How do you mend a broken heart?

Question

Been married once got over it........ done 13 years with my ex and I cant get over it............ everyday hes in my mind. hes with someone else . Been meeting him and took my revenge my texting the new woman. Yesterday I saw him and he said "Thanks Alot" and turned away. Im so lonely and crying now WHAT CAN I DO

Answer 1

Does anyone here really believe that at this precise moment, this poor girl needs to be told "give it time"?! Yes of course time will help, but RIGHT NOW, straight after what's happened, the days - never mind the weeks and months ahead - are hard for you.

At the moment, what you are feeling is a kind of grief for your relationship with your ex. He has treated you very badly, not least for coming to you after the break up and exploiting the feelings he knows you have for him. He has no right to say "thanks a lot" like that because he has hurt you badly, and ultimately he is the one who has caused all of this in the first place.

It's easier for me to say than for you to do, I know - but cut all contact with him, because he doesn't deserve you and it's likely he will continue to treat you badly for as long as he is allowed to get away with it.

For the time being, take this one day at a time - cry when you need to, talk to friends and family, if at all possible get away for a while. You will feel better and you will get stronger - sit out this difficult part and be good to yourself. You deserve better than a man who can make you feel this way.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Texting the new woman hasn't helped and hasn't made u feel any better, but ur hurt, it's understandable. Why have u been meeting him? If he's with someone else he can't be in contact with u as well, he probably likes that ur hurt, it gives men a sense of power or control and whilst ur still meeting him, he's getting the best of both worlds - comfort with u after being together for 13 years and then meeting a new woman. I think the best thing is to break contact with him, and remember, this new woman will probably go through all of this, but being his ex u really shouldn't text her. Let her seal her own fate. I know it's hard but try not too cry too much, there's nothing wrong with crying but smiling is so much better! I hope ur broken heart gets mended soon and u find happiness again x

Answer 4

Yikes. I am sorry. When you get married you always want the person you marry to be your best friend. When it ends, it is like having your heart ripped out. I was in the same situation and I know how bad if felt. Like with any grieving, though, you will go through stages. First is denial, then anger, then dispare, then acceptance. Expect this to be a two year process. During that time you should figure out who you are alone. DO NOT GET INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP. Find out who you are and what makes you happy. We are all creatures of habit. There are chemicals in our brain that form neural pathways... when we do something often enough the pathways are coated and the habit is firmly engrained. People are treated that way. So, for you, there is a chemical pathway that is like a mind superhighway. To shut it down, stop all traffic and don't use it. Find alternate routes. Cut off all contact; no phone calls, no texting, no emails. If it is right it has to be right for both and it wasn't for him. Why would you want someone to be in a relationship wtih you that doesn't want to be? There are plenty of fish in the sea, my dear.

Answer 5

Well now to anser your question you mend a broken heart with time. To deal with the other problem you ask for what you got. You should not have done what you did. With time you will get over this but the only thing i can hope for is that your learned a lesson from what happened. Women are bad about trying to get a man that they do not think about what can go wrong. This was a bad choice but with time will get better. Just remember this the longer it takes to more men will walk past without seeing you. Pick yourself up and move on. Live and learn from the mistakes that you make.

Answer 6

Well its hard to get over a relationship that long and i can imagine what your feeling like, when i split with my boyfriend you just want revenge but then it only makes it worse & deep down you still want them back:( If i was you i would take your mind off it by going out and meeting other guys, or doing things you enjoy to make yourself feel good, like people same over time i will get easier, its just the pain that hurts and all you want to do is cry, i know how u feel hunni :( x

Answer 7

I know at the moment u feel like life is at a standstill and you think about your ex everyday but start to pick up ur life again, hangout with your friends, get into a hobby and start to enjoy yourself again. Over time it will get better and although u cant really ever forget them, at least be friends so their still a part of your life and just remember the good times. Someone else will come along to love when u least expect it but remember time helps

Answer 8

1st of all do you have friends? CLOSE ONES.. if not then find some!!! you need someone to confide in.... 2nd step is going out and meeting new people... you were too good for this ex of yours alright honey! now go out there and have fun... you only live once so dont spend the rest of your life depressed. youre probably gorgeous with a great personality and dont deprive the world of such things ok? ice cream and chocolat seem to help quite a bit to=) GIRL POWER lol=);) you can do this be strong!!! -xxxoooxxx

Answer 9

Nothing can mend a broken heart... once a part of your heart had gone missing, you will forever have a broken heart....

You will always miss that jeark, wondering if you can do better, if it's your fault, what if things are different, or maybe, just maybe, there is this tiny little hope that you guys can get back togethere..

Answer 10

Keep your eyes and ears open, the next Mr. Right is on his way. A broken heart is Never really truly mended. But it gets better over time .