My girlfriend is like this; little things i say or do get on her nerves so she gets angry quickly. I tried talking to her but she won't want to hear me out or change. She tells me if i don't like the way she treats me i should leave but i love her.These days we spend less time together but i want our relationship to work. What do i do?
2007-06-03 14:27:48 · 25 answers · asked by Kiddo C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you 12? If you are a man, it is time to move on.
2007-06-03 14:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure out what you're doing to tick her off so much that she's hanging up on you. You should be sitting down and talking about the issues that are at the heart of the problem. I'm willing to bet it's a two way lack of communicating properly. If you are spending less time together, you need to work on improving communication so she wants to spend time with you. Right now she's likely not sure she wants to be with you anymore (I am just going by the little you have said)
I don't think the things you are saying to her that make her mad enough to hang up on you are little to her, or she wouldn't be offended by them.
Once you have offended someone, they don't want to listen, unless you bother to see their perspective. If someone ticks you off and disrespects you, how do you react to it? Do you want to take more? She doesn't either! Smarten up and hear her out, ask her why she gets upset at certain things and really listen, and stop expecting her to do all the changing, or you will loose her. What you think is a small thing may be the one button that she will not tolerate being pressed!
I am not saying she is perfect, none of us all, we all come with faults, and one who loves us helps us to be stronger where we are weak, without creating more damage. I am saying there are two sides, and you need to find out her's rather than just looking at your own perspective on this. You can't stand on two opposite sides of a fence and hope to work things out.
I hope that you can work it out, but you have to get on the other side of the fence and talk face to face, openly and honestly about how you feel about eachother, what's important to you both.
Communication is the place where most relationships fall apart, the thing that's most important, is thought about least! If you truly do love her, you will work on your side, and show her that you love her by trying to communicate better. If it's not fun to communicate at least 80% of the time, then what's the point really. Life's too short! Cut to the chase, have the difficult talk and get back to having fun.
Blessings,
Rani
2007-06-03 14:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by yogarani108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like the way she treats you? I think you need to review why you love her. If these are truly little things, why is she getting soooo angry, and why is she so immature that she won't hear you out? Do you enjoy the one way communication? Once you've answered these questions to yourself, weigh the consequences of staying vs. leaving. If you stay, you're subjecting yourself to abusive behavior by a girlfriend you profess to love. If you leave, you put yourself in a position to be much happier - she will either accept responsibility for treating you poorly, and adjust her behavior, or you will meet another woman who knows how to treat you as an equal, who deserves to be treated with respect. I guess I've alluded to the choice I recommend, but it's your decision to make. Good luck to you!
2007-06-03 14:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by Kimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
earlier each thing i might tend to believe the others, yet after some concept i'm afraid you will neglect to do away with the plug after your night out, and Hattie will explode in her sleep. Or roll over and positioned out a window whilst it 'pops' i think of the desirable thank you to attitude that's with a tube inserted in her rear and run to the hollow of a balloon. Hattie can place the balloon in bra and it will act as a custom 'ask your self Bra'. once you notice her getting somewhat chestier you are able to excuse yourselves and relieve the tension earlier returning to the table. the only warning i might have is to verify there is not any open flames around once you relieve the tension. we would hate to lose you and Hattie because of a freakish twist of destiny.
2016-12-30 16:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of calling her, go to her house with flowers or some thing and tell her you will never lieve her, you love her and tell her you'll miss her if any thing happens to your guy's relationship. trust me, im a girl, shr'll have to foregive you some time.
oh, and go to her house a lot... not so much it gets on her nerves, but ask if she'll come out and you guys go some where.... spend time with her.
trust me, you do NOT want to let go of this relationship, you'll miss her, because you love her! i lost a boy this way.... she'll miss you too. don't break her heart. and you're not the one that should get the attention or what ever.... she should be getting it! just please!, try this! if it doesn't work, i'll break up with my boy friend=(
2007-06-03 14:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by iLoVe_sKaTeRs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like it's a one-way street. If it's that, it ain't doing you no good bud.She may be trying to dump you.And even if this ends in marriage, life's going to be a series of hang-ups! lol !
On the other hand if she does love you but is frustrated over something else,you need to find out what and solve that problem.
Whatever you do,just remember ,the one thing a guy in love is apt to forget-
"There's plenty of fish in the sea" If you lose this one there's plenty more to catch one from.
G'Luck though!
2007-06-03 14:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by gopikap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from a woman's point of view, I would have to say that she wants it over and is finding it difficult to tell you. Back off and give her space and if she wants the relationship as much as you do then she will come to you.
I wish you luck and happiness.
2007-06-03 14:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by Lori G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would work on another relationship somewhere else. You not careful and this girl going to cause you trouble and cost you money. And then she leave you anyway. Find a nice girl that like to smile and laugh.
2007-06-03 14:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know that she is not the right one for you. Indeed, if she treats you badly in your perception and tells you "take it or leave it"; this does not appear to be a lasting relationship.
Dump her before she dumps you to save face, but try to get another girlfriend before you dump her.
I know you think you love her, but how can you love her if you are yet unable to love yourself.
2007-06-03 14:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by Sean H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to my boat.
I know how your feeling, and if you really love her, then do what ever it takes for it to work. Its not fair for just her to change, you need to change also. In order to maintain a relationship there has to be communication and compromise.
I tried to change with my girlfriend, and now I haven't seen her for 2 months, and she also took off with our daughter. And I don't know where they are at, she calls me, but she refuses to tell me where they are staying at, or even give me a telephone number. good luck man, if you want it to work, you guys gotta compromise. If you can't you have to move on.
2007-06-03 14:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋