I'm 25, bf 24. Relationship of 4 yrs.
We fight over very small stuff, usually he picks fights about stupid stuff and makes them big, to the point of saying "why did i marry this hag?" we're not married, by the way. At others, i'm the one making a fuss, but usually because he insists on accusing me of not being trustworthy, (which not to be full of my self, i am!), and even though i've told him something lots of times he insists it's otherwise. Or because he's going on and on about how he'll have girls all over him when he gets ripped and has lots of money. Even then i don't make things that tense, i just tell him to stop it.
When i try to talk to him about it, he mocks me and says "oh poor princess". And says that i'm the screw up and blame him for it. I see it's the other way around! I don't blame him for my stupidity, just his. I do own up to it when i know i'm wrong. Just wish he did the same. I know he feels he's missing out on playing the field, could all this be because of it?
2007-06-03 09:14:28 · 11 answers · asked by jade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've had talks about the playing the field part, he says he would LOVE to. But that he's making an effort to be with just me, cause he knows he'll lose me if he does it. Sometimes it seems like that's all that he has on his mind though. And then the stupid fights, then blaming me, me not being able to say anything because it gets worse, me getting acused of not wanting to be with him or not caring...
I do care, and he insults me all the time, and most are really uncalled for. And when i say he's saying stupid things, he gets all offended because i'm insulting him. What is going on?
What should i do? When he's not picking silly fights we are very ok and happy. At least me...
2007-06-03 09:18:41 · update #1
Petty squabbles are bound to happen, especially within a relationship of that duration. You just have to work through them. No relationship is perfect, there will always be problems. You love the guy, there's no denying that. You both are going to have to work through your troubles, but it seems like there's nothing that has arisen thus far to jepordize the integrity of your relationship. But talk with him about it. Relationships take work. The clock has struck, and the testing will now begin.
2007-06-03 09:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by Niko? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he has a real problem with anger management and blame, and laying all his ill will on you. Like the one person said, when we're older, we see things differently, and I can say from my vantage point many years your senior that you should cut and run. This isn't going to get any better and loving him won't make him change. There truly are people who will love you without this disrespect. Get out now, and don't go back.
2007-06-03 09:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its funny what we learn as we get older. When we are young it is more fun to be in relationships that make our hearts flutter and our heads ache. If we stopped the challenge of making our loved ones work to keep us, where would the excitement be? You just have to decide how hard you want work to keep his ego happy and is that to be more important than your happiness. I wasted 10 years with this type of realationship and found that you are the only person who can answer this question.
2007-06-03 09:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by penny B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. You need a MAN. Your boyfriend sounds like he's still a teenager living at home, and he needs to really, REALLY grow up. Hope you guys aren't living together. Give yourself a reality check and ask yourself if you see yourself in this relationship five, ten years from now. You need someone that you can have a true relationship with. Quit settling for someone you are having to babysit.
2007-06-03 09:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've been in a relationship for 4 years and this is still going on it's time to ask yourself if it's worth it.
Love is wonderful...but it doesn't fix everything. There's something missing on both sides here.....respect.
2007-06-03 09:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it's time to tell him good bye. Find somebody who will treat you better than he does. You do deserve to be treated with kindness. After the time you've been together, it should be better than the way to describe it. Don't settle for less.
2007-06-03 09:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maturity comes slower for some...... and guys do mature slower than most females..... sorry guys !!! but is well known..... and I do have 3 sons...... and 5 grand sons, so I do know a little about the males of this world !!!!! it all comes down to what you are willing to put up with... are you willing to wait for him to grow up ?? are you willing to put up with all the *little boy* tantrums ??? your call here....... God bless
2007-06-03 09:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IDK approximately dating suggestion .... yet as far as etiquette and protocol is going ... whoever the lady grew to become into that positioned her Award down onto the floor of the degree final night on the Golden Globes. (i do no longer even comprehend her call. i attempted to look it up and that i nonetheless can no longer discover it!) No clue who she is, yet in spite of everything .... *ugh* that grew to become into SO cheesy and disrepectful i grew to become into thoroughly a great deal stunned. She positioned her Golden Globe onto the degree floor to grant her acceptance speech .... are you kidding me? xoxo ?
2016-12-30 16:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ol' man just needs to grow up
2007-06-03 09:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like an awful lot of childish games.
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2007-06-03 09:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by fitzovich 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋