Me and my boyfriend had broken up but are trying to work it out . Now there is this girl who he says is his friend but I know what she is doing.How do I get her to back off with out makeing my BF mad that I did not trust him with a friend that happens to be a girl?
2007-06-04 00:51:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you two broken up in the first place? And has he done something to you to make you think he is not trustworthy? If so, why are you "trying" to work it out? There are women everywhere. If he is going to fool around, whether this "friend" is around or not, he will fool around. You will have to either learn to trust him or find someone else that you can trust.
2007-06-04 00:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but leave him alone. If you have broken up, it happened for a reason and the possiblity could be her. I wouldn't want a man who couldn't decide between me and someone else. He needs to be sure your the one. You can help him along by letting him be his own person. Don't crowd him too much. If it's meant to be he will come back. If not you are much better off finding out now than later. He will never miss you if your always there for him. Give him space to find what he wants. If he takes too long to decide, he's not serious about you. This will be clear. In the meantime don't waste tears over him. Get out of the house, see your friends, and have some fun.
2007-06-04 01:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your very situation proves me right about something I have said for years;
There is no such thing as a friend of the opposite sex, in a friendship like that one of them is hoping to turn you into something more, almost always, it is so often true, that I simply don't believe in opposite sex friendship, it is very rare when there is no sexual attraction involved.
You can't do anything about her, if you try , as you pointed out, it will only come back to bite you, only your Man can deal with this, I think that man's best female friend is his WIFE and a womans best Male friend his her HUSBAND, anything else is just a part of the Politically Correct Villiage which is a concept that is doomed to fail or destroy Civilization as we know it..
Good luck with your problem, but I think your boy friends, Girl friend is a barracuda and when you guys had difficulties, to her she smelled blood, now she is going for the kill.
2007-06-04 01:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy in a box :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women have a natural tendency to not trust a guy that has lady friends. How often do they talk/see each other would be the question ? It's not important if u trust her motives, but do u trust HIM ??? these are questions u need to ask yourself, if u dont trust him now then u never will & he is going to be with the one he wants to be with, have u discussed how it makes u feel & what was his response, was he defensive or did he say things to reassure u he only wants u ?? It's not important what she is doing but rather what he is doing LOL
2007-06-04 01:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by annie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see what i have done i mean we arent all the same but i would let her know that she better be just a damn friend or else i am goin to have to beat her a ss so she better watch herself and i told her if she tells him she got another thing coming. So see you can clear the message with him not knowing! but some other people would prob. say confront him and talk to him girl you cant do that all men are the same who cares what has been said how all men are diff. thats a lie like he would do to you he would lie like a dog girl! then you and her goin to be looking stupid. He telling her yall not together which really yall arent but are in a way but still that makes him open to do as he please so get him and tell him that yall need to get together or something becuz that friend more than likely either used to like him or the having sex just lettin you know how that goes down
2007-06-04 00:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by PreciousPeAcH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate to break it to ya but if yall are broken up then he's free to do whatever he wants and can see whoever he wants when he wants without your approval. In other words...he's not yours anymore. BUT....if yall are still talking and are trying to work things out then you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel about this girl and let him know that it's bothering you. If he gets mad for you being honest with him then he's not worth it. GOOD LUCK!
2007-06-04 00:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by Derricks Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let your ex/current know how you feel about the situation but understand that he can choose to be friends with whoever he wants. It doesn't matter what the girls intentions are. If your man wants you and not her then it will work out. Have trust that if your relationship is strong you're in no jeopardy.
2007-06-04 00:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by David B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best way is to leave the topic alone, if he thinks you are trying to push her out of the picture it will just make you look vindictive and petty, which will push him closer to her and shove you more out of the way.. things are a little rocky for you two as it is, the thing i suggest is to make the best of the time you two have together, and it will fall into place. theres a reason hes trying to work things out with YOU, not her. focus on you and him, and he will just stay friends with her.
good luck
2007-06-04 00:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by midnyghtcloud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Anything you say will go from your mouth to her ear. From her ear, and exaggerated to her mouth and to his ear. The only thing you can do is tell him you prefer he doesn't have anything to do with her anymore and why.
Don't let her use you to turn him against yourself.
2007-06-04 00:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont trust him maybe you guys should stay broken up until you fix your problems
2007-06-04 00:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋