I'm writing this to get opinions. My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. When I send her texts or emails saying " love you babe" I usually get no response or I'll get a thank you for a response. It seems like I have to catch her in the right good mood to get the love you too response. I guess my question would be, if she isn't comfortable saying I love you after being with me for a year and a half, will she ever be? I don't want to let her go but I would like to know that the woman I love, loves me as well.
2007-06-03 23:45:56 · 18 answers · asked by Chris C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to admit i dont say those things to my girlfreid when she says it to me, in all honesty it does not mean that i doesnt.
1 problem you may have is saying it all the time because my girlfriend says it all the time to me, and sometimes its really hard to express it in public if she is like this then you should be able to relate to this anwser easier
At the end of the day she has been with you for a year and a half. If she did not have strong feelings towards you then she would not have been with you for that long. Stop getting worked up about it acknolowlade the fact that she has said it before. It might mean that when she does say it, its more special. That might be from her appoinion.
Love is not love with out it being 2 ways. If you feel the way you do and she has said it a few times (even tho she does not say it as much as you like or want) it probably means there is love in the relationship.
I think maybe you could be alittle pretective of this relationship or insecure. i bet your the first one to back down from arguments and your the one usually making it up after one. You say that you want to split up with her but i bet deep down you would have no intention of doing it. last bit of advice say it less often show her in other ways like flowers and chocolate, i dont know where you are in the world but if you broke over here you can just buy flowers for about £2- £2.50 (or if you have the money you can get bigger ones) try doing something like that.
Just think how impersonal is a text message is. it may cheer you up getting one from her because its special when she does as she does not get one all the time. But if shes getting them all the time does this lose its meaning abit? like i said before flowers are one way of saying i love you with out saying it. Just watch her smile as she gets them. Women love flowers, i have not met one that does not, especially when its for the reason just becuase. This would be more affetive than 10 or even 20 text messages saying i love you.
Hope this helps.
2007-06-04 00:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whilst it's comforting to know someone loves you, you cannot expect them to say it just because it makes you feel better.
Some people find it very difficult to open up as much to say something like that. Maybe she is just too shy and expresses love in other ways?
When you are with her, does she show kindness, support and affection? If so then it might be the case that she just shows love in a more physical than verbal way.
However, if you think something might genuinly be wrong and have doubts about your relationship then confront her about it. But do so kindly in a way that doesn't make her feel "trapped" or forced to give a certain answer.
If you are happy together then just give her time :)
2007-06-04 06:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend did the same thing! He never told me "i love you" because he thought that words like theese are not as important as facts. Still i neede a feedback so had to talk to him about this matter. I simply told him that i need him to show his feelings to me and i tryed to explain him that psychologycally speaking it is not healthy not to express what you feel because when you say "i love you" the parteners create some kind of a backup for the bad times. It seems that our brain gets more powerfull when it hears these kind of things. Talk to her as if you were sure she loves you and tell her that you need her. But don't forget that you can't make someone do something they don't want. If everything else goes on ok than stop warrying about her feelings. Maybe she needs proofs...
2007-06-04 08:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by tigrusor_pufos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be a very busy person. If she expresses her love for you when you are together, and you know in your heart that she loves you, why worry about such things as what she says or doesn't say in her tests or emails? Most of all, talk to her about your feelings, be honest, and listen with an "open heart" what she tells you. If she has demonstrated her love for you when you are with her, you are a very fortunate person.
2007-06-04 06:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by SgtRock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really know what u mean, i have just fought with my bf for the same reason. but its vice versa for us.
he never replies back to me!! idiot
anyway- i think thats they behave like that because they are brought up like that- u knw- like "extremely" nice family. i dont know abt ur gf but my stupid man, he is shy- yes- he is shy. he says he doesnt like to say it often. also he said if u keep on saying i love u, i love u- the words lose its meaning. so he would rather not say "nice" things to me everytime than saying all the time and not meaning anything at all.
i hope u understand what i mean.
oh also he loves me a hell alot.
so u should never assume that she doesnt love u thats why she never replies back to u.
also- sometimes its not only the i love u bit- that says it all there are other signs as well. look out for them.
i know how u feel at times- unloved- but thats not true. im sure she loves u alot.
cheer up lover boy.
2007-06-04 07:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
opinion? I'm like your girlfriend, I am married for 2yrs now. I'm not a verbal person. I don't know about your girlfriend but for me saying I Love You is just saying I love you. If you always tells that to her every time it may seems that its just like a habit and hold no value. Its best to say I love you through actions. Say I love you on appropriate times like anniversaries or birthdays so she can appreciate it more.
2007-06-04 06:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by potpot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I don't know what to tell you on this one. Sometimes women are like that. Talk to her about it and ask her if it makes her uncomfortable. And if it does, then she may not really love you yet. Notice the yet. Give her a little time and she may get more comfortable with the idea. Women can be indecisive and not ready to commit. (lol, and they say GUYS don't like to commit).
Rynthas
2007-06-04 06:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rynthas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people wont say what they dont mean or maybe she does love you but didnt experience much love as a child and doesn't really fell comfortable saying it so I dont really know what to say to you other than...Drop her like a bad habit dude.
2007-06-04 06:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has it been that way all along, or just recently. If it is just recently, I would be worried that she may not be feeling the same way. If she has always been somewhat distant, I would not worry too much about it.
If you are really feeling insecure about it, just talk to her. Find out what she is feeling. She may just be very busy. Some people don't like people to be clingy.
2007-06-04 06:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well don't leave her try a different approach with her ( a text message is not the best way to say I love you)its special
so don't ware it out than it becomes a normal thing for you to do.......
say it like you mean it say it and express it right then you'll see
good luck!
2007-06-04 06:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by little_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋