question for spankers i need quick answers please?

Question

i need advice quick.

my wife and i spank are kids for most bad behaviour.

my 3yr old daughter-gracie has just told me that kelsey-4 has sworn and thrown a toy at gracie's head. i asked kelsey about this and for ages she said no i didnt shes lying and in the end she has just said i did it. i have sent her up to he spear room and told her she will be spanked.

she has

lied
said a swear word
and been violent

if she lyed she would recive 2 swats on the butt
throwing things at people is 2 swatts on the bear butt
and swearing is 4-(4yrsold) hard swatts over my knee with a bear butt.

how shall i spank her no antispankers please i need answers quick thanks

just to add when i say hard not hard enough to leave a mark

yes she noes the rules and no we do not swear it was somthing my oldest picked up last year at school but they no it is wrong and it is not often at all we here these words

Answer 1

You are a parent that is out of control. Spanking isn't working for you. Proof right in your answer.
Kelsey has learned to lie to avoid getting a spanking. That is what kids do. They don't learn what is right and good when they get hit, all they care about is avoiding the spank. Kids will do anything to avoid it. What does that teach them?? Think about it??
Don't spank!!

Answer 2

I have 3 kids and i am a believer in a firm *** whoopin' when it will make a difference. Meaning; if you spank your daughter 2 times for lying...do you expect her to never lie again? Chances are you will have to continue to spank her and will the spankings increase from 2 to 5 will they eventually get harder?
Do you see what I am saying? Because you will create a need in your daughter to lie to avoid getting hit.
My oldest son once went after my youngest in a fit of rage. My oldest 'got it' and he has not hurt my youngest since. So in that case the punishment has prevented a repeat offense.
Saying a swear word is not worth a spank or two. This is where you teach your daughter what is not allowed by children.
Do you know that taking priviledges away is more hurtful to a child than swatts. At least w/ a swatt the punishment is over.
Also talking...explaining is very effective. Again I am a single mom with 3 kids 11. 9 and 2.
And they are turning out to be very thoughful...pretty well behaved kids.

Answer 3

I think a swift 3 spanks on her underpants would be good with a paddle or your hand. and the 4 yr old should get 4 swats.

Answer 4

well, i have never been spanked but i would giver her all of it, she earned it. But does she know the spanking rules? If not you might want to ease up and go over the rules this time. Also with the swearing issue, where does she get it? Is it in the house hold? If it is then why do you expect a 4 year old not to swear

Answer 5

I need to first ask, Why are your children cursing? They had to have learned it somewhere. Of course they are going to lie about their actions...they know they will get a spanking.

I see spanking as a tool in your Parenting Toolbox, but it isn't the only tool. If you repeatedly spank with no change in behavior then they aren't getting it. You are going to have to use another tool.

Discipline vs. Punishment. Punishment teaches nothing and isn't related with the behavior, nothing is learned. Discipline however, is a teaching tool. It is associated with the behavior and teaches there are consequences associated with unacceptable behaviors. If your child is throwing toys...then maybe the toys need a time-out. Talking (calmly) to the thrower of the object about how it hurts to be hit will teach empathy and respect for others.

Understanding Preschoolers: With children this small they have a limited vocabulary. They want what they want and if they don't have the words to express themselves they will use their hands/fists. As a parent, teach them emotion words then use I statements, Please, I don't like it when: you hit me, you cuss at me, you are mean to me. The more they are able to talk things out between themselves the less you will need to intervene with discipline actions.

Answer 6

jhon just go to the room and give her 6 spanks on her bere bottem over your knee ask her why she is getting it tell her she will get 6 smacks and do it and leave her there untill she says sorry to gracie. Kelsey will be up there thinking about what shes done she will forgt if you dont hurry lol.

i will be home in 1hour any way so try and make it a happy atmosphere i have had a bad day as it is love youx

Answer 7

well considering normally this would add up to 6 swatts put her over your knee with her knickers down and spank her 6 times. What she has done is very naughtey and i think she is proberly fully awear of this.you have donea good job sending her to a boring room to wait for her spanking as she will be thinking about what is going to happen.

what i would suggest is go up calmly to the room say you have been very naughtey pull down her pants and and sit her on your knee ask her why she is getting a spanking and make sure she noes tell her how many spanks she is going to get. do the spanking pull her pants up and tell her to stay in the room untill she is ready to apolagise o her sister for hurting her and to you for lying

Answer 8

Well spank away, but because she did eventually tell the truth, I would cut it in half and swat her 3 times with her pants up. If you don't somehow reward her for telling the truth, she will never tell you the truth again. Email me and let me knoww what you decide. I would like to know.

Answer 9

I am more a believer of time out, exactly what you did in the spare room. No toys no nothing. Or even make her sit in the corner while she watches you play with the other good girl. Keep praising the good girl and giving her cuddles and kisses. This should make the naughty girl jealous and learn her ways aren't rewarded with attention. Good luck, kids are very hard work!!

Answer 10

I would just say thank you for telling the truth. I do spank but I try to emphasize honesty more than the punishment. I would tell her that the next time she is mean to her sister she will be spanked, honest or not. I would tell your younger daughter not to tattle about the swearing part.