I cry every night... I need help?

Question

I think that I am really pretty but no guy has ever asked me out and nobody knows of anyone who likes me, I know you are going to say, well mabe u r really ugly but my fam. says that I am really pretty. When I look in the mirror I think I am pretty but then when i go to school I feel like i am so ugly, I need help...Please!

Answer 1

Well how old are you? And think about what you just said. Your family thinks your pretty. All girls families say that pretty much. But who knows maybe you are pretty. But like hey i'm pretty and i've only been asked out 2 times and i'm 16 but then again i go to an all girl school. But if you think your pretty don't wait for the boys to come to you go ask them out yourself.

Answer 2

I think the most important line you just said is "When I look in the mirror, I think I am pretty." Wonderful! I wish everyone would say that about themselves. This shows that you have a strong sense of self-confidence and seeing yourself as pretty makes you feel good too.

As for no guy asking you out, there are probably a few reasons. 1) The guy think you're already taken so doesn't even bother. 2) The guy thinks you are out of his league (and won't want anything to do with him) and so doesn't even bother. 3) The guy thinks that, because you are pretty, you are full of yourself. From your brief description, it doesn't sound like 3 is the case. 1 and 2 sort of go together......but a way to counter them (and any incorrect impressions about 3) is to show the guys that you are "normal". Let them see you be silly and see you make a mistake every now and then. If you feel ugly because no guy seems attracted to you, remember that guys are scared when it comes to starting relationships...and particularly scared when it comes to starting one with a woman who knows she is pretty. The guys haven't had much luck and rejection is more often the case than not......so any time they ask someone out, they take a risk. One thing you could do to help that is to approach him and ask him out yourself. Not only would that make him less scared, it would also be a compliment to him when _you_ approach _him_.

Regardless of what other people think about you, remember what you see in the mirror and remember what your family says: you are very pretty.

Answer 3

Hey, believe it or not, there are thousands of people in the same situation as you, don't get your hopes down. You shuld recognize on truth however...Not everyone is going to have a boyfriend or girlfriend.

I dont want this to get you upset or anything but it is a truth that no one wants to look towards. The world, specifically the United States, has put such a strong emphasis on relationships, that when we aren't in one, we feel like we're doing something wrong or we're ugly or we're abnormal....not true.

I haven't had a real girlfriend in a while and I'm 21, just out of college. I don't consider myself ugly, granted I'm not great looking but whatever, it's not about that. It's about your personality. Don't get down, everyone has this issue.

Anyway, why spend your days and nights crying and upsetting yourself about something you have no control over. When you wake up don't think about how your lacking a boy friend. Instead wake up and if the sun is shining look outside and think about what a great day it is going to be. If it's raiing think the same thing. Rain is nature, it has to happen or things can't grow so its all good.

Take a positive outlook on life and things get much better regardless of your relationship situation.

I guess the truth is, the less you concern yourself with a relationship, the better off emotionally you are.

If you wanna talk more drop me an e-mail:
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Peace and God Bless, things will turn better, they always do! :)

Answer 4

You shouldn't base your self perception on what other people think of you. Maybe the fact that you don't feel pretty at school makes people less interested in you. Confidence really does show. Maybe you should do a little soul searching and find out what makes you happy on your own before you start worrying about other people wanting to be in a relationship with you. Or, go somewhere else and meet new people. A change of scenery can work miracles. Good luck.

Answer 5

Girl don't worry. I think I'm pretty, but there have been many times when no guys asked me out to the movies or to a big school dance. Yeah I was upset, but I shrugged it off. I know as long as I have God, my family, and my friends, I'll be happy. Besides, you have a long road ahead of you, so you don't need to worry with boys. A lot of times, they're overrated anyways. But if it's really important to you, just open yourself up more and have a positive outlook. Bad self esteem is a turnoff.

Answer 6

HEY!!! What's the rush with wanting a b/f right now? Is is because your friends have b/f's, it's way too fast at a young age...

Some guys will dump their g/f if she is getting older like 15 or 18, they will look for someone younger...It's not really fair, don't want to see you go down that path at all! Boyfriends are for later...

If your a young gal going to school, stick to completing your education, get involved in sports and activities, hang out with friends & have fun while your 'young at heart'. Eat healthy & plenty of fluids to keep your skin looking young.

When you turn 18, and grow more mature to handle relationships and have a faithful b/f, when you find the right guy...

Good luck mi amiga!

Answer 7

You think your pretty? Then girl your pretty.
Theres no question about it. Guys could be intimidated.
Same here for me. I honeslty believe I'm pretty too, and I am!

Guys have a hard time talking to me though. You will really never know what goes through peoples heads! I just recently round that out. I'm 15 yrs old, and school is hard... but crying will only put you down even more. Put your head up, then people will start realizing how much your worth!

Answer 8

This is tough. I've seen some pretty girls that I would never go out with and some average girls I couldn't wait to approach. A lot has to do with you believe it or not. Self confidence is going to be your best key. Unfortunately, you either have it or you have to work on it. The first thing you have to realize is that you don't need a guy to define who you are. Find a hobby or something you are good at and realize you are good at things and feed off that energy. Conidence is such a turn on.

Answer 9

What you look like is not what is important. It's how you behave that is important. Treat other people like you would want to be treated. Be kind and good and loving. Slow to anger and quick to forgive. Do things for others with out expecting anything in return. If you do these things you will be a winner. What you think of your self is the most important thing of all and if you are doing all that I just mentioned you will feel good about yourself and many people will like you too. If someone chooses not to like you leave them behind, because you don't need them anyway.

Answer 10

aw.
well confidence is a hard thing to hold.
there are those people that you know you are better looking, and then there are the people that make you feel disgusting .
well I've learned that it dosent matter what people think of you just because your not getting all the guys dosent mean your pretty, just wait you will find the right guy and he will think you are the prettiest of all.
=]good luck!
and dont worry things will work out for the better.