i have been dating a girl for the past 11yrs now i love the girl very well but my parent didn't like her family there was this other girl i meet her when i was in school i have been going out with her for the past six years now but i don't like her like first girl that i have been dating before her now am ready to settle down but don't know who to choose
2007-06-03 10:12:56 · 28 answers · asked by peter b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
pig your getting married
what do you mean who should you pick
2007-06-03 10:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
honestly I would just wait it out. eventually it will become clear to you who you really love... things could change in a day, or could take 11 years. but you wouldn't want to jump into a marriage where you will regret something. but I see your point... 11 years is a long time, if you need to make your decision now, I would go with the first girl. to be together for 11 years is a really special thing. you seem uncertain about the second girl and plus you met her in school, a confined place where people usually rush into relationships, whereas the other girl, you met unintentionally (I think) which makes it all the more real. If I were you, I would break up with the second girl, and see how things are with the first one. I don't think you should marry next month, but be with the one girl for a while so you know who you are devoted to, so you can actually mean it when you say I love you.
2007-06-03 17:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kathleen Comber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GET MARRIED NEXT MONTH!! If you already have one foot out the door NOW, do your fiancee a favor and don't marry her until you are committed to only her. sounds like you are not. If I were her, trust me, I'd much rather break off an engagement than go through a messy divorce if you think you might leave her for this other woman - ESPECIALLY if she does not know about your relationship with this other woman. You say you are ready to settle down, but it really doesn't sound like it. good luck.
2007-06-03 17:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by sepiarose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Choose 1 or give them both up.
Which one are you marring? She has to know the truth before she shells out a lot of money that she may not get back.
If you marry 1 and then continue to see the other 1 also,you will commit adultery-grounds for divorce and a lot of money out of your wallet.
We can't answer the question for you,in the end you must decide.
If you can't give up 1,don't get married-you can always see if both are willing to share you under 1 roof.
2007-06-05 09:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting married next month, you said. By now, the invitation has been sent, the reception hall paid for and all the details are being taken care of. So, what the H*** you are saying now that you do not know what to do. Take your A** to the church with the girl whose name is printed on the invitation card. By the way, before the nuptial service, have at least one beer so you can blame your bad choice on alcohol.
2007-06-03 17:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are torn between two women, then you do not need to be marrying a dam soul! What you are doing is wrong and unfair! You don't know what to do? Here's what you do, put yourself in your future bride's shoes, and just try to imagine what it would be like to know that for six of the eleven years you two have been together, she was unfaithful! would you marry yourself if the **** hit the fan and you found this out after you said "I Do"?? Think about it..........
Although your bride to be does not know, who's to say she won't find out? You really need to think things over before making such a selfish choice.
2007-06-03 17:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by BRIDGETTE R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, a period every now and then would help us sort out your sentences and know when one ends and another begins. Second, you are in NO shape to be getting married if you "don't know who to choose". You need to let your bride to be know as soon as possible. The wedding day is a day that all girls dream about from a young age. DO NOT break her heart by leaving her at the altar. You need to make you intentions (and NON intentions) be known.
2007-06-03 17:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by for me to know, you to not... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way. Think of being without them and whichever one you love is the one that it is going to be hardest to live without. Then once you've decided you need to wait a while because you dont appear ready to commit just yet. When you love someone they are the only person you ever want to be with and the thought of being with another person is disgusting. I love my fiance so much I cant even think about letting another man touch me. Until you feel that way you shouldnt get married.
2007-06-03 18:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready to marry either of them. Straighten out your feelings for both. Marriage is a serious commitment. You don't want to make a mistake on this. You have been dating both of these women for a long time. One of them is going to have to go. Once she is gone, she better be gone for good or it's going to overshadow your new life, which isn't fair to your wife. Once you choose, it's got to be final. Ask yourself which one you positively couldn't live without seeing again for the rest of your life. That's her.
2007-06-03 21:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jersey Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to read you post several times. It made no sense dude. But you should NOT marry any of them AT ALL just to SETTLE DOWN. Come on dude, you're just making your family family happy not you and especially not the girl you're marrying. DON"T break her heart.
2007-06-03 17:32:00 · answer #10 · answered by n10zguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both ladies need to see you for the cheating scumbag you are and kick you to the curb...you've been leading two ladies on for this long, you're a jerk. I hope these ladies read yahoo answers or have friends that do and know your log-in id and rat you out.
2007-06-03 17:24:32 · answer #11 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋