Okay, my boyfriend and I have been going out for 4 months. I love him more than anything, but I don't know what to do. He has always been jealous and tells me not to talk to guys that we know that hit on me, because that's disrespectful of him. Yet he can talk to whomever he pleases. He also will play with my heart. He told me he was going to have to go back to his native country (Mexico) just to see if I would follow him. Well I was mad at him today and he was mad at me. We talked and he said he would meet me at 9pm and we left okay but still hurt. Well 9pm came around and he never came or called me. I'm very hurt and I went by his house and he wasn't there. Now of course I'm thinking of the worst and I am mad but I am more hurt. He and I are always together and I don't think he would ever cheat, he doesn't have any other time considering he works two jobs. What do y'all think? What should I do? I love him, but I'm so emotionally exhausted.
2007-06-03 18:55:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
after only 4 months do you think you REALLY love him? It's doubtful he feels the same about you. He sounds like a player and a controller. Never let ANY man tell you who you can or can't talk to.Especially one who does what he's asked you not to do. And if his friends know your together----why r they hitting on you? Let him go back to mexico and don't bother following him-----you'll be wasting your time
2007-06-03 19:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by piowine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him, there's no reason why he should never call or at least let you know he's not coming. it's common courtesy. would you ever do that to a friend even if you were mad at them? unless he was dying and couldn't pick up a phone, dump him.
4 months isn't that long. it's unlikely he's cheating, he's a jerk and it's a good indication of future problems/issues. save youreslf the time and pain.
2007-06-03 18:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Random 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are making more out of this than you should. he was upset. he is doing whatever he normally does when he's stressed. Do you know how he copes?
you say you are in love....then you should know how he copes and how he feels about what you're saying. sounds like it may not be as serious as you think.
he's sounding like he is playing games though telling you he will leave to see if you follow. a man who truly loves you and feels secure with that love would never need to test you. he doubts your love. or he feels he can manipulate you into doing anything he wants so he does this to play games.
2007-06-03 19:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my friend did same thing to his gf he did that cuz hes cheating. My friend dont wanna hurt hes gf anymore so jst to end everything hes starting to ignore, ditch and anything to avoid hes gf, i know hes a coward but he told thats the only best idea he can think of right now in some reason he dont wanna tell to his gf that he dont love her anymore. so my advise is talk to him if he have another girl and break up with him if he say yes cuz some guy are having difficulty to how to break up wid their gf. goodluck ...
2007-06-03 19:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by DarkSinX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Word of advice...grow up, BOTH of you. What's with the whole "I'm going to Mexico to see if you would follow me" stuff? That's imature if you ask me. You guys need to talk it out and figure something out. This seems a little ridiculous.
2007-06-03 19:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run away as fast as you can. This guy is manipulating you! A lot of guys who end up hitting women start out this way, really jealous and unreliable. Have more pride in yourself, don't put up with this! He's a dog!
2007-06-03 18:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to ask him if he is cheating. He might lie, but if he gets really defensive then he prob is. The guy sounds very disrespectful towards you, you should definitely move on and forget about him.
2007-06-03 19:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU DON'T HAVE TRUST YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING IF YOU WANT TO GO BY HIS JOB AND SEE IF HIS CAR IS THERE LOOK HIM STRAIGHT INTO THE EYES AND ASK HIM IF HE'S CHEATING ON YOU IF HE CAN'T LOOK YOU STRAIGHT IN THE EYES THEN YOU KNOW OR JUST TAKE HIM FOR HIS WORD HAVE TRUST WHY DO YOU THINK HE'S CHEATING ON YOU? AS HE GIVEN YOU ANY REASON FOR YOU TO THINK THIS ? HAVE YOU CAUGHT HIM BEFORE W/SOMEONE ELSE? IF YOU WANT THIS TO WORK YOU NEED TO HAVE TRUST IF HE LOVES YOU HE'S NOT GOING TO CHEAT ON YOU SO JUST STRAIGHT OUT ASK HIM ARE YOU CHEATING ON ME?? THIS IS WHY I FEEL THIS WAY................ THEN YOU TAKE IT FROM THERE............................... IF HE HASN'T GIVEN YOU A REASON BE COOL DOES HE SPEND THE WEEKEND WITH YOU ? IF HE CAN'T SPEND FRIDAY OR SATURDAY WITH YOU THEN HE PROBABLY HAS ANOTHER GIRL BUT IF HE HAS TO WORK THAT'S ANOTHER STORY GET HIS SCHEDULE
2007-06-03 19:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your pretty sick of it, and not worth it. take things slower, maybe not see each other so much. and if he likes you a lot then he'll want to see you more and make the effort to try harder. it shouldnt be all you. And if he doesnt make an effoert to see you, then you would have been wasteing your time anyways
2007-06-03 19:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by dzhanger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men cheat more than women do according to statistics. If you think he is unfaithful, get a bootylicious friend to come onto him when you aren't around and you will have your answer.
2007-06-03 18:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋