How can I stop obsessing about my looks?

Question

When I was a kid, I was considered a "nerd" and "the ugly girl" at my school. It didn't help matters much that I was born with a "lazy eye" and that I didn't know how to fix my hair properly or put on the best makeup.However, when I was 22, I was finally able to get my lazy eye surgically corrected, so that was one problem that was solved. Since then, I've learned how to dress well, apply makeup properly, and wear the right haircut. However, I STILL feel like the nerd and the ugly girl!I've been told by a few people that I'm attractive, though I still occasionally have heard a few people comment negatively on my appearance. Also, I don't exactly have guys beating down my door.Above all else, though, I want to stop feeling so damned self-conscious! I sometimes find myself staring in the mirror to see if I look ugly or not. (Some days I think I do, and others I don't.) How can I stop worrying about my looks and just relax?

Answer 1

I went through something similar. I always felt like an ugly duckling. In our society women are judged by their looks and we cant help but check our mirrors constantly. And if you have been teased you even more self conscious. Just try to think about the other things you do well in life. Concentrate on hobbies and interests. Its easy to get carried away with superficiality.

Answer 2

You can't go wrong with being yourself. Take a look at magazines; it may seem like celebrities have got it all -- the fame, the success and the fortune. While that may be true, but with the same chances, it may not... most of them lead very insecure lives underneath under all of their popularity and Prada shoes and luxurious mansions. Think about it: even Miley Cyrus. Or take a look at Britney Spears for example. They might feel too fat or too ugly or heck knows what so I guess everybody always wants what others want: a hot body, a glamorous shopping life and a boyfriend. Don't worry honey! It's not that you're not good enough for anyone, no body is good for YOU! There's a big difference in those two, just saying. You may want to read Teen Vogue or the "fashion" issues of People magazine that they host once a month. They've got pretty cheap -- yet sometimes pricey -- items. But once in a while, try volunteering at shelters or at local hospitals and while making a difference to the community and beyond, meaning to the world around us in general, you will notice how fortunate we are that even though we aren't always super-model material, we've got what we need: health and family. :D And who knows? Maybe volunteering can help you both academically or for your own sake. You may need community service hours for school or it might -- just might -- help you find yourself. Who knows? I reaaaaaaally hope I helped! But don't take chances!

Answer 3

Have you ever heard the story of the ugly duckling who became a beautiful swan?...well,...because you didn't like the way you looked, you worked very hard to change that..and I hope it is just for you...There is nothing wrong with being concerned about your looks..it's when you stop, is when it is really kinda sad...but,..don't obsess, and don't worry about what others think right now..the only one you need to make happy, is you..and when you get to that point, you'll stop checking yourself out every five minutes..

Answer 4

I hope you can stop obsessing. Contrary to popular opinion, our popular" looks are going to go. A woman who accepts the changes with dignity and respect for who she is and where she has been is very beautiful Look at the poor women who use plastic surgery. They look weird. The women who use botox look weird. Look inside and bring that out. That's what lasts. The outside of us naturally sags. When a person uses unnatural means to maintain a certain look, it fails miserably. Look at poor Joan Rivers. But a woman who is comfortable with herself, has a good opinion of herself, at any age you will see she glows. Get a good feeling about yourself, do things to help other people or animals, and you will find that you are very attractive because of what you do for others.

Answer 5

well its quite simple u just tell your self every morning when you wake up im a very pretty girl in the world there are just ugly people that dont think so

Answer 6

Consider the following: "each of us is "like a snowflake"... "no two are ever alike"!!!

Or... remember the story... of The "Ugly" Duckling, that turned into a Beautiful Swan???

We ARE MORE... that our OUTWARD APPEARANCE!!!

In SOCIETY... WOMEN are "culturally conditioned" and MANIPULATED by the BILLION DOLLAR "FASHION" INDUSTRY... to JUDGE THEMSELVES against OTHER (EXTREME EXAMPLES) WOMEN... and, MEN are "culturally conditioned" to EXCEL in PHYSICAL ACTIVITIES (SEXUAL ENDURANCE) and SPORTS!!!

To GET OUT of that DESTRUCTIVE mindset... LOOK at, what's INSIDE of you... INSTEAD of what's on the OUTSIDE...

INTELLIGENCE or "NERDINESS"... comes with ITS OWN BEAUTY!!!

So... share THAT part of yourself... with OTHERS!!!

Also, watch the T V shows... UGLY BETTY... or HEROES... and "SEE" how your perception of yourself... CHANGES!!!

Since, BOTH of those shows, focus on PLAIN and ORDINARY looking people... who have EXTRA-ORDINARY (NERDY) TALENTS and SKILLS!!!

Good Luck

Answer 7

get rid of all mirrors, stop watching tv, and reading magazines

Answer 8

Dress up like a hooker and get all the wrong kind of attention you want!