My boyfriend is super jealous and doesnt want me to talk to any of my guy friends, yet he can talk to all the girls taht he wants, and recently he has been inviting the same couple of girls to hang out with us-- could this be a sign that he is cheating on me? and sometimes he will talk to girls on the phone, today he told me that he doesnt trust me because i talk to other guys, yet he talks to girls on the phone when i am with him-- what should i do-- Please help
2007-06-03 19:21:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cheating...No. This is a huge indicator that he is insecure, and you are too. I understand why you are a little insecure. Who wants to worry all the time about what hes thinking. Also inviting girls to come hang out with you, I bet most of the time your like what the hell...and you think omg he must think shes better than me. I know, i have been in that situation. With this its so easy to say to someone "just get rid of him", but really what is that going to do for you?...nothing. No one else knows what goes on when you two are alone. Also it makes it hard when you think about the good times, and it hurts to think that he could be hurting you. Also when a guy starts acting like this you feel you need to be better so he will notice you more. But really if you have strong feelings for him then try to make it work. What you need to do is concentrate more on your self. Don't worry all the time of he will call or what hes doing, occupy your self and get your self esteem back by exercising, hanging out with your girlfriends, and anything you love to do. Give him a taste of his own medicine...ex. when he calls and wants to keep talking say "you have to get back to other things" or hang up without saying "i love you" just to get him back on his feet to realize to appreciate you more. Be more of your own woman...respect yourself...inst ed of always making him happy...make your self happy and demand he make you happy...b/c you deserve it. Never think he will make you happy...you have to do that on your own. If he doesn't step up and keeps on doing what hes doing...hes not worth it anyway, no sense to cry over someone who's not worth it.
:)
2007-06-03 20:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not he is cheating, he has a double standard which is not fair. Tell him that you are not going to stop talking to your guy friends just because he doesn't like it. Also tell him that he cannot expect you to do this if he is still talking with other girls. If he isn't willing to compimise then leave him. You deserve better.
2007-06-03 19:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tina W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are fed up with the situation then, do not force yourself in keeping the relationship. It is one of the noble deeds not to hurt the heart of the one you love but i guess, in your case, while you are busy doing that, your own heart is left slowly drowning...And even more, what he has been doing is far from what we call fairness which any kind of relationship has to possess.
If you can't bare letting him go like you are empty without him and keeping him is the only thing that makes sense in your life, then, hold on...and give yourself enough time to weigh things out by telling him so your confusions...
It's just actually you who knows better what to do...
What i would like to impart is that, try to give time reflecting on this line 'Is emptiness better than constant hurting?'
2007-06-03 19:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by enaira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you have already got evidence he's dishonest ("So I believe my bf is dishonest doing the web factor I do have evidence, however he hides his "cookies" temp documents that may hint what you're doing on-line.. ") why might you desire to retain torturing your self watching for extra proof? Just kick him to the lower noone merits to be cheated on. I realize its less difficult mentioned than performed due to the fact that I'm definite you're keen on him, however love your self extra. No man is ever valued at your tears.
2016-09-05 21:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's too immature to date, you should break up with him. People who cheat accuse others of cheating, because it takes the spotlight off them, and also because they think other people do the things they do.
2007-06-03 19:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He''s not cheating---yet--- but it sounds like he is trying to piss you off so that YOU break up with him!!-- which I would do if I were you or you will find him in the back seat with one of your friends.
2007-06-03 19:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and he is telling on himself. he is cheating if he do not trust u u shouldnt trust him. the reason why he cant trust u is because he cant trust himself
2007-06-03 19:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by latoya r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..he is just insecure and seems like a control freak.
2007-06-03 19:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether he's cheating or not, HE'S A JERK! Dump him.
2007-06-03 19:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by Lyndsey G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes trying to act like a pimp, dump his stupid ***
2007-06-03 19:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Sensationalist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋