We have so many toys now they practily overrun the house! My oldest will start school this fall. What is the politist way of letting everyone not to buy her toys? I am fine with books, school supplies, or school clothing just no more toys!! Thanks!
2007-06-03 10:30:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
LOL, I think a lot of us have this problem! I would tell people straight out what to get your child, everyone wants to buy something you will actually use. Or say you are trying to get her excited for school and would welcome anything that has to do with that, backpacks, activity books, fun pencils, a first day outfit, etc....
2007-06-03 10:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by christy j 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it’s rude. Yes, it’s presumptuous. And yes, sadly, it’s becoming quite common. Asking a parent what gift her child would like is always appropriate. I’ve never met anyone who would get upset if a partygoer asked for gift ideas. But instructing party invitees regarding individual gifts is never appropriate. The two words that best describe this practice are “selfish” and “classless.” In order to request specific gifts, askers must make two or three assumptions, none of which is necessarily true. First, gift requests assume that the partygoers will actually purchase a gift. The fact that most people bring presents to birthday parties in no way makes this a safe assumption. Gifts are, by definition, bestowed voluntarily. An individual invited to a party of any kind has no obligation to bring a gift. In the case of birthdays or weddings, most people who choose not to purchase gifts also choose not to attend, so as not to offend. But while other guests may look down on a visitor who shows up at a birthday party empty-handed, asking for a gift in advance is far worse a faux pas than failing to bring one. Second, asking for a specific gift in effect assumes that the people invited to the party cannot on their own select an appropriate present. More bluntly, it suggests that the recipient doesn’t trust his friends to do the job right. When confronted with that kind of attitude, many people simply avoid the party, rendering the issue of gift selection moot. Third, by seeking a particular gift, the asker dictates how much the gift givers should spend. Not all partygoers can afford to spend the same amount, and even people of similar means will have different opinions about the appropriate amount. Those who ask for specific gifts rob the giver of the chance to make his own determination regarding how much to spend. Those who ask for cash, while showing an extra level of crassness, mercifully avoid this particular insult.
2016-04-01 00:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by Gail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the old toys and donate them to an orphanage. Little at a time by then he is ready for the b toys and xmas toys. Books are special when they are older, school supplies and clothing are tacky gifts from friends. That is the parents responsibility but not the political correct way to give a child a present for a special time. you might as well ask for money.....if you are that tacky
2007-06-03 10:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps a few suggestions, but if you child does NOT get toys, she will think people do not like her. Let her rejoice in her childhood and get toys. And donate some not being used now to a charity or swap or garage sale others to create more space for a few new ones.
2007-06-03 11:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would simply state to the family that if they want to buy something for my daughter, that the child has too many toys already, but they would really like some books, etc.
2007-06-03 10:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by Searcher 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I always begin like this," I hope you won't mind me telling you this......" Then explain in a nice tone of voice, try to be very apologetic in tone, that your child has lots of toys and ( please) not to give her any for her birthday. The friend might then ask (hopefully) "What would she like?" or "What could I get her?" Then you can suggest whatever.
2007-06-03 12:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Globetrotter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell them: hello friends we would appreciate it if all kiddo's gifts (if you didn't already buy something) we beg of you that all gifts shall be gift certificates or birthday-cards only.we are quickly running out of rooms (plural for effect "rooms") for kiddo's toy .. and then (put in your funniest least child and self deprecating manner say :) unless kiddo picks out the gift himself he spends more time playing with the box.. kiddo is just so picky .ha ha ha .....or whatever .. make sure to use your own language not verbatim from this .. it sells better ... much more convincing and will be better received.....
2007-06-03 10:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by da_muse327 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Politely state in on the insert card of the invitation. Maybe on the reverse side of the directions. If you'd like state why most parents will understand and choose alternatives like gift cards instead.
2007-06-03 10:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmmm, I wouldn't say that at all. Plus it's your kids birthday, don't you want her to have a great day and get things that actually interest her? I wouldn't risk offending the guests and at the same time get a disappointed birthday girl.
2007-06-03 11:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by NoSurrender 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your script could go something like this:
"Please do not buy toys as gifts for my child's birthday". You will probably get a lot of cooperation.
2007-06-03 10:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by howaboutthat 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋