at first we dated awile and after we had sex a few times he started ignoring my calls and text messages........then he sent me a text message that said leave me alone,i have someone else,if u dont leave me alone ill change my #.....nice knowing u..........thats all he said.....
2007-06-03 20:57:02 · 26 answers · asked by rachel duraham 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Aww sweetie he was using you for sex and after you gave him what he wanted he moved on. I'm sorry you got such a butt head but trust me that we're not all like that....I'm here for you if you need me...
2007-06-03 20:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by M J 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Hate so say it. But you were just another gal who discovered she was humped and dumped. Guys use girls like a rock god uses his axe up on stage because girls allow it. You heard the hype and the spin. Hate the game and the rules but.......they are the rules. Women(back when they were ladies)were looked up to and held with a higher regard. that is why you stood when a lady entered, you held her chair, opened the door for her. She was the Ferrari to the men's Ford. You didn't just treat her with the commonality as you would a toaster or a vacuum. She was a prize to be won, not a commodity to be utilized. More was expected of women. Now all that is expected of them it to get in the bedroom, take off the clothes, shut up, and take a cab home, "I'll call you" so lose my number. Girls today get dogged out because they no longer wanted to shoot for the 'A' because they wanted to be like the guys so as long as they can pass with a "C-", they are cool. Todays girl want to seem above the purely physical booty call, but at the same time holding on to their higher standing that society has placed on them. Because if they went after the booty call just as a man. They would be considered a whore. So, to delude themselves into thinking it is more than just a booty call, they say they are flying to the sheets because they really love the guy(or he told them so they believe it more). Saddly most women can not tell the difference between tall timber and small brush. Look at it this way. If you went to the gas pump and everytime you filled up. The clerk told you there was no charge. Would you go anywhere else? As long as a girl keeps buying the "I love you" line, that keeps getting them naked and into sex. Why would guys not keep doing it? You got humped and dumped because a whole line of other girls made it easy for him by selling the land before checking the mineral rights.
2007-06-04 05:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of men being scum. I'm so sorry that this happened, but as a representative of my gender (which embarasses me to no end)...I'm surprised that you are surprised. The more I contribute to this board, the more nauseated I get. People toss around the word "player" like it's just business as usual and to be expected. You have now had an experience which has damaged you, and probably sabotaged your relationships for a long time to come. That sick feeling in your stomach right now will go away...but you have to find a way to stop the sickness from turning inward...you are very upset (sorry I can't swear on here...very probably doesn't cut it) right now. But you have to keep from blaming yourself...thinking you're stupid or blind or whatever kind of slash and burn you have going on yourself. Direct it at him...share the story with friends and do everything you can to keep it from happening to someone else you know. Slime like this guy likes to get together with friends and share stories about what works and what doesn't, so that they can prey on women and destroy their self esteem. They think it's funny, they think their clever, and they are going to hell.
ANYWAY, you have to find a way to let it go, or he wins...THEY win...and they will keep on winning until women and girls write these off as learning experiences and make sure it doesn't happen again.
The best thing you can do is WAIT next time...set your standards and stick to them REGARDLESS of the fallout. There are a lot of great guys out there...and rule number one of being a great guy...is that sex, and any aspect thereof, is on the woman's timetable. Any pressure, for ANY thing sexual is when intuition should kick in. You know you have it, all girls have it...but so few listen. If a guy says something or does something that clicks on your "gut feeling", don't blow it off, or think you are crazy...listen and trust and...most of all...have FAITH in yourself...think back to the start of the relationship and ask yourself if there were times when things just did not seem right...did you know?...and did you then write it off as you being oversensitive or crazy? Maybe you have more reason to have faith than you thought...OXO...Kes
2007-06-04 04:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that dude was a dick and I had them before too. The problem is if you guys were just "dating" and not bf or gf yet, and you were having sex, he probably thought you weren't girlfriend material which is probably wrong, and so he just used you for one thing. I know it's stupid, but some guys are like that. If you don't want to go through this again, you might want to make sure you and your next guy are actually bf and gf and he shows that he respects and loves you, otherwise you will be in for more heartbreak.
2007-06-04 04:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To some guys its a game. ONce you gave in he lost what respect he had for you, and he got what he wanted from you and he was done. Some guys are jerks like that. Ive been used a couple times myself. Just know that he didn't deserve you, and he'll get payback one of these days. And the next time that you get into a relationship take it slow and wait until you are absolutly sure that he is totally passionate about you. The thing is you should know a little bit more of what to look for now. players are real smooth talkers and they will woo you in anyway to get you to go to bed. Even if it means dating for a couple of months. Ive had that happen to me to. So, take it slow and get to know the guy, and you'll know if hes genuinely sincere or not after a while. Its just a good innocent feeling you'll have.
2007-06-04 04:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He could have been using you, but sometimes guys, when they start to like you too much, don't know how to deal with it so they push you away. I don't know enough about your situation to know if that's the story in your case, but it might be.
The best thing to do is to give him some space. Leave him alone totally. Don't question people about him, follow him, call or text him. If you happen to see him, smile and keep going.
He knows you care for him. He has to work through what he feels for you. If he decides to himself that he wants to be with you, then he will approach you again. If he doesn't, then it will be hard, but forget about him and move on.
I wish you all the best.
2007-06-04 04:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't even acknowledge anything that "DG" posted, its definitely obvious he doesn't get any. anyways, there is all sorts of different types of guys out there. i will say that i have met and know a lot of great caring guys but there are also those "player" type guys who are just out to get sex. they are just out to see how many chicks they can get in the sack. if you know what i mean. it is a popularity contest really, and the guys that do stuff like this are definite total scum. they are not great guys. i don't know how old you are i am guessing young, but as you go through life you are going to be approached by guys like that. and in the end all they want is in your pants. but you know that you are better than that. don't give a guy a sex just because you think it will help him like you more. if a guy really likes you he won't care about the sex stuff he will want to know more about what is in your mind. what makes you tick. i am sorry that you had to experience that but a lot of people go through that. just next time make sure that the guy is interested in you and not whats in your pants. :)
2007-06-04 04:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to these Jerks above...cause thats what guys mostly are JERKS!!! Just go on like it doesnt even bother u, he will soon to come back, and think of a good way to pay him back, then do it! hes worthless and a waste of ur time anyways! becarefull next time. and be with the guy for a while before u do anything eles with him.
2007-06-04 04:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well to tell you the truth thats how all guys are dont let any one use you make um wait if they are willing to wait like a while they may stay not for certin i have not had sex yet and do not plan to...but i am pretty sure if you try to make em wait he most likle will either find some one else or stay...sorry i couldnt be of more help
2007-06-04 04:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by gracie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't listen to that a...hole that gave you that nasty answer.
Well, obviously you just made a bad choice by being with this guy. Learn from it, move on and don't waste a single tear on that bastard. We teach people how to treat us and perhaps you need to pay attention to someones real character before you get intimite. If you learn to truely see people you'll become better at choosing them. Ignore that guy, he's worthless.
2007-06-04 04:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by Milly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys just want to date girls for the sex. alot of guys are jerks and dont understand how you feel and just want you for the fun of your body, evidently this guy is a big jerk and you don't need to worry about it because you will find a man who loves you for who are not how good you do him.
2007-06-04 18:38:48 · answer #11 · answered by Ethan Jables 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋