Not long ago i met a guy. I had a bit of fun with him, nothing serious, and then found out he had a girlfriend. I felt terrible because of how she would feel if she found out, because she was supposedly 'so in love with him'. I then thought, it's okay, because she won't even find out and her feelings will be protected. The next day he dumped her for me (i didn't ask him he just kindof did). But I don't think she knows he cheated. Anyway, I now feel that I don't even like this guy as much as I should, but don't want to turn him away because he dumped his girlfriend for me, but at the same time i don't want to lead him on.
Help?
2007-06-03 05:23:09 · 18 answers · asked by dollothy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are in a lose lose situation i would say and you have to turn this around so that it is a winner for you...dont lead him on it was a one time thing and you dont like him.....and he obv wasnt satisfied with his ex girlfriend because he cheated and you shouldnt take the blame for that because you didnt know and last of all if they were so in love he can make up a bullshit excuse for breaking up with her and she will take him back trust me
2007-06-03 05:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not boyfriend material. Not only do you not like him that much but you also know that he is a cheater. You have every right to be angry with him too because he didn't tell you that he had a girlfriend. I mean, what if she found out and all of her friends starting giving you a hard time? You don't deserve that. Tell him that and that you're not interested in dating him. Then move on because he kind of sounds like a loser.
2007-06-03 12:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by koi-ness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be kidding me????? Why did you continue to talk to him after you found out he had a girlfriend? he sounds like hes pretty relationship depedant and no you shouldnt feel guilty to dump him and ill tel you another thing i would do is call up his ex and let her know what he did to her...it will set her free of all the questions still probably floating through her head about why he dumped her because she probably had no clue! and if you dont dump him ........you are a sitting duck, cuz hes gonna do it to you too.
2007-06-03 12:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by IM ALLERGIC TO LIARS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not intrested in him than you need to tell him. Besides he should have made sure you were going to be together before he dumped his girlfriend. Why do you care about her feelings you don't know her or how she may have treated him. Stick to the matter at hand now do you trust him?
2007-06-03 12:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by kwareman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him be honest, like you said he dumped without you asking. if you don't like him dump him you can't date someone just because the dumped a girlfriend for you.
that is if he really had a girlfriend it depends on who it was who told you that this girl was really in love with him as if it was him then i would consider than maybe he is signin his own praises.
go with what you feel don't do it out of guilt as it may have been a lie!
2007-06-03 12:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by lost Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so the other girll... yeahh it sucks big time for her but you cant bring this upon yourself.. you didnt know he had a gf so it is completely not your fault(if you felt comfortable enough you could go and confess the situation to her but i think that what is in the past should stay in the past) so now you're with him and you feel you dont have anything for him anymore??? well then end it.. dont stay with him just because he broke up with his gf... that was his choice and things werent even that serious between the 2 of you meaning he either made a foolish mistake and\or he obviously didnt feel very strongly for his gf,..it wouldve ended anyway.. so end it with him and stop feeling guilty.. you are perfectly innocent in this situation lol =);)
2007-06-03 12:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by girl_next_door_red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is going to stop him from doing this same situation when he's with you. He dumps his girlfriend and then wants to start dating you the next day....um are you a rebound girl? She doesn't need to know that he had cheated on her unless he tries to win her back. He sounds like a real catch.
2007-06-03 12:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't turn him away, you are leading him on. You definitely don't want this guy, he has already proved himself to be a liar and a cheat.
He should be the one to feel terrible, he didn't tell you he had a gf and he cheated on her with you. Tell him the truth, you don't want a liar and a cheat.
2007-06-03 12:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u should feel guilty.My ex boyfriend cheated on me and dumped me when i found out his dirty tricks.Be careful because my ex is still chasing me .I had to changed my phone number because i dint wants to be with him. Remember what goes around, comes back around.He cheated ,what makes you think he will not do it again? Thinks u dint wants people to do to you ,dont do it to them.
2007-06-03 12:37:18 · answer #9 · answered by FATMATA K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well by staying with him when you don't like him as much as you thought is leading him on.. I'd dump him before he dumps you like he did to his ex.
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2007-06-03 12:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by heart_x_surgery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋