My ex and I split up just over two weeks ago and I'm meeting him tonight. I miss him terribly and my feeling is that he got frightened of where we were going as we were very close (the usual man commitment thing). I want to play it cool but also express how I feel about him (ultimatley I want him back). Any suggestions?
2007-06-03 23:12:52 · 15 answers · asked by ally 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're reading too much into it and might have gotten clingy. I'm sorry, to put it so blatantly, but it's the case. Sometimes, couples need space, and if he's not ready for a commitment, you should honour and respect that.
The worst thing that you can do in a relationship is try to control and take charge of a situation, because that means that you're just loading the responsibility of the whole relationship on yourself and that adds immense pressure to you.
The best advice, and also the most cliched and overused (but for good reason) is to be truthful to each other and have a respect for the others wishes. Let him know exactly how you feel and where you stand in the relationship,, your goals, dreams and admirations for your relationship. If he doesn't share those aspirations, then, unfortunately, there's nothing you can do to change that.
What you need to realise is that you don't owe anything to the time you've been together. What you need to do is see things for what they are, and if you guys weren't meant for each other, then you need to honor that and move on to a guy that is compatible with YOU..You can't change anybody.
Good Luck.
I know that it's not easy, but stop playing games...THIS IS YOUR LIFE...If you're not truthful and honest, than you're just fooling yourself. Be honest, tell him exactly how you feel...there's no point in beating around the bush.
Hope that helps.
Once again, Good Luck!!
2007-06-03 23:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by rame_dean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who orchestrated this meeting.
If it was him, just listen to what he has to say. He wouldn't have contacted you if he didn't have some thoughts he needs to share with you.
If it was you, well, I don't know. Just let him know that you miss being with him and wanted to spend some time just chatting, nothing heavy if he doesn't want to do that. When the conversation rolls around to why you two split up, ask him how he feels about it now that some time has passed. Maybe he's had some time to discover how he's really feeling.
Best of luck!
2007-06-03 23:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by 1M9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 21:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your ex for a reason. A very good reason. Now it's been two weeks, and you're desperate enough to basically say to him: "I agree to your terms, you don't have to commit to me, just have me back." Don't do it. He will know that you are needy and will take full advantage of you, while never giving anything back. You did the right thing when you walked away. Now keep walking. Don't meet him for drinks. Don't even speak to him. Find someone new.
2007-06-03 23:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want to be your e-mail friend what is your name?
your meeting with your ex should be easy by following this instructions :
1 - smile all the time
2 - dont talk too much
3 - NEVER annoy him
4 - get nice clothes
5 - have a nice bath and put perfume
this are some of my advice , have anice meeting
2007-06-03 23:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by the winner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No such thing as usual man commitment thing. He either wants you or he doesn't if anything its a case of to immature so maybe you want to move on and find a real man or you will be complaining like all the women in the marriage category.
2007-06-03 23:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play or act.
Just do the bursting-out-into-tears while he glances at his watch.
It sounds like you're going to be there for your benefit, to allow you to tell him (once more) how you feel.
It will accomplish nothing, in the sense that you will still be sad and the relationship will still be over.
Better hold that talk with a good girlfriend and a bottle of wine.
Sorry, can't (and won't) make it sound any better than it is.
2007-06-04 00:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you have been together. If it has not be more than a year, you are rushing things. If you have been together for awhile, hold out for the commitment. I waited 12 years and ended up having to leave. He took the best years of my life.
2007-06-03 23:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two weeks is not a long time ago, so it is obvouis that you would miss him. Just be honest with him and tell him the truth about how you feel. Good Luck for tonigth
2007-06-03 23:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly...be yourself! Don't try and play it like you're over him, moved on or whatever cause the truth is you're not over it and want him back. Perhaps he feels the same way?
Whatever you do, have fun, talk about whatever but try not to focuss it to much on your relationship cause it might annoy him or end up in dissapointment.
2007-06-03 23:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by Yellow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋