Can someone tell me if I'm wrong?

Question

My girl and I are really going through it right now and I need to know from others if I'm at fault. Last night, my girl went to a party for her stepmother which had been planned for sometime and I was cool with that. I was even babysitting her best friends kids so she could go also. At the end of the night, the plan was for her to come back to her girlfriend's house with me. At 2 thirty in the morning, her girl comes in but my girl is not with her. She tells me that my girl was to drunk to drive and went to her mothers house to crash which was cool. I call my boy at like 3 something and he tells me that she in the club. Was I wrong for blowing up

ohh this is his girlfriend and he aint tellin u the hole story? they took my keys gave them to my sister and bye the way my house key is on it and when i went home i realize i can get in so.....my sister told me to come of the rail side which is a bar and wait until she leave and im going with her when she leaves so........ yall can call me a lier or slut what ever but he didnt tell the hole story....

Answer 1

Hell no! That's two lying sluts her friend lied for her too.

Answer 2

that's weird that your friend would know exactly where she was at...anywho, you're not wrong for blowing up but you could have gone about it in other ways. 1, you could have made sure by either going to her mother's house or calling her up to see if she was were her friend said she was (and to score some points for checking if she was feeling alright) 2. after doing that and finding that her friend was lying, you could have either 2a. let it side and trust that she wasn't doing anything but having a fun time or 2b. go down to the club pretending to be someone different and surprise her (there you could say something cynical like "oh me and the kid got so drunk that we decided to crash at your mom's house to" or you can get serious)

but that whole scenario all hinges on word of mouth. her friend spoke for her and your friend was your eyes. but i assume you already confronted her and she admitted to this so i say you were in the right. but look at it this way, would you rather have fun or sit at home? probably have fun, so maybe she just wanted to let loose for awhile. this is more of a sign that you need to be less demanding and fun than nagging and dull, that's if the the relationship is that way.

Answer 3

Well, blowing up at a girl like that is never a solution, but maybe she just wanted a little independence! On the other hand, it really doesn't seem like you were in the wrong because after all you did just so she could go to a party, she could at least come home and thank you, so it seems like you're owed an apology from her.

Answer 4

No your not wrong. But if anyone you need to be mad at your girls friend who lied to you. But maybe she did end up going home and went to the club unstead. Your a good person to trust her at a party. At a club thats a different story. Your not wrong just try to keep your cool and camly ask her what happened and how you feel about it.....then she what your boys side of the story is. And figure out what went wrong....

I hope this helps =]

Answer 5

Hell no!!!!!!!!!!! She was wrong, dead wrong. Don't give in, make and let her apologize first. Tell her put the shoe on the other foot. You took your vaulable time and baby sat someone else's kids, when you could have been out yourself doing whateva. But no you tried to be a good bf to her and a nice person to her friend. Her friend mind you, she's not even your friend. You didn't have to do that. That's not your responsibility. But she turned around and did this, no way. She ****** up and I would get her back!!!

Answer 6

No, you were not wrong for blowing up. She didn't hold up her end of the bargain by coming home to you. If she had stayed at her Mom's because she drank too much that would have been different. But she didin't...she went out clubbing without you.

Answer 7

First off...get all the facts! If your boy was right, then you need to ask her why she felt she had to lie about it. You have every reason to be upset. If on the other hand, your boy's info was off, you need to ask her about it (without being judgmental) and get to the bottom of the it. Remind her that if she cares about you she should try and be honest with you and if you are already having probs in the relationship...lying is only going to widen the gap between you.

Answer 8

No, your not wrong, you have every right to be a little perturbed on this one! She took advantage of you. AND she lied. That's the hard one, not being able to trust her after this. And I would let her know it, but not give her the chance to respond and defend herself. (because you'll just hear the excuses and fall for them, then she'll just do it again!) Just not speak for a couple of days and let her think on it.
You were a real nice guy in doing this, but nice guys get crapped on by spoiled and immature women. Maybe you should re-think the relationship.

Answer 9

no, if she didnt tell u she was going to the club some trust i guess is missing between u to, obviously she didnt tell u and she might have been trying to pull a fast one, keep ur eye on her just in case she tries something like that , i might be wrong but some females are some unstabled creatures

Answer 10

There are two ways to look at this.

1) You are a selfish bastard for not allowing her to blow off steam on her own.

2) She is being selfish because she didn't keep her word and went to a club without her man.

I lean towards number 2, but you can decide for yourself.

Answer 11

well did you talk to her about it?
like indirectly ask her when she left the bar
with her friend
and no, you are not wrong for blowing up
however, just maybe approach it differently from now on
tell her that you wouldn't have been mad that she didnt come over after
all you wouldve liked was a phonecall perhaps just to make sure she is doing ok