my dad is seriously ill, my husband has high bp and I am totally afraid of losing both of them.... it is all i am thinking about lately... HELP.
2007-06-03 15:59:46 · 8 answers · asked by wmn1120 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If they do die you are going to blame yourself for hastening their end by worrying so much!
Focus on making them happy. Talk about light things, smile and laugh even though it is hurting inside.
Bring the sunshine into the conversation with you without being frivolous.
That is the most healing thing you can do for them and yourself.
It is perfectly natural to feel how you do. You simply have to learn how to control it rather than it controlling you.
Make it your purpose to be a healer, in thought , word and deed. Then if your worst fears do come true (and remember at some point in this life they have to), you will be able to work your way through your grief in the knowledge that you made their lives happier and more comfortable.
Grief is a part of life, but only a part. It is not the whole. Celebrate your father's life.
2007-06-03 16:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by Christine H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not suprised.... High BP - well, make sure if he has medication to take it and to get a healthy lifestyle.... then you can both concentrate on looking after your dad.
at the end of the day... there are so many people with high BP, chances are someone you love ill have it... so there is no point worrying about it! think about you dad and live life to the full... but remember that life AND death are both natural and it will happen to us all one day.... go and speak to someone if you are having serio9us difficulties.
LOL Helen
2007-06-03 23:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Helen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i lost my mum and my partner in the space of 5 months it was the blackest time of my life and i became horribly panicky about losing more people i love but after a while i began to realise that i was was spending so much time thinking about death that i was wasting my life! Which neither my mum or my fiance would want! Stop worrying about what MIGHT happen hun and live your life - enjoy your loved ones - thats what lifes all about!
2007-06-04 00:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
losing someone we really love is the HARDEST thing that a person face in life.
it's a fact that No matter how careful or reckless we live our life, everyone will experience death- either early or later in life.
I know exactly how you're going through this tough moments, I hope there's something more I can do but all I have is a warm healing wishes to your dear dad and your husband.
My thoughts and prayers goes to your family.
2007-06-04 00:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by cHA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your worry, I am the same way. I just try to know that it is part of life to lose people you love and know that over civilization millions of people have been through it and survived and so will you and I. Pray about it and ask God for strength to enjoy each day and have God beside you when things get tough.
2007-06-03 23:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be scared of losing people.
All you can do is try to make sure that the time you have with the people you love is memorable and happy.
You can't stop people from dying, but you can make their lives worthwhile. It's easier said than done, but try not to worry - or, at least, to worry less - because worrying doesn't do anything positive.
2007-06-03 23:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Neely O'Hara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, but is all the worry really doing any good. Enjoy these people while they're still here with us.
2007-06-03 23:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well we all go.
2007-06-03 23:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋