How do you stay "nice" to people who are "not nice"?

Question

You know the ones I am talking about ~~ the mean, cruel talking people. How do you show love to them?

Answer 1

It's really not so difficult. I wonder about why they are so bitter. You never really know what might be happening in someones personal life. Maybe they are struggling to care for an elderly parent. Maybe they've just lost a child. Maybe they have an illness that causes them to live in constant pain. You never know.

This doesn't excuse poor behavior but it does help me to try to be more understanding. I don't think that people intend to be seen as cruel. Perhaps they don't even realize how they are coming across to others.

Those who are insulting and rude help me to realize all of the blessings that I have in my life. Life really is good. My needs are taken care of and occasionally some of my wants. I have love in my life. Why can't I share a little of it with others---even others who seem mean to me? It's really not so difficult.

Answer 2

I believe, we have to start not to use the word "nice" and "not nice" about others because that is the first problem within. yourself which produce "hate" and "love".

I believe, you/people say somebody is nice because they/he/she have the same thought, yet you/people say somebody is not nice because they/he/she have the opposite of yours and, sometimes strongly oppose and redicule your thought/mind/ believe.

In my opinion, we have to learn to understand and to accept that there are so many different ideas and believes in this world and each of them will stick with it until they have got experience which change it.

Even if you/anybody say something in a polite ways but indeed trying to unify thoughts/faith.believes, some of them/ some of the listeners will fight against .
It is normal, it is fact of life because, any body who try to convince their believe/faith to others often are classed as cruel to the other's private life's.

If you speak about religion, and try to convince your believe to others in open, of course you will find opposans.religion is a very private things. The stronger you say, the stronger you will be opposed.

That is why, priests/mullahs etc only speak in churches/masjids/"inside groups" or if in media, they do it in their own religion programs because they know very well that the other believers may oppose and "rott" the community.
The other believers will come by themselves if they want to learn/to know. They may not like it but they will not redicule it in that community as they/he/she choose to listen through their own will.

So, we will and can stay feeling nice if we accept the fact that everybody have their own private believe/thought/will.
We communicate the differences in an open mind ; we say what we think in a broad ways so we invite intelects not emotions. At least that is my opinion. Others may be differrent.

Answer 3

I always try to remember 2 things i learned when i was in the Army the 1st was you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar. And the other is Kill people with kindness. Most of the time it will make YOU feel better.

Answer 4

The only way to shut em up is with a lil good old fashion sarcasm I think. Or just use what they say to get back at them. Teach them a lesson.

Answer 5

I avoid people who drag me down and prefer the ones who make me feel good mentally. I don't have time for nasties. It's hard enough finding time for those I wish to be with.
Times too preciuos, and I'm not wasting it.

Answer 6

If you believe in what you are saying and that it is from God, then why consider for one moment what people say? We are to love them regardless of how they treat us. We pray for people that spitefully use us. We love our enemies, but we hate their sin. We stand on the Word of God and we do not refrain from speaking the gospel to the lost.

Answer 7

To love everyone, even (and especially) our enemies.

Sound tough, but look at it this way:


Some chick is like "your a (blank)".

You can be like "Oh, I hate it when people call other people (blank)." But inside you can be like "Poor girl, she don't know no better than that...she needs love."


You can hate what people do and still have love in your heart for the people who do what you hate.

Answer 8

Pray

Answer 9

You show them by not doing what they do to you to them. They may be blind to what is really going on as they are spiritually dead, so don't worry about it. You will find yourself in a new circle without those kinds anymore.

Answer 10

You don't have to like them - you only have to love them. Be as kind as possible. And - you don't have to hang out with them either. Pray for their highest good - from a distance!!