I've been dating a guy since the beginning of March. Things were going great. I discovered in late April that he has an STD (one that doesn't go away). I had been waiting for him to admit it to me -- trying to give him a chance to tell me first. Now, he's blowing me off -- like guys do when they no longer want to date you. Normally, I recognize the blow off and just move on. However, in this case, I feel like I have to confront him to tell him that he was a jerk for subjecting me to a life long STD. Is it worth it to confront him, or just let it go? As far as I know I haven't contracted the disease -- but it could show up in the future.
2007-06-03 19:42:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We always used protection. However, his disease is of a nature that even using protection doesn't provide 100% protection.
2007-06-03 19:57:54 · update #1
I say potentially infected b/c right now I have no symptoms, but I also haven't been tested yet. (and no worries I wouldn't sleep with someone without disclosing the situation). For now, I'm not sleeping with anyone. I do know for a fact that he has the STD and what medication he is taking.
2007-06-03 20:16:42 · update #2
Did you insist on protection when you slept with him? Like it or not, the responsibility for your own protection is up to you. You have to accept your own culpability; no one can "give" you something that you aren't open to receive.
2007-06-03 19:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't confront him. In a normal tone of voice, tell him that you are aware of his STD. Let him know that you don't appreciate it. Don't lose your temper. Also let him know that you liked him a lot, but that you realize now just how badly mistaken you were about him. Tell him you are disappointed in him and that you are hopeful that he did not cause you permanent problems, because you will have to consider filing a lawsuit against him for personal damages and medical expenses if he has.
If he knowingly exposed you to a disease and did not disclose the information, he is liable no matter what anyone here says.
2007-06-04 02:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by Candidus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a touchy subject and I am sorry you are in such an ackward situation.
I know you have probably heard this, but let me first start by saying...PLEASE PLEASE get tested if you haven't already. You don't want to be jerk like him and expose others to it. It is also detrimental to your health when you have it too long.
Secondly, I would absolutely confront him in a nonviolent manner. You are right, he did put you and a huge risky situation...and if you don't mind me saying so, he kind of needs to be put in his place. You want to confront him for these reasons: a) he is probably out spreading it to other girls and b) if he supposively cared about you, then he wouldn't have done this and ABOVE ALL....it is a FELONY to knowingly expose other people to specific STD's.
If he is knowingly spreading this disease, I would take it to the police immediately. Let him know of you are taking it to the police and that you know he tried to expose you. This will surely stop him.
Good luck and stay safe.
2007-06-04 02:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutely tell him....and the Health Dept. There are legal guidelines about passing diseases knowingly. Also you have to give names of people you've been with so they can be checked or treated. If you live in a small town, this will be harder for you. But obviously this is no secret because someone else told you about it. Get checked & get the facts before you do anything. And always use a condom til you're practically engaged. Guys lie & lie & lie &lie............& lie.
2007-06-04 02:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by chickem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. He is being a jerk because he is subjecting others to whatever he's get. Let him know how you feel. I would also alert others to stay clear of him just he case he still wants to act like nothing is wrong. Good luck to you!
2007-06-04 02:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Aimee L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You state the word "Potentially " in your header.
Did he or did he not infect you?
Has he or has he not got an infection?
Are you saying this simply because the relationship is over, and he is not interested in you any more.
Why you waited so long is beyond me, you should have confronted him at first sign of a problem.
2007-06-04 03:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by conranger1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ofcoarse u should confront him, u have every right 2 confront him! u don't deserve to be treated like that after that dude could have given u a life-long problem, so do it and don't feel bad about it
2007-06-04 02:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely talk to him about what happened. You have to let him know that you are not so happy with the fact that he did not tell you about his STD. I think that's really efd up that he put you at risk.
2007-06-04 02:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by loaniave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a jerk! Confront his ***
2007-06-04 02:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would confront him.
2007-06-04 02:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by Skyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋