they broke up because they both where flirting with other people. so about a month after they broke up he asked me out but i was like idont know cuz u were dating my friend and it would seem weird. i asked her she said it was fine. so i said yes. im still dating him but my friend is like i still like him and i want to date him. but i was like no. she flirts with him still. should i be like back off he's mines our should i say your my friend and i trust you so go and do it. i dont know what to do?
2007-06-03 11:35:54 · 16 answers · asked by Auburn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should probably just dump him. This is a no win situation really. If you say go for it she likely won't be interested. If you keep seeing him she'll keep flirting and strain your relationship as friends. Boys are great and all but I'm all about eliminating extra drama from my life.
2007-06-03 11:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong but she is also wrong. there are some lines that you just do not cross and dating friends exs are one of them. what are you thinking? It does not matter if there relationship was built on cursing or not you are just wrong. so why did you refuse to tell your friend. was it your conscience? That hurt your friend and you really do not know her if you think that it does not. even though she said that it did not matter come on - relationships are built on trust, friendship, love, togetherness, and much more. She can not trust you and it is about this not just about this guy. Imagine what she is thinking about you and the relationship that you too once shared. i have been in this same situation and it bothered me. I would never talk to the guy again and it ruined the relationship that me and the girlfriend shared. She is wrong because she was not honest with you despite what you did she should have been honest with you and let you know just how she felt. Sometimes we miss out on sharing with the person who we were supposed to share with and taking it to others. You had better watch Grace because she is not telling you all that she said. This guy could be trying to play the both of you. the one thing that you do not want and that is for this to turn into a pattern where you are always a betrayer, backstabber, and untrustworthy person. Look at yourself and ask would you like it if she did this to you!!!!!
2016-05-20 04:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they were both flirting with others while dating and broke up because of it, I wouldn't be too trusting of either one myself. The decision is really more up to the two of them, I think. If he wants to get back together with her and she with him, there's your answer. If he'd rather continue dating you, there's your answer. After all, I don't know why someone would insist on dating someone who didn't want to date them. Either way, you may have some tension or awkwardness with your friend. This is the risk you run when you date a friend's ex.
2007-06-03 11:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you were the one who broke the rules, so you need to fix this situation. There is a well known unwritten rule that you don't go out with your friends ex's, and it's there for just these problems. You need to sit down with your friend and work things out. She needs to back off, even if that mean you lose her. Either that or you need to give him back. One way or another this will end bad, that is what happens when you break the rules.
2007-06-03 11:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She gave you the ok, so she should be the one to back off, even though I personally wouldn't have dated the guy in the first place. Now that you ARE dating him, though, she has no right to talk like that.
2007-06-03 11:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by Bridget 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never hook up with your friends ex. This is never a good idea. Even though she said its ok for you to hook up with him, you know that she will still have some feelings for him. Going out with your friend's ex will only cause problems.
2007-06-03 11:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what u think is best. ask the guy ur dating and ask him if he wants to date u or ur friend. another thing u can do is just let ur friend have him and if it doesn't work out they'll break up and he may get back wit u
2007-06-03 11:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by WhyHello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off. You were a terrible friend for dating your friend's ex especially when she still likes him.
It makes me sick to know women like you exist. If you were my friend I would curse you out.
Karma will take care of people like you.
2007-06-03 11:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by SeXySoApYbUbBlEs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u say "like" a lot. and this sounds like some highschool drama...dont let a boy ruin ur friendship. if its gonna be like this, then both of u stay away from him. boys will come and go all the time and its not worth damaging a friendship.
2007-06-03 11:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by ilovemysoldier 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would keep going out with him and if things get TOO weird and messed up then break up with him and just be friends!! that would turn this situation ANSWERED!
~ Baby B
2007-06-03 11:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by ?baby B? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋