I'm in love with my best (guy) friend.
We met last year and became best friends over last summer. We started "seeing" each other in August of last year when we got back to school but kept it quiet and didn't tell anyone. We had a mutual type of agreement that we could see other people at the same time and still not tell anyone about us.
Around January we sort of had a falling out. We got back from school and it wasn't the same, but he hadn't told me that he had met this other girl and he liked her so didn't want to cheat on her with me. That would have been OK b/c that was how our thing worked. Finally we had a huge fight and then he appologized and we were fine again. I started dating a guy that was awesome, so then we were both happy w/ our other and decided that we both liked them and didn't want to cheat on them. This went on from about March to the end of May, he called me and I decided to go visit him. I got to his house and stayed and we talked about things . . .
2007-06-03 03:24:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was being really sweet, we were alone in his house, his g/f was in another state as was his housemate. He cooked me dinner and made me some really good cocktails.
We talked more and I told him that I hadn't cheated on my b/f and that I liked my b/f a lot, but I wasn't sure if I wanted to stay with him.
He told me that he had cheated on his g/f w/ some girl, which made em realize that he obviously didn't like her as much as I thought he had.
Then he kissed me and said, well I guess you already cheated on him . . . and because I was a little drunk and I am in love with him we ended up making out.
So, that can be perfectly ok, but the akward thing was I was supposed to stay for a few days, and I slept in a different room that night, but the next day he was acting really wierd and told me "I should probably take my stuff b/c he might not be around that night." The next day 2 of my friends said that they had hung out at his house that night.
So did he kicked me out . . . ?? idk???
2007-06-03 03:25:01 · update #1
Also, I thought I was completely over him, or had myself convinced of this until he called me over the summer, idk if that just brought back memories or something but then i couldn't stop thinking of him.
How can I find out if he wants me more than as just a random hook-up of a friend or something more?
And if he doesn't want more, then besides dropping him as my best friend, b/c i tried that and it didn't work at all, how can i get him to stop messing w/ my head/heart/and feelings?
2007-06-03 03:25:38 · update #2
Wow
2007-06-03 03:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by ????????? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't seem like you guys really 'love' each other - it's probably the raging hormones in you! If you really loved each other you wouldn't cheat on each other, no matter what. Understand that you guys were just attracted to each other.
Since things have reached this stage, may be you should back out because trying to forge a long term relationship out of what you are in can probably hurt both of you in the long run. Hold back, get a grip on yourself, sort out your feelings and go in for a relationship only if you are clear about it!
2007-06-03 10:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by arun 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have been through a similar situation some years ago.. from experience this guy"your friend" obviousely needs to find himself and you need to get far a way from him cut off contact maybe call for his birthdays .. and try to get into a healthier relationship...if you don't your relationship wil be set up for failure i did the same thing ans was said for a while time passed which helped me finda my love of my life and we've been married for 3 years going strong... and that old guy friend we still only speak on birthdays and catch up with life ... and he is still searching ..girl to girl to girl .. i hope this helps
btw it will be very hard to do but you have to be strong and stick to your guns about it
2007-06-03 10:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what ive read you dont seem to sure about what your feeling. Take a vacation and sort out how you feel. Cause I have a feeling its been bugging you along time. If your on any drugs id stay away from them for awhile until things become more clearly.
2007-06-03 10:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by PushSucharaX 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
gosh, this is probably the tuffest question ever, but here goes- If you think you did something wrong, ask him about it, don't just leave it hanging, if he's willing to talk about it good! if he's not, leave it alone for about two week's. Then just start a normal conversation again, and bring it up with him. Now I think you will be fine with or witout him. And mabye he just needs time "off" from you. But mabye he's also pissed because you like this "other" someone your dating.
2007-06-03 10:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by kbchkidnc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
never let anyone play with your heart,be true to your self. if hes into you still hell let u know. just watch the way he acts around you.but if hes brushing you off all the time theres nothing there. just sit back and watch ,see what happens. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. a remember what looks good its not always good.check your pros & cons befor you decide ok good luck!!!
2007-06-03 10:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by taz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop blaming him for it !!! He didn't do anything against your will. YOUR AGREEMENT WAS NO ATTACHMENTS REMMEBER???
So you need to decide if you're gonna continue to be his available friend with benefits or what.
You both agreed to the ground rules, so what's your problem?
2007-06-03 10:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Long..crazy..WOWERSZ
2007-06-03 10:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lil Bit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋