worried about bf?

Question

Hi guys, my bf is currently on holiday in spain with his mate. Apart from feeling a bit down cos i miss him, i'm also worried that he'll be tempted to cheat. you see, his friend is not very good at chatting up the ladies and relies on my boyfriend to reel them in and im a bit scared in case he decides to cheat on me, as I will never really know. I have reason to worry as he did cheat on me before with an ex gf. I forgave him, but reminded him that i would only forgive him once, he does it again, and we are through. I also wonder if he thinks about me. he took his laptop with him cos he said that he would email me (which he done yesterday) does this mean that he does think about me? am i right to think that if he really wanted to forget me he wouldnt have emailed? Im dead confused and finding it hard to adjust spending time on my own. I used to moan at him saying that he doesnt give me any space and now that i have it, im not liking it too much! lol.

Answer 1

Look u obviously dont trust the guy and i dont blame u! Once a cheater always a cheater remember that! I do think that he misses u but remember that he is on holiday! IF he cheats on u though then he obviously didnt care about u and ur relationship! Therefore he wouldnt be worth it! But honestly sweetie if he wanted to cheat on u he would no matter where he is.

Answer 2

My initial feeling is that it's either, he doesn't want to cheat on you but maybe the relationship has run out of steam, or you guys might be at a point in your relationship where you are getting more serious to the point where it's not necessary to check in all the time and be waiting by the phone every second (figuratively speaking). However since you have such doubt about your guy my instict is that he may cheat on you or.., you guys aren't going anywhere. And love has run out, either in both parties or just one. I do hope the best for you. I don't think you should be with him if you don't trust him. You've probably heard this before but trust me, it's true. A relationship like any structure can not stand on air alone it must have a support and in realtionships that support is trust. email me if you'd like about how everything goes. Good Luck!

Answer 3

That's how us girls can be sometimes right? lol Hun trust him. You seem to have made it clear to him and so he knows where the relationship is at. Now, you have to kinda relax and give him space and time will go bye. Keep busy and dont hover too much cause that can push guys away. I understand why you have trust issues...he's broken that bond before but either you're gonna trust a try or be edgy all the time. You dont want that. RELAX! Take a breath and have a surprise waiting for him when he comes home. And just to let you know, guys cheat rather they check in with you or not. It's totally up to the individual. There'll be other times when he'll have opportunities, same as you. Trust or dont.

Answer 4

I would be worried too.. mainly because he cheated on you before. I would pay attention to his actions.. the way he talks to you if he calls and how he acts when he returns. Ha if I was you I'd guilt him secretly when you e-mail him. Say something like I trust you. Hopefully if he's a decent person he won't cheat or if he does he'll at least tell you. It does sound a bit sketchy if his friend depends on your boyfriend to reel in girls, but if he really does love you he won't cheat.

Answer 5

Well, you are going to have to trust him. Don't whine at him with that "do ya miss me, do ya miss me, do ya miss me?" type of thing. It's like a dog jumping at it's master looking for attention. It can get irritating and cause the very thing you are hoping to avoid - separation.

I think you are smart to tell him if he cheats again, that's it. Sometimes you get guys that will always cheat just because they can get away with it. If he does it again, he is in that category and you would be better off without him.

But until and when you ever know it for a fact without nagging the heck out of him, let it go. Let him enjoy his vacation.

Answer 6

dont jump into conclusions just yet. sit back and think of all the moments you've shared together. and then, ask yourself if this really short separation period is greater than all the joy you've brought into each others life. think, and you'll definitely come to conclusion that this separation period is just something set to show you how much you need him by your side. it's not a period of time to see whether or not your bf can cheat on you if given a chance.
furthermore, he will not, i repeat, WILL NOT cheat on you, as I'm really really sure that you mean as much he means to you. meaning to say that he definitely does love you as much as you love him. this is really obvious as he has come back to you after the first mis-understanding. why would he come back to you the first time if you didnt mean anything to him and he has the desires to look for someone else? doesn't make sense, right?
that's why you should take it slow.. and believe me, I'm quite sure he has a valid reason for not being able to reply your emails or whatsoever.

so, dont worry.. what's meant to be, is meant to be..
everything is gonna work out just fine for you.
take care..

Answer 7

If he going to do it, he will do. You won't be there to baby sit him 24/ 7, so don't try to. The only advice I can give you is the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Until he is willing to change those things, there is nothing you can do to stop from doing something he wants to do.

Answer 8

at least your 3rd bf is out of town for the week.

Answer 9

wow i think you e-mail back and if he thinks about you ask him
'shold i email her?' him you' if he e-mail me i.m going to say
i.m sorry' get to gither be friends ok? john