Should a girl being carrying a condom if she's going out partying, even if she has no intent to hook up?

Question

My gf goes out with her female freinds to drink a little and dance a little with her freinds about once a month. A freind of mine and I agree that she ought to have protection on her just in case.

Both of us used to go out to the clubs, and often enough we hooked up with girls on girls nights out that we knew had or most likely had boyfreinds - or more (as in, my freind hooked up with a chick with a ring). it wasn't that they were disatisfied, but we showed them some excitement and sometimes it paid off. those were crazier days for me - and i don't live like that anymore - but there were certainly guys who were way better at scoring than i was.

so my thing is, if my gf ends up in the back seat - and i don't think she will (i just think, and at least one other guy i know has confirmed, when your out and booze is involved, **** happens) - i'd like for her not to bring anything home to me. i mean, if it happened, i'd never know. i repeat - i have no suspicion - i just think if your out partying, you ought to have proper equipment.

so is my logic sound? And how do you tell your gf she ought to have protection without 1) making a tacit accustation or 2) giving legitimacy to improper conduct?

Answer 1

Better to have one and not need it then to need one and not have it

Answer 2

No. If she is faithful, and you have no reason to doubt that she is, why would you want her to carry protection on those times when your not there?
S**T doesn't just happen. Getting drunk is no excuse for infidelity. Just don't get drunk enough to claim that you didn't know what your doing. And if your aware enough to use a condom, then you are aware enough to know you're cheating. Sound like you may be wanting to use that as an excuse yourself.
I would be truely offended if someone I was in a relationship with said that to me.

Answer 3

Hmm, if you're single, I always brought protexction because you never know, but in a reationship, theres a certain self respect you have, so unless you know you can't be strong and will let the alcohol get the better of you, condoms arent neccesary

Answer 4

Your girlfriend should have no need to bring a condom with her when she goes out.

First, she should not put herself in the position to cheat on you, regardless of what she drinks/snorts/smokes.

Second, if she gets THAT wasted and is careless enough to cheat on you, do you honestly think she will have the mental capacity to ask the guy to wear a condom?

Just a thought!

Answer 5

If the two of your weren't together, then I would say yes, definitely, she should always have one with her....but if the two of you are in a solid relationship, I don't know if it's something you should worry about.
Bringing the subject up with her has a really strong potential for an argument. It's going to sound like you don't trust her to control herself.

Answer 6

The only reason she would be carrying a condom is if she plans to use it. Women don't carry them around in case they get raped, because I doubt the rapist would care about impregnating.

You seem awfully calm about your missus getting in the back seat with someone, which I am certain she has.
Unless your codename for ".45" is "condom", then it will have no bearing.

If my missus was out partying, planning to cheat, her having a condom would be the least of our worries.

Answer 7

If she might try this once somewhat booze with somebody she does not comprehend, you mustn't be together with her. An unattached woman or guy who's out, seeking to "occasion" might desire to wish to convey acceptable secure practices....

Answer 8

Your girlfriend has no reason to carry a condom in her purse with her when she goes out for a night with the girls. She has a boyfriend. If you are going to tell her that you would like for her to carry condoms with her when she goes out with her friends, you are telling her that it is ok to sleep with other people as long as she is using a condom. Reality check. Condoms are not 100% foolproof. And if your girlfriend wanted to cheat on you, she wouldn't have to make it obvious by bringing a condom with her in her purse when she goes out with her friends. They sell condoms all over the place. I am also sure that a lot of guys carry condoms with them when they do go out to the bar or to the club. I am sure that your girlfriend cares about you and wants to have sex with just you. I think that you want to have your cake and eat it too. You want to come across as the caring boyfriend by suggesting that she carries condoms on her to protect herself and you "just in case" something were to happen. I suppose that you would also start to carry condoms on you when you go out with your guy friends, "just in case" something wants to happen. Without trust, you can't have a relationship. If you think that your girlfriend is incapable of going to the bar or a club without ending up in bed with someone, then you have a problem. But this isn't the case. You just want to sleep with other people. So, if you give your girlfriend permission to have sex with other people, you will expect permission from her to have sex with other people too. If you are unhappy with the thought of having sex with just your girlfriend, do her a favor and break up with her.

Answer 9

This to me, and probably many other people, sounds weird. You are in a relationship! You are teling your gf that if she cheats she should have protection??

It's weird. But otherwise I guess 'it's a sound argument'...
I think it's kind of sad that you're scared that she's going to cheat.

Answer 10

Dude, you rock! I think you're probably the most reasonable individual on this site. Just because she has a condom, doesn't mean she's going to need it... Tell her exactly what you've told us and hopefully she'll understand. One other thing. If she has protection and one of her friends needs it, they're covered too. See how altruistic it is...

Answer 11

well if u kno that ur not gonna hook up then whats the need 4 a condom.