my husband told in several ocasions that he dont want 2 be with me &that he dont love me?

Answer 1

And why is he still you husband. He would be my ex!

Answer 2

I am very sorry to read those words. I am sure it hurt you deeply to hear them as well, regardless of how long you have been together.

There are many reason why your husband could be telling you this: He is having another relationship; he may have lost interest in you because perhaps you have allowed yourself to become less attractive to him in some manner (gaining weight, nagging, not giving him proper sexual attention, etc.), he is just bored, etc.

I don't have all the answers, but what I would suggest is that first you try to have a mature conversation with him without getting judgemental or accusatory, and see if he will open up and give you the true reasons.

If you cannot work things out, the next step is to seek professional counseling, if he will go. If he refuses this, than you may have to consider that he no longer wishes to have a serious relationship with you.

As you know, marriage takes a lot of work on both sides to keep it going, keep it interesting, and exciting, instead of settling on the humdrum, boring old things until it becomes pure routine and done mechanically.

As I mentioned to someone else today, one of the simplest, yet most effective pieces of advice I have read is simply do all you can to please one another, and refrain from doing things that do not please one another. You would be surprised at how such simple advice may change your world. Yet, this doesn't mean it will be easy.

I can tell you from personal experience that my lover congratulates me on keeping things exciting, new and interesting. I keep her guessing all the time, but in a good way, and she is constantly getting little surprises that make her smile, and keep that flame of love burning fervently.

Try it, and you may discover that you both may have rekindled that flame of love that has flickered due to lack of attention. Good relationships are like that - first you light the fire, and then you continually fan the flames to keep it burning, otherwise it tends to die down, and go out.

Answer 3

Are you hard of hearing? Help him pack his bags and show him the door. Unless you have children and he is willing to go for marital counseling. If there are no children, then learn some valuable lessons and start divorce proceedings. Don't make up with him. He's gonna want to "play" you for awhile for easy sex, until he finally meets someone else. He'll be into the one-night stands a lot.

Answer 4

So what's the question? If he doesn't want to be with you and doesn't love you, I think a divorce is in order.

If you don't want to get divorced, maybe you should seek marriage counseling. Have you ever asked your husband why he doesn't want to be with you anymore? Maybe the problem is something that you could fix.

Answer 5

My heart go out to you, I think u should break up with him, if he says that then it most likely true, and you cant make some 1 love so next time he say that just up and live, if you want some1 to talk to about it or if you think I could help anymore just add me and ask me well by by

Answer 6

Life is too short to put forth the efforts and to spend your life with someone that DOESN'T love you. This is not a marriage, this is a sentence.... and NOT one you have to live out. Take the knowledge that you have gained from this marriage and put it towards your next relationship.... But don't waste your time on someone who doesnt deserve it.

Answer 7

Well then let him go. You can't make someone stay with you or fall in love with you. Sometimes men are retarded. Well at least 99.9% of the time. But once he's on his own, he might miss you and come back. Then you can decide if you really want him back.

Answer 8

Well I am guessing your questions is what to do next. You need to discuss with him what is making him so unhappy in order to not want to be with you anymore...and you need to decide if you still want to be with him. If the relationship is worth fixing..counseling...truely I know everyone says it...but it will help. And if it is not worth saving...then honey it is better to move on.

Good Luck!!

Answer 9

if u don't want to give up on ur marriage try and find the root of the problem, find out what caused him "not luv u anymore" it may not be that he doesn't luv u, but that he doesn't know how to express himself any other way. If u don't want to give up on him, don't, no matter what. try to get counceling together. i really hope it all works out. God bless!!

Answer 10

Consider if he said this out of anger or if he meant it sincerely. That's your first key.