hi, ive lived with my mum since birth, when i see my dad its usally between 1-3 weeks, its kool i see my half siblings too, which obviously we get on greatly and never call oursleves halves, when i go up there i share rooms with my bro, its great and all a good laugh,
however i dont have my own room, house is being extended and im not being built a room, does anyone think that might be my stepmum not wanting me to live there? plus is my not havin my own room harsh?
please answer
2007-06-03 05:58:47 · 9 answers · asked by lukeyboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It seems like you want to live there permanently.
That isn't really up to you alone. It is something that should be talked about with everyone involved. Your parents have a legal agreement to share custody. It is common for both parents to keep a room or space for you to stay and to have some permanent things kept, but not required of them.
It is very expensive to renovate. I do electrical work on alot of renovation jobs. County ordinances limit size of construction as well. If anything you will benefit from the addition because more space for everyone means more space for you. Dont look at it so selfishly, just continue to enjoy the environment and the people.
2007-06-03 06:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta kinda look at it like this...if your only there for a few weeks out of the year why would they add another room onto the house just for you. It might not be your step mum, it might be that moneys tight and they need more room period. Who is to say that they are not making space for you in the extended part of the house. Don't assume anything, if relationships between you, your father, and the rest of your fam is good, go with it...don't make trouble if there isn't any.
2007-06-03 06:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pin this on her. Being a step parent is tough. Trust me, I know. Just because she is sort of the "odd man out" does not mean that she is against you.
You might not be getting your own room because they feel like you are just not their enough to warrant building a room for. No offense to you, but building is a very costly project. Besides, you say that you are cool with sharing, so maybe they think that sharing is the best route to go for now.
I wouldn't sweat it. If you are cool with sharing, then why worry? I mean soon you will all be moving out and starting your own lives, and will see each other very little. So take advantage of the time you have together now.
Besides, you have your own space at your Mom's right?
2007-06-03 06:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it may work out more about money and creating the space that is needed for the people that live there year round. If you were there more then one to three weeks then your own room would be feasable, but it would sit empty the other 49 weeks out of the year!
If your stepmum didn't want you there, you would be on the sofa, instead of in with your siblings, or you just wouldn't be there at all I am thinking.
2007-06-03 06:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It costs an awful lot to build on another room for someone who is only there 1-3 weeks. If they have a large family already money is usually tight. She probably sees how well you all get along being in one bedroom when you are there. Have you told them you might want to live with them? Is it practical to live with them? Would your Mom really ever allow it? Don't take it personal and get your feelings hurt until you can answer these questions.
2007-06-03 06:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over reacting. Adding another room is expensive. Why would they add a room when you are only there for a few weeks? You step mom wants you there, but she is being realistic about expenses.
What in the world makes you think you should have your own private room?????
2007-06-03 06:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually, a lot of times, step parents don't want more kids in the house, but i think that they just don't think it's neccessary. it's like, if you went on vacation for a couple of weeks, you probably wouldn't get your own room. same kinda thing. A lot of people have to share rooms, so, no, it's not harsh.
2007-06-03 06:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by kaylarose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who ur step mom is.however not having a room is harsh if there is a financial potential 2 build an extra 1.
2007-06-03 06:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by Edward Great 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please explain to me why you need your own room when you are only there once every 3 weeks? That's a waste of space. You have your own room at your mom's house. Get over it.
It has nothing to do with you stepmom. She's not making additions, her and your father are. If you have a problem with someone, it should be your father.
2007-06-03 06:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋