I just started a new job and one of my coworkers has a crush on me. I have no interest in dating this person and I didn't want to be mean so when he started asking me about my personal life and worked up to "Do you have a boyfriend?" I said that I did so that he wouldn't ask me out. He looked disappointed but it hasn't seemed to deter him. He keeps following me around and asking me all kinds of questions about what I like and what my hobbies are and I don't really know how to deal with it. I don't want to be rude but it's getting annoying and it's making me uncomfortable. He's a very nice, considerate person and the rest of our coworkers love him, I don't want to create a scene. What should I do?
2007-06-03 04:09:31 · 17 answers · asked by insomniac 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you love your job? Do you want to stay? Then tell him politely and in private that you are not interested. BE FIRM! If he doesn't stop tell him you'll report him and report him if he won't stop. The longer you let it go the worst it'll get. It's better to be upfront as soon as possible before things get out of hand. Report everything. Don't let anyone make you feel uncomfortable at anytime and anywhere.
2007-06-03 04:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sinner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. It's hard to flat out and say you are not interested, but it can be done and now sound mean. What has worked for me in the past was just be very vague in answering his questions, do whatever it is you could do to be away from this guy. Act busy.
What my friend has done in a similar situation had a friend send her flowers to work. And talked about an awsome date she was looking forward too. (but that's a little pathetic if you ask me)
2007-06-03 04:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just be up front in a very polite way. Ask if he's interested in you and when he says yes, say that his insistence on the subject is making you kind of uncomfortable. Say positive things like "i'd love to be your friend" or something like that. Haha or maybe my advice sucks. Do whatever feels right. If you don't like confrontation, maybe talk to your manager or other co-workers? Whatever you do, don't stage a fake boyfriend coming in and getting pissed at him. Haha ;-)
2007-06-03 04:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by zomgz_mcr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just say to him "I have a headache", or be busy, pretend you don't hear him, and then say, "oh, sorry, didn't hear you, I was concentrating on my work". I had a guy like that at my work too, and I flirted with other guys infront of him, though you have said you have a boyfriend..... You could start to talk to him about how inlove you are with your boyfriend, how he always gives you flowers, and calls you just to say he misses you, and blah blah blah....he'll get the hint :P
2007-06-03 04:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by vega_five 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him straight forward and tell him that you are not interested in him or would never date anyone that you work with. The important thing is to be direct, that way he gets the point.
Or, you can give me his number and I can tell him to leave you the "F" alone!
2007-06-03 04:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by hellokitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to be assertive & tell him that you are there to work & you are not interested in him. If he continues talk to one of your supervisors about this guy & ask him/her to have a talk with him. This guy obviously thinks he is "Gods gift to women" & no one can resist him. Maybe you are the female that is going to put him in his place. Good Luck.
2007-06-03 04:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by simplesimon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain that you can have this type of relationship at work. You would rather people at work not know that much about your private life. So could we plaese keep things professional.
2007-06-03 04:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by hotmomma4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he's starting to make you feel uncomfortable.
You have a BF, you are not interested in changing that situation, and he's bordering on stalking you or harrassing you. You are there to work, and you want to keep things on a professional level. Please respect your wishes. Say it nicely, firmly and calmly.
2007-06-03 04:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by M S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've gotta let him know that you are in a happy and fulfilling relationship....and that you don't really like to get into discussing your personal business at work
2007-06-03 04:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by Ebonee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say " listen buddy, I'm gonna have you arrested for harrassment. So stay within one meter from me, or I'll call the cops"
2007-06-03 04:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Neo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋