I was invited to a wedding then they said no kids under 16 can come to the reception should I be mad??????!!!!!!
2007-06-03 05:57:16 · 21 answers · asked by unknown person 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
its my cousine isnt that not fair im under 16 and no one under 16 can come thats not fair she still thinks im a kid im not im a teenager
2007-06-03 07:52:01 · update #1
I'd be mad too! It was rude and hurtful for them to invite you then uninvite you. I'm sorry.
Try to be supportive of them. You can at least go to the ceremony if not the reception. That way you can still be involved in the wedding.
2007-06-03 06:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
nah I wouldn't be mad you are still invited to the wedding, just not the reception, but I don't know what reason they would have for you not to go. If it was because of the alcohol then why didn't they put no one under 21 can come to the reception? Maybe they don't want anyone under 16 at the reception causing a raucous or acting up. Just a thought though, if you really wanted to go then I would ask them if you could as long as you behave or maybe find out why they don't want anyone under 16 there?
2007-06-03 06:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by PennyLane 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, when pre-planning a wedding, a bride-to-be might imagine that she'll be inviting everyone she knows to her wedding. Then when it comes down to details, something like agreeing with her groom that no one under the age of 16 or second cousins, is invited to the reception happens. It's just a hard fact of being an adult to have to make those decisions.
Your relationship with your cousin sounds very important to you though. Give her a really nice card anyway or even a small token gift, like a picture or a knick-knack for her home. An even better idea is to invite her and her groom over to your house, after they get back from the honeymoon, and make them a nice lunch or small dinner so they can share pictures of the event with you!
I'm sure she feels bad about having to retract her invitation to you, try not to make her feel worse about it and damage your relationship. After all, maybe one day she'll have a daughter who will be a flower girl in your wedding!
2007-06-03 10:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by ihavethat45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First things first - you weren't invited then un-invited. You were invited to the wedding, just not the reception. The ceremony is what the wedding is all about...not the reception. You were invited to that and you should go. My husband and I chose to have an adult reception for 2 reasons. 1. Cost. If we allowed everyone to bring their kids, our families would have had to have paid $85 a plate for at least 20 more people. 2. We simply didn't want children running around wild on the most important day of our lives.
It is nothing personal toward you that they chose to organize their event in this way. They're doing what is right for them and this is certainly not the time to be angry with people. Go to the ceremony, be happy for them and wish them well.
2007-06-03 06:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by Snickers 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no! Planning a wedding is very expensive bottom line! It's not the wedding couples responsibility to make sure people under 21 do not drink. The real reason most likely is b/c they have to pay per head.Most catering companies will charge full price for a plate for a 16 yr old and will not deduct you from the total bar tab. You should feel honored that they wanted you to witness the ceremony they really thought you were important to be there, but maybe was unable to afford the catering tab. It's a very common practice sweetie.
2007-06-03 06:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by queenofthehill 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the wedding was for somebody that you cared about and stuff, then I can see why you'd be kinda mad-you wanna be there with them at a important time in their life. But as hard as it may seem to understand, it is their wedding and the couple can plan it however way they want. If you have a gift for the couple, see if somebody can drop it off at the reception for you. It's definetly okay to feel sort of mad right now, but try to cool off and remember that it probably had nothing to do with you personally and there are more important things to use your energy for-so don't waste it on somebody's wedding plans.
'Hope I helped!!
2007-06-03 06:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
were you invited to the wedding or the reception?? and r u under 16?? and why with the under 16 thing that stupid unless all they have is alchohalic bev. but still. and i had that happen to me too i would kinda be mad but unless you were really close to the wedding party then it's no big deal and why even to to the wedding then thats what i think
2007-06-03 06:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Kristina S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most likely it's because alcohol will be involved...but I see where you are comming from. How are you parents supposed to go to the reception if you cant? If you are under 16 when you cant drive....I'd talk to your cousin especialy if you are close to being 16, maybe she'd make an exception.It could also be to help make the reception cheaper food wise too....but most likely I'm guessing its the alcohol.
2007-06-03 08:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Are you paying for any of it? If you have kids that are under 16 find something else they can do if you want to go to the wedding. If you are the one under 16 find something else to do. The bride and groom have the right to have the wedding and reception of their choice.
2007-06-03 06:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For clarification, it is YOU who is under 16? Or is it that you have kids under 16? And is it that you can go to the wedding and not the reception?
I would not be upset or mad. You are invited to the wedding, the most important part of the day.
You still didn't clarify for us in your details...
Are you invited to the wedding but not the reception?
Or were you invited to both but then they disinvited you to the reception?
Or were you invited to both then they disinvited you to the wedding and reception?
2007-06-03 06:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋