When my second daughter was 2 months old, I fell from the top of the stairs while carrying her. She was ok, thank God! and thru force of necessity I got thru it... but now, almost 5 years later... I was babysitting for a friend, and tried to take the baby downstairs... but I froze in panic! No matter what I could *not* go down the stairs with the baby in my arms! Not really a big deal there... I had everything I needed for the baby upstairs, but...
I'm pregnant with my third, and there is going to come a time where I am going to *have* to traverse the stairs while carrying my baby... what can I do to get over this fear?
I only panic on stairs if I'm holding a baby...
2007-06-04 00:19:45 · 11 answers · asked by MotherBear1975 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First, find a supportive listener who will not belittle your fear. This person could be your spouse, a pastor, a close friend, or a counselor/therapist.
It will take some time to get over your fear; take the time you need and do not rush things.
When getting over fears caused by trauma, it is often helpful to begin by talking about the experience that caused the fear, and what your feelings and reactions were at that time.
Then, when you are ready, try taking a baby down just one or two stairs rather than the entire flight, and have someone there with you for support and encouragement.
Gradually, over time, slowly increase the number of stairs to three or four, and so forth, until you are at the landing, or the top of the first flight. Again, have someone with you who is supportive.
Do not be too hard on yourself. You will find that there are days when even a small number of stairs may be too much for you; this is okay. Everyone has days when things are rough.
Praise your successes! No matter how small they may seem, for you, the trip down even one or two stairs carrying a child is a big success, so give yourself the credit you deserve with a reward like a special dessert, or something you really enjoy for a treat.
Congratulations on your third child, and best of luck to you!
2007-06-04 00:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by mysterycat 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
MY 4 year old Lab won't come up all the stairs. He will get all the way up and have 1 or 2 to go, but goes back downstairs. This is recent. He isn't hurt. I have tried putting food and treats on the stairs. I have noticed that once in a while he will come up.. But this is stressful for all if us. The stairs are carpeted.. I thought it had to do with the crazy weather.. all the snow, etc . Please help. He is a sweetie.
2016-05-20 23:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, stange link here. We had a new dog who was 4 years old and had been kept in a kennel outside and had never seen stairs in her life. She was terrified of them.
A couple of times a day, we would carry her up one stair and then call her down with a biscuit treat. Then we would progress to two stairs and so on. Eventually the dog was able to go up and downstairs quite happily.
So how about walking up one stair and having someone pass you the baby, you then walk down the one stair. Once you feel comfortable with doing this, progress to the second stair.
2007-06-04 00:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not to sure if this would work but you could try and maybe start at the bottom of the stairs holding a baby with some one you trust behind you and just take it one step at a time and if you freeze just stop take a break and try again like i said i don't no if this will work but you could try. i used to have panic attacks when i got in to cars with my baby after an accident but i took it slow and now I'm fine.
good luck.
2007-06-04 00:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by jess_1706 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try carrying a child down the stairs when there is someone with you. You'll have to get over this so having someone there for support is the best way to do it. Make up your mind to do it, then go for it!!
2007-06-04 02:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by Little Missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try using a doll to start out with. Kind of like practice.. Walk up and down the stairs several times with the doll, close your eyes and think to yourself that you are holding your daughter or new born. .
Tell yourself. " I am incontrol of my fear. " "I am the one that says what I am afraid of" "I will not be afraid of the stairs". "I have control over the stairs"/
Maybe the doll idea is weird but do what ever works.
Good Luck.
2007-06-04 00:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's the memory of that trauma, etched in your mind somewhere, that manifests as fear now: you can delete that memory, get rid of it totally, and along with it the fear of stairs as well! There are simple NLP techniques, there are meditation techniques and auto-suggestion methods to do that! Try some , with guidance! good luck!
2007-06-04 00:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
gosh this is unusual you coul try practising with a doll it might help or you couldget a little strap thing to put baby in when you go up and down. alot of people belivein hypnotising to get rid of fears.
sorry i cant help any more its quite a hard topic
goodluck and congratulations on baby
2007-06-04 00:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
DEAR MISS
MY BROTHER HAD A 2 STORY HOUSE AND I HAD THE
SAME PROBLEM AS YOU BUT I DID NOT HAVE A CHILD
IN MY ARMS JUST A CLEANING BUCKET MOP BROOM
THIS LIKE THIS AND FELL FROM TOP TO THE BOTTOM
BUT IT CURVED 3 TIMES IT HAD 42 STEPS I COUNTED
THEM AS I FELL DOWN THEM OK
TAKE CARE
2007-06-04 01:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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This will help you
2007-06-04 20:36:10 · answer #10 · answered by ravneet a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋