She is a very Catholic person; as such, she raised me to be one as well, the whole going to church every sunday, etc. She recently asked me to go to church and I replied that I can no longer attend because of my beliefs. I felt as if I were trying to "come out of the closet"! I tried to explain my reasons to her, but that did not help.
How can I go about this and still maintain a calm home?
By the way I'm 17, the eldest of two and the only daughter of a Mexican stubborn, overly, protective, naiive mother; that makes the environment a whole lot more tense. If anyone can relate to that situation, they can understand how major the conflict is.
2007-06-03 14:49:02 · 6 answers · asked by Ceci-Weci 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Perhaps you should try sitting down with her and showing her scripturally why you have come to believe something else. Speak in a calm, respectfull manner. Thank her for raising you and caring for you. Assure her that you will still love her and respect her. Feel free to email me with further details and maybe I can give some better advice. I would be interested in knowing what your beliefs are.
2007-06-03 14:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Mitch R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate...only sympathetically. My belief structure has deferred from my Mother's as well.
It may help to have the conversation at some time other than Sunday morning before Mass. Emotions tend to run really high at that time of day.
I usually start those conversations by insisting that me believing something different is not me rejecting her or evidence that she's a bad mother, that she didn't do the job she was supposed to do (that's usually where the anger comes from). Instead, it's about me doing and being the person that she raised me to be, because she did an excellent job at raising me. It also helps not to demonize her beliefs (I constantly have to tell my Mom - "I'm not saying that you're wrong; just that I'm not wrong, either") and to speak only positively about yours. That opens a good dialogue.
Good luck.
2007-06-03 14:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by LadeeLuvleeLox 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Holy Cow....I have been in your shoes! I sat down with my mom and told her that I didn't want to be a Jehovah's Witness anymore. I knew before I told her that it was going to be a catastrophe, but I just couldn't fake it through the meetings anymore. She called in the elders and they tried to show me the error of my ways. I was 19 and still living at home but felt it was better to be honest and move out on my own. My mother and your mother are responsible for their own actions/feelings and it is their problem to work through if they can't handle your choice. Your mother, like mine, will still love you, but will be angry for a while. Time will heal the wounds, it has gotten easier, I'm 31 now but still get badgered about coming back (but fewer and far between), but I've built my life around my husband, children, and our shared faith. If you feel strongly about your faith and can build support with others who share your beliefs, then you will have an easier time. Email me if you like...I'm here to help. Probably can't put it all down in a concise answer here. Best of luck!
2007-06-04 17:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i individually don't have a faith, i assume you are going to be able to desire to call it faith or ideals.. i think that there is greater deities, yet i do no longer waste my time praying, or worshiping them.. Im no longer a ignorant or close-minded individual, in assessment to maximum individuals in the international.. This universe is large, no person is conscious whats available, yet we can't be the only ones. I do have faith in spirits,vampires,ect.. I prepare and learn witchcraft and all styles of magic..Im no longer wiccan or something, i'm in basic terms myself.. don't get me incorrect I understand everyones faith, even however i do no longer understand the guy very lots.. My factor is, in basic terms because of the fact you have no longer seen or won't be able to ascertain something doesnt advise it doesnt exists.. In my heart i understand that the christian/jewish God doesnt exist...Its stressful to describe why however..
2016-11-04 21:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a suggestion for you.
Read the new testament for yourself.
See what it's all about before you reject it.
You may come to realize you believe in the God of the bible but not the roman catholic church.
God bless,
†
2007-06-03 14:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by Jeanmarie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe,ask God what you should tell her.
2007-06-03 14:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by bonsai bobby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋