^^^I need Everybody's answer!! Is it pathetic to still live with your parents until -Marriage?

Question

Please read what im asking and answer. IM CONFUSED :-(.
----I just wanna know what you guys think. Lets say even if passed age of 21, but since you are not married, is it ok to still be living with you parents? iWork part time and go to college.

The thing is that im 19 and NOT planning to get married soon. Is it a shame that im still living withthem. Please tell me the truth. Dont you think its hard to be on your own sometimes.? I thought of it, but then im thinking, i cant have as much as i want, since i will be on my own.

----I like it this way, that im with them. Is it a shame? Am i too old, to not be planning to move out sooner or later before marriage. BE HONEST. N TELL ME ABOUT U ALSO. :-).
Thanks for your answers.

Oh yea, by the way..im too close with them. ARGUMENTS HAPPEN ALL THE TIME THOUGH. But sometimes im thinkiong, that id rather fight with them, then go live on my own.

Answer 1

It's not "pathetic" if you don't think it is. It's whatever your opinion of it is. Kids are living with their parents to older ages, these days, just because it's so much harder and more expensive to get out on your own, then it used to be.

I think it's more important for you to ask how your parents actually feel about it. If they're being inconvenienced by your presence and if you're causing a burden, then you should probably leave the nest and fly free. If they really, honestly, like having you live with them, then no problem.

There are limits, of course. If it goes on until you're 37, then you can safely start calling yourself a failure and/or a freeloader. Try to come up with some sort of plan before that happens.

I moved out of my parents place at 21, mostly because I just wanted to get out on my own. Everybody is different, on this score.

Answer 2

It is hard being on your own. I realized this once I graduated high school. I figured that I'm gonna have to move out (even though my older siblings didn't...). But I didn't think I had what it took to make it on my own. This is why I joined the military (well, A reason I joined anyway). I would be on my own, but I would still be under supervision. I joined the military at 18 (I'm 20 now), and only have 2 1/2 years left. Will I re-enlist? I hope not. Hopefully, I should have what it takes to make it on my own when I get out.

I'm not advising you to join the military, but if you feel you aren't ready to make it, then you should stay home, provided your parents are comfortable with it. But during that time, you should be preparing yourself. You work part time and go to college. That's already a good start. Stay on this path, and try bumping it up a notch as time passes. But do not wait until you're ready to be married! If you're not ready to move out of your parents' house, you will never be ready to get married! Life is a challenge. There are many problems you will face, and you will have to step up to the place eventually. But as a 19 year old (don't worry, I only turned 20 a month and a half ago), I say it's fine that you're still living at home. But start preparing yourself to live on your own, if you plan on being socially accepted by society.

Answer 3

Awww. Don't feel bad that you are still living with your parents. I'm not planning on getting married anytime soon. When I hit 19 I'll still be living at home, but I will be working part time and go to school at the same time. I have a friend whose brother still lives at home and he is about 21 but he also has a little girl, and the sad thing is that his wife left him about a month ago. Anyways, it's good that you still like living with your parents and I don't think anyone should stop you from living with your parents unless you get married and you decide to move out. It's good that you don't plan on getting married anytime soon because getting married too soon can usually lead to a divorce early on. Keep your spirits high, and don't let anyone tell that it is a bad thing to live on your own. You're right. It is harder to live on your own because you can't rely on your parents for anything, and you have to go out and buy everything that you want. Keep smiling okay?

Answer 4

My daughter will be 18 soon. She recently graduated. I wouldn't mind her staying with me until she married. Personally I would prefer it. That way I know where she is and can lend her a hand. If she were to live apart from me. I would worry that when people let her down as they have in the pass. I wouldn't be there to see her through rough times. As long as she respects and doesn't disrespect my home by fooling around in it. And coming and going at all hours. Also she must do her share in keeping her things in order. She can stay. Until she marries. If you are worried ask your parents if they mind. If they say they like having you there. That is all that matters. Your their child and I'm sure they want the best for you. You seem to be doing very well. At the moment all I hope for is that my daughter decides. If she is going to college or finding at least a part time job. I worry about her. And would like to know that if someday I'm not here. She can take care of herself.

Answer 5

hi, it incredibly is purely high-quality to stay consisting of your mothers and fathers. you're nonetheless at school and you paintings section time so your not purely residing of your mothers and fathers. you ought to stay with them until finally you get out of faculty. through fact college is what's maximum serious real now. i'm particular that's what your mothers and fathers want as nicely.yet once you progression out on your guy or woman you would be wanting extra funds after which you would be stressful how your gonna pay the charges. you purely make the effort, That way while your carried out with college get an excellent job. then you definately could purchase a house and have an excellent destiny. sturdy success with each thing

Answer 6

I say even up to 23 is OK, but much after that is well kind of lame. Your still good to go! As far as younger guy's I couldn't really answer for them, I am 36 now and I have been out on my own since I was 15, But I had different circumstances. I think it is great that you and your parents still get along good enough where you are not trying to figure out a way to get out of there. I imagine college is hard enough to worry about all on it's own. Good luck.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with it, especially since you are in college. But I wouldn't recommend getting married straight out of your parents house, you couldn't have found out who you really are and you couldn't have experienced life at that point. Relax. After college get a job, save your money to furnish your place and have a substantial amount saved for hard times and then move into your own place for a good amount of time. Date and make sure the guy has the same goals in life and can maintain his own place before you marry or move in with him. That will make your relationship stronger if you can survive dating in separate places and it will be worth your independence and make it even better when you to join together in one home.

Answer 8

If you have a reliable job that balances with college or your parents can support your living away arrangements, then you should move out.

You don't know how I stress college and education to you. As soon as you get your internship, you can pretty much live well on your own and maybe get a house or condo.By the way, have good credit. Do not depend on borrowing and loans that you cannot handle, unless you have a steady income and can make payments at ease. Do not ruin your credit!!!

By the way, good luck to you. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders.

Answer 9

I think its only pathetic if you are not contributing any money to the household or helping your parents out with any chores/duties. You shouldn't really care what other people think since you are the only one that knows your situation and if living with your parents is working for you then by all means keep living with them for as long as they will have you. If you are contributing in some way and not mooching off of them then more power to you.

Answer 10

i lived at home till i got married it was not only smart but very comfortable and i enjoyed my family quite a bit. i moved 300 miles away when i got married and i still miss my family alot. just coming home and then going out with friends and working full time it was the best years of my life and if your in colledge that is the best set up you could ask for. so many kids move out because they have terrible family's i was blessed and it sounds like you are too. these are the best years of your life, don't be thinking your waiting for your life to start and become fun its starting now you are living in the middle of the best years of your life, i envy you in a way, i wished i could go back to thse carefree times. you are not pathetic honey your smart and sounds like a great family situation to be proud of!