So me and my husband-to-be are staring to think about who we want in our wedding party. The problem is I want some of my family members to be the groomsmen but he wants to pick them all out. What is the proper way of choosing these special people. I don't have a problem letting him pick some of the bridesmaids if he really wants to but I want my brother to be one of the groomsmen, that isn't wrong of me to want. Is it?
2007-06-03 14:35:20 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Traditionally the bride would choose her bridesmaids and the groom his groomsmen. But it's a nice gesture for each of you to incorporate each other family members if possible.
2007-06-03 14:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by holmeskaykay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I decided on the wedding party, we decided on it together. It was a mutual decision. We both wanted our brothers and sisters to be in the wedding and then came other family members and friends except for the maid of honor. Just because it is traditional to have the bride pick the bridesmaids and the groom pick the groomsmen, you don't have to do it that way. Just make sure the bride picks her maid/matron of honor and the groom picks out the best man.
2007-06-03 23:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by bkav6300 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not wrong for u to want that and he should let u but also he has the right to pick the rest of the groomsmen... just have an extra brides maid. my friend had 4 bridesmaids and there where 5 groomsmen... they had 2 best men walk down with the maid of honor. that way things worked out evenly.... 2 men with the maid of honor then 3 bridesmaids with 3 groomsmen..hope i helped u out a little good luck
2007-06-03 21:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother should be a groomsmen, Ive seen plenty of wedding with like 3 brides maids and 4 grooms men or whatever if that is what you have to do. This is both or you big day and if its important your brother be in the groomsmen he needs to respect that.
2007-06-07 21:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by chattergurl1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is he grooms decision to pick who he wants t be his groomsmen, but tell him, if he wants a member o fhis family as 1 of your bridesmaids, then he has to buckle down and let your brother be 1 of his groomsmen. Its only fair. I am engaged to be married but I only want my wedding party to be about 20 people at the most, and my fiance wants all 3 of his godsisters in the wedding and I told him that I have 2 biological sisters that will be in my wedding, and then I told him that if he lets both of my brothers be his groomsmen than I would let 2 of his sisters be my bridesmaids. Its only fair!!!
2007-06-03 22:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by Delicious D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the bride decides on the bridesmaids and the groom decides on the groomsmen. Obviously you want to take each others opinions into account as it would probably be considered bad taste to have an old boyfriend as the best man.
2007-06-03 21:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by Diogenes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's traditional for the groom to pick the groomsmen and the bride to choose the bridemaids -- but this is something you should be able to work out as a "team."
My brother is getting married next month, and his fiancee asked my sister and I to be bridesmaids. I am sure that my brother asked her if it would be possible and she agreed.
Did you tell your fiancee that it's important to you that your bother be included? I don't see why he couldn't choose your brother for one of the groomsmen, if only to make you happy. :)
Congratulations!
2007-06-03 21:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the groom picks the groomsmen, the bride picks the bridesmaids, its to symbolize sharing the greatest moment of your life with your friends, because it's the (supposedly) last great experience you'll share with them. you know once you get married your other is now your best friend yadda yadda and so on... your brother will be there, but the groomsmen are there for the groom, not the bride. and vise-verse
2007-06-03 21:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be up to both of you...for the most part, you're in charge of your bridesmaids, and he is in charge of his groomsmen. If you tell him, "I'd like my brother to be in the wedding, would you mind if he was one of your groomsmen?" he most likely will be totally fine with it. Now, if you told him, "I want my brother and my cousin, and my uncle and my old friend from school to be your groomsmen!"...he MIGHT have a problem with that. When I got married, my brother was one of his groomsmen, and his sister was one of my bridesmaids.
2007-06-07 19:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by Eves927 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you brother should be one of the groomsmen and his sisters (if he has any) should be bridesmaids. That part is done out of courtesy for one anothers immediate family members. Beyond that he picks his guys, you pick your girls .
2007-06-03 21:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by Susan G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋