I have a son with Aspergers syndrome?

Question

My son has Aspergers and when he has a bad day everything I say or do he wants the opposite.
eg. (i say) Would you like to read a book with me
(he Says) yes
(then) no!(screaming) I DONT WANT TO READ A BOOK
(so i say) ok then lets do something else
but the whole thing starts again. I have tried giving him time out. I have tried making the descision for him .I have tried not giving him options. I have tried telling him I will not acknowledge him until he talks to me nicely and tells me what he wants. (obviously I dont use all these strategies at once as he would get really confused) !!! thankfully these episode are not often but when they happen they can go on all day and it is extremely stressful and soul destroying. I love him so much. but cannot help him with this situation. Anyone have similar problems and any ideas.?

Answer 1

Why dont you ask him what he want to do and just leave him alone for sometime. Then start doing the things he like best like maybe colouring in front of him and let him watch and do all the wrong things like colour the apple purple, he will tell you that its wrong then ask him whats right and then correct it. Ask him only once if he would like to colour it red if he says no carry on colouring and just likely ask him oh i dont have green colour so what colour do i do the grapes - hope fully this would help. Children are very cleaver and dont be pushy he will soon know that you are doing this to involve him so dont be too obvious. You can sit in a differet room too and let him come searching for you. Good luck and dont loose it, you r a mum now.

Answer 2

My daughter has the same thing. You don't say how old your son is, so could it be that some of the things you are talking about are simply reactions to his age? You need to find out what is normal for his age group so that you aren't expecting him to do something that isn't probably consistent. With any child you need to remember you are the one in control, and its your responsibility to rise above the situation. Ignoring a child is simply punishing him because you are frustrated.

These kids don't get the normal social clues the rest of us do. If you are still reading books with him, it sounds like you are dealing with a younger child and perhaps expecting the wrong kind of behavior. Talk to your pediatrician and get some resources about Asperger so you know whats relative to his age and what is relative to the Aspergers.

Answer 3

my nephew has aspergers, and since it is a form of slight autism remember to lower your self to his level and look at him as your doing this. Also remember that a lot of those sympotms or "problems" he really has no control over. my nephew needs a lot of one on one which may be another thing to do. also my sister in law does alot of activities with him if hes good, a reward system could be set up. He earns so many points a day for doing things "good" than if he does something "bad" points are taken away, my nehpew learned how to control his out burst sometimes others arent controllable. also when you see him escelating up work on it to bring it back down so he cant even at out for the points than after every week (my sister now since summer is here does it every 3 days) take him to do something special to the park, to a movie, shopping ect....you just must have a lot of patience and work with him, things will get better.

Also is he on any meds? my nephew was but he lost A LOT of weight...so my sister in lawy took him off of it