I´m pregnant with my boyfriends best friend child?

Question

should i have an abortion ?
i am only 1 1/2 pregnant and nobody knows it yet
OMG help me people shoult i tell my mans best friend or pretend that the baby is from my boyfriend
IM DESPERATE
please dont give pointless answers
i really need help
if i tell my boyfriend he would kill me
i know i shouldnt have slept with his best friend but it happened acdentally and i love my man

im 18 years old
and i cant tell my family cause they are very religious and conservative and im ashamed to tell my sisters

well to be honest i think i love them both - my bf and my bfs best friend

drazsah nivek] , my sisters both of them look like just like me and you can see how i look like by the avatar
why?

Answer 1

You need to tell someone. ANYONE. Go to a counsler at school, go to someone that you can trust. Just talk to someone. I think that you should probably tell your boyfriend and the truth. If you lie the truth is going to eventually come around and its going to hit you harder then if you had told the truth the whole time around. When you do tell him the truth you may want to have someone there with you for your safety incase anything happens. You definitley need to tell your parents. Regardless of their religion or political views they love you and im sure would be willing to do anything to help you.....Abortion wise, that is your choice that you would need to make on your own without any one elses opinion.

Answer 2

If you are sleeping with both how do you know whos baby it is? I believe you need to have a talk with both guys and if you have the baby a dna test would need to be done to determine who the father is . I dont think anyone accidently sleeps with someone else. This doesnt say a whole lot about your commitment to your boyfriend or your boyfriends alledged best friend. Apparently there is no respect and at this point I see no way you will ever have trust after this. So accept responsiblity for your actions and tell both of them . Personally i feel if you want to sleep around you should at least be smart enogh to get on some form of birthcontrol. I am PRO-CHOICE before conception PRO-LIFE afterwards

Answer 3

I don't know what to tell you about how to tell the B-friend or family, but as for the abortion, think about it this way: its not the baby's fault that you screwed up. why kill it just to save your self. You made a mistake, now you need to live with the consequences. The child should not be punished for it. Have the baby and raise it so it doesn't make the same type of mistakes.

Answer 4

DON'T GET AN ABORTION! If you do that then you are killing a life of a human being. Think of your baby's life first. If you put it up for adoption then the baby will always wonder "Who is my real mommy?"
You should be honest with your boyfriend. If you have a true relationship he'll understand. It is a huge deal but I would tell your parents I mean you will have sex everyone does.

Answer 5

no don't have an abortion! don't pretend that the baby is your bf's... have u seen Jerry Springer shows like these?! and your bf won't literally kill u. if u love your bf that much then tell him and if he doesn't eccept the baby hook up with the daddy. oh and half of my family is real religous too, but just like my sister your family will find out your pregnant when u get really big.

Answer 6

i think you need to tell your bf and his bff. See this is just one of the really messed up things that happens when someone is selfish and they cheat. Now you are not only going to hurt your bf and totally screw his relationship up with someone he shouldn't have trusted to begin with, but you have an innocent unborn child on the way. Stop, think of the consequences, and then act. You need to tell them both that you are pregnant, tell your parents, and for gods sake then make the choice to keep it, give it up for adoption, or have an abortion. Don't make matters worse by lying to him about it. That is like one of the lowest things besides cheating and lying someone could do.

Answer 7

have an abortion because YOU screwed around on your boyfriend? You don't deserve that baby, your boyfriend OR the boyfriend's best friend. So because you slept with someone else ON PURPOSE, you think ending the life of the baby is right. The baby's father has a right to know that he has fathered a child.

PS-having sex with someone is NOT an accident. Your clothes don't accidently fall off and you don't accidently have sex with someone.

The thought of aborting a baby to clear your conscious is disgusting.

Answer 8

You need to be an adult now. You should put your unborn child above everything else. I would never advocate abortion because that is a human being. Your child.
If you cannot keep your child there are so many couples out there who would be so happy to raise your child and love it.

Contact a pregnancy center for unwed mothers and they will help you.

Answer 9

well... i don't know how you accidently sleep with someone.
but you have to tell the truth.
and you should at least go through with the pregnacy and put the child up for adoption if you have too.

but if it hurts to much to tell the truth...just get away for a while...like when you really really start to show...make it look like you think you're gaining too much wait and say you are going to a fitness camp for about 3 or 4 months and just go rent out an apt in a differnt state get a temporary job have the babe there and put it up for adoption...well that sounds drastic but hey if you are desperate...

Answer 10

Hey man, that was just wrong, so to have this kid would be just wrong. You're already making poor decisions for yourself, and you don't know what you're doing with your life. Not to mention you are very young, Its a sad fate but i think you should have an abortion. Grow up and have your children out of love not by mistakes.