's a woman's best friend. Trust it. Don't listen to his lies; they'll only hurt you even more. Remember, you deserve SO much better in life. Never compromise your integrity. Good luck, sweetie...
- Jessica
- Jessica
2007-06-04 01:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to say this but, he is cheating on you....i hate to just say it so bluntly but, it's true....everything you put are most of the signs to knowing he is....he never calls; the constant lies; he never comes around anymore and if you met tha ***** already and she was hittin on him in front of you then, sorry but there definetly is something going on....you know that feeling you have in your stomach when he is not there when he supposed to be....it's called your women intuition....its true....always listen to that cause it will never steer you wrong....address the issue and see what happens? if he gets all mad about it..then he's definetly hiding guilt....i'm sayin all this from experience...all i can tell you is trust your instincts but, also follow your heart....if you are happy with him then dont get rid of him cause it will only make you miserable and give the other girl what she wants....just make sure it dont happen again by punishing him in your on way....men are like dogs...if you don't train them...they will stray.......
2007-06-04 01:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by S@D_S0UL<l3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he showers as soon as he comes home & he's smart enough to hide his underwear, then maybe he's cheating.
YOU COULD BE THE DAMN PROBLEM! It's not all about him.
*Could be a rumor or truth about U & a guy he recently found out about.
*Maybe he's been acting like this, but you thought you could get him to change once you mentioned marriage!
*Did you push him for marriage?
*Have you gained extra FAT....recently?
*You NAGGING more since you think you "got him" ?
*You keep your HYGIENE correct EVERYTIME you're in his presence (breath, underarms, puXXy, feets)?
*Do you still pay attention to his feelings and needs & especially his conversation??
Women change once they think "now i got him" and blame the man for deserting them.
Check YaSelf first.
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2007-06-04 01:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he might be cheating on you. Lieing is not a good sign. But then think again, have u done anything to cause his irrational behaviour? I suggest you talk to him and find out what he's up to. Tell him ur mind and don't jump to conclusions
2007-06-04 01:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by toizen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i just went thru something exactly like this. i would say he probably is. Telling signs are the lying about where he's at and who he's with. i would definitly be suspiciouse. start watching his actions closer. is he still intimate with u? keep an eye out for anything that looks slightly suspiouse. good luck
2007-06-04 01:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋