My exwife(his mom) allways brings him to the store to buy me something plus my current wife takes him too.My exwife knows my wife takes him to get me a gift plus He allways makes me a nice gift at school.So my questions are why does my ex do this? Plus my current wife feels this is "her job" is it?or is it really between my ex and my son since she is his real mom?
2007-06-03 15:13:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I already read the other posts, and l agree with (most) of them, just a couple of extra suggestions. If the two women are on good terms, could they go together? lf no, how about your son getting you two small gifts (one with each woman), or perhaps buy one and make one? I know he already makes you one at school, but he can still make you another one at home. lf none of these suggestions works, l guess it's really up to his Mom ultimately...hope this helps.
2007-06-03 19:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Your ex is trying to help your son have a good relationship with you. Do the same for her and make sure you take him to get a gift and card for her and your wife on Mother's Day. It is very kind of these women to think of you, take it that way and return the favor. Lavish thanks and praise on your son for bringing you these gifts and thank your ex and your wife at some other time. Many parents don't have a partner (ex or otherwise) to help their children make/buy gifts and cards for them, be thankful for your luck and enjoy it.
2007-06-03 15:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let them both go. (Okay, at different times.) It allows him to feel like HE is special. And then he gets to give you two gifts so he feels like a hero. And isn't that what it's all about anyhow???
These two women need to stop being so selfish...they sound like "it's all about me!" and just start doing what's right for the boy.
And then when he presents you with 8 or 9 father's day presents, YOU make a big fuss and tell him that he's the greatest son a man could have.
2007-06-03 15:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think (at that age anyway) the gifts you get from your child are not just from your child. i'm sure once you son is old enough to pick out his own gifts your ex will probably give you a card or something from her. fathers day is a day to celebrate fatherhood, you being the father of her child is cause enough for her to be an active member in the celebration. i would say this is more your ex wife's place than your wife's beings she (ex)is the mother of your child. (not that it's inappropriate for your wife to be involved, especially if you have stepchildren)
2007-06-03 15:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by miranda - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is nice that your ex is thoughtful enough to take the time to do this for you and your son. Tell your new wife not to worry about it....if she wants to shop with him to get you a present from your son & her thats cool to. The bottom line is that your son is happy & has a present or two for you on Fathers day. Tell her not to get petty over something that really isn't important!!
2007-06-03 16:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter was small, I took her to get her dad a present to make sure he got something from her. Plus, it was important *to her* that I took her. Eventually, her dad called me to let me know his wife was shopping with her and it was something his wife wanted to do. After that, I quit doing the shopping, but always asked my daughter to make sure she got her dad a present (even though he never, ever returned the courtesy for me).
Since your son is so young -- and not knowing how long you've been divorced -- it is possible that she still feels it's her responsibility as his mother to make sure he gets you a present.
Have you discussed this nicely with your ex? Does she know your current wife also helps your son shop? Perhaps you could call her and let her know that you appreciate her helping your son shop for you in the past, but this is something your wife would like to assume responsibility for now.
2007-06-03 15:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by cuttin_in_mcfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a stepmom and every year I take my husbands kids to pick out a gift and so does his ex. So I think its nice. I am a new mommy and this year my hubbys ex took the kids to get me a mothers day gift probably cause I take them to get her one. Its nice that we can all be cival especially at holidays. Your ex prob enjoys watching your son pick out that special present for hid dad.
2007-06-03 16:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like each of them feels that they should have a hand in honoring you on father's day (or in teaching your child to honor you on father's day).
Isn't that nice?
I wouldn't make a big deal about it or try to say who is 'supposed to' do it. Everyone should do what they think they should do & not worry about what anyone else is doing.
2007-06-03 17:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is taking HER son to get a gift for HIS father, that is actually proper etiquette. his STEP-MOM can get you a gift as well-but your ex probably enjoys this experience with your son.
2007-06-03 15:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your ex wants you SOOOOO bad.
2007-06-03 22:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by knuckleheadmcspazmatron 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋