The other night my guy and I had seperate nights out with mates. Next morning I asked how his night went and he "eventually" told me he and one mate had went back to a house with 2 females for coffee and a chat. He didnt volunteer this info in fact he lied about being there in first place. He swears nothing happened - and that he should never have went in first place should i believe him or tell him where to go.
2007-06-03 23:20:56 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give the guy a break, u want your nights out and that's what happens.
2007-06-03 23:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
hello if he did something which meant something to him he would tell you and you could move on if he is secretive he is a little afraid of your reaction you both went out he has to trust you as well so i would put this down to a one off and if you really have feelings for each other let it go he was honest about going to the flat with two females he lied in the first place because it was a horrible subject what you have to ask yourself is can you go on with him in doubts and will he do this again if he goes out can you trust him if the answer is no say you need a break if the answer is ill give him a chance do just that
2007-06-03 23:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are just going to have to trust what he says even if he wasnt honest to begin with. He may have felt a bit guilty that it seems sus, but I think if he was being sus he would go to bigger lengths to cover it up, the fact that he told you the truth in the end is a good sign, also the fact that he says that feels he should never have gone in the first place is also a good sign!
Take care
2007-06-03 23:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well coming from my point of view since im a guy. When i had my girlfriend we would do the same thing like you to have done. My friends would drag me to other place were i didnt want to go and when i would go home i wouldnt tell my better half what i did due to she would think i did something wrong. He did nothing wrong because his friends drag him with them and he know that if he would have told you that you would be thinking the wrong way just belive him and trust him that what a relationship is all about
2007-06-03 23:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by george_rodriguez93033 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See Angel1 beleiving him totally depends on how much you both love each other.May he is true or may be he's telling a lie in fear of losing you.Even after a long term of companionship you cant trust anybody .It's only if you the guy really matters you a lot stop thinking against him.
Just think before you take any decision You should not repent for the decision in future.
2007-06-03 23:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by VISH3 K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just talk to him and ask him, the thing with relationships is that you have to be honest with your feelings and so does he.
If he really is side-tracking the issue here, then there is a red flag alert!
The thing that I have learned in my fifteen years of marriage is to be honest and communicate with your mate! Do not keep all your emotions and thoughts and questions to yourself.
If someone tells you something about your loved one, and you do not believe it, then go to the source.
A relationship should be based on trust, love and communication and understanding about eachother.
If you do not have all of these things, then you have nothing.
2007-06-03 23:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
express to him how important it is to be able to trust each other. He definitely ahs broken that trust by lying to you.
Even if he didn't cheat on you, it'll be challenging for you to fel at ease, right?
Unless you can talk this out and you'll feel satisfied with it, just cut him lose. If he agrees that it was a mistake and hhhe won't do it again you might consider giving him a second chance. BUt set some boundaries and find out what each of you define as cheating.
2007-06-03 23:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Milly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you expect honesty in a relationship. Tell him that if he is not ready to settle down to one person, it is best to end the relationship. Tell him that one of the major ingredients in love is trust, and if you can't trust him, then how can you love him? Ask him how he would have felt if you had done that to him. Make sure he knows that this is his one and only chance, and that if it ever happens again, the relationship is over.
2007-06-03 23:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You realy need to know the truth before ending a realationship, If he volenteered the info so quickly then its likly that nothing (or very little) happened. He may not of told you straight away because he knew how it would sound.
2007-06-03 23:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by ben_m_g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out if anything happened 1st. It may of been totally Innocent.I know though my wife would kill me if i went back to a girls house for "coffee". So he prob lied to save himself some grief. Sit him down & ask him straight, look into his eyes when he answers & you'll know if he's lieing.
2007-06-03 23:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he1s lied and cheated once chances are it will happen again and if you forgive this one he will think your`e a pushover. You also will have a problem trusting him which is one of the most important things in any relationship. Move on and find someone who will treat you better andwith more respect
2007-06-03 23:25:06 · answer #11 · answered by McCanns are guilty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋