I have trouble with guys, and I think it's mainly because I'm too shy, and sometimes I feel like i'm invisible. I don't consider myself to be ugly, but I really can't see myself as that attractive compared to a lot of girls. I'm fairly tall (5' 9"), olive and tan skin tone, pretty skinny (123 lbs 33-25-36), very athletic (read: too lean) and I spend a godawful amount of time studying. Do you think i could change my attitude (possibly become more outgoing) and maybe attract some guys, or are my general physical and behavioral characteristics not that good to beign with.
2007-06-03 14:51:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let them know that you are very approachable. I wish I can tell you what kind of body language that will send them that message but honestly I don't know.. I'm shy and always invisible but I still send some type of message to let guys know that I am very approachable. Try to find a common ground with guys, that is what I do. If they are talking about a music group that you know, start throwing in your two cents about that music group.
I hope that helps... If not I tried...
2007-06-03 14:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry...the guys will come. Being shy is very common and people take a bit longer to notice you. Sometimes the shy girls are the most attractive because they aren't all loud and obnoxious like the ones that need to be the center of attention all the time. Things just move along a bit slower.
2007-06-03 14:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pleasant enough . . . a bit tall for my taste, but still attractive. Your problem is almost certainly your shyness. What you should do is try talking to some guys. There are a lot of guys who have problems just like the ones you're having . . . too shy, unsure of how attractive they are, etc. Just look around. They probably won't jump out at you and ask you out because they're shy too! Good luck!
2007-06-03 16:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon. I don't think you should have to change (I mean I couldn't even go to the store at times!) So I did change, By the time I was 15 I had become a male model- I stayed down to earth, but lots of girls were intimidated by me. A few thought I was being gay by concentrating on my looks too much. I had to look my best at all times (that's just how they taught us in modeling school) Now that my career cin modeling is over, I see where alot of it was ridiculous-- I mean they even taught us to enter the doorway, best profile first can you imagine??It took me forever to learn that people who care are more interested on your inside. Looks fade, but beauty that comes from within gets even prettier !! Your mr right is out there, but he's probably shy to.
2007-06-03 15:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by author 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being shy can be a life long trait, it has been for me. there is a lot of good info out about becoming more out going... i find
that by pushing my "comfort zone" a little bit at a time to be the best for me. you should do a little research and find some sort of program/plan that feels right and try and work it.
REALIZE there are people who find shyness attractive! it can seem painful but hang in there your time will come...
2007-06-03 15:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by vidiotonline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will desire to overcome your shyness, and something will basically take place. i replaced into shy up until my Senior 365 days of highschool once I had to take an appearing classification. the class have been given me over my shyness. i'm no longer asserting you will desire to take an appearing classification, yet placed your self into circumstances the place you will desire to communicate over with human beings. this sort, it's going to be much less complicated so you might approach strangers and probably exchange into friends with them. regardless of in case you basically exchange into friends with different gay adult men, they'd have yet another gay pal so which you are able to be attracted to relationship. i don't recognize why you think of you're gruesome, because of the fact you look like a youthful version of the form of guy i'm often truly attracted to.
2016-10-09 09:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the shy thing. Sometimes guys get intimidated by smart/studious girls. Be more outgoing..don't change yourself completely for the possibility of someone falling in love with the new you. There's someone out there who likes you for you - shy, studious and tall!
2007-06-03 14:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont change because it's not like the guys dont like u because ur a total slut or something. I think that u shouldnt change to get the attention of guys because one day a guy will love u for u and not some act that u might put on!!!
2007-06-03 14:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet and Sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aw don't worry your just fine, don't worry about it I used to be just like you and then one day I found out that I looked better than I thought of myself, because of a few friends so yeah don't worry about it everything become clear soon, trust me :D. I bet your very pretty and i'm honest!
2007-06-03 15:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem...i don't believe i am ugly just average but i have yet had a guy ask me out...plus i am really shy so i am at a loss at what to do and i would like companionship someone to talk to you know...who likes you for you and all the gurly stuff
2007-06-03 14:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋