Im a Christian...Is it bad to be attracted to a non-Christian guy?
2007-06-03 02:58:02 · 15 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
YES, there is grave danger in dating unbelievers, or indifferent, worldly Christians, because when you go out with them you are making a choice that may affect your entire life. Never forget that the attraction between te sexes is very intense and you are often led captive by your feelings and emotions. Why take chances by playing with fire? "Keep your heart with all diligence" and be wise in choosing your date!
"14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you," - 2 Cor 6:14-17 KJV
2007-06-03 04:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by itsme_565 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A Christian really should not date or marry a non-Christian, for get about the problems that could come up, the Bible says we should not be un-equally yoked, this could also be looked at as other "Christian denominations" as some are so fare apart, it would be almost impossible to get anything done for Jesus cause you have to decide how to do so both of you are happy.
2007-06-03 04:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be aware that it may cause issues, but forget the rubbish some people will spout to you from the bible about what it says on the subject, as the bible is written by people with a vested interest in keeping christians breeding true.
Trust me, sexual compatability (libido, experimenting and a similar "kink" level) is far more important in the long term that faith or lack thereof.
2007-06-03 03:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by Nodality 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's bad to be attracted to one. But, yes, it's bad to date or marry one. You know it or you wouldn't be asking. The two above me obviously aren't Christians, so they don't understand. And you may not either now.
It's the knd of the thing you may not get until you're with the absolute wrong man and then it dawns on you, "Oh, this is why God said..."
It could be a generally good guy who just believes vastly different things than you and it either makes it very hard for you to practice and believe without a fight or it can pull you away from God entirely. Or it could be something worse...
Just keep praying, hun.
2007-06-03 03:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's better. Of course, I'm biased, being one of those non-Christian guys.
Seriously, though. I'm an atheist and I'm engaged to a Muslim. We differ in that belief, but we are similar in most others. She's very liberal for a Muslim.
It all depends on how much you let your religion rule your relationship. In general, the more people you know with beliefs different than yours, religious or otherwise, the broader your experience and the better off you are.
Whether or not you can have a long-term relationship with someone depends on which of those beliefs are your "hot-buttons" and how compatible the other person's beliefs are with yours. But you can have many common beliefs with another person and still disagree on whether an invisible man in the sky really exists or not.
2007-06-03 03:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by nondescript 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Katie that is a very hard one to answer. How strong are you in your faith? Are you strong enough to lift him up as opposed to him bringing you down? My husband is a Christian who does not attend church regularly. Since we have married though he has begun to go more with me. He is a good man and does not do or say anything that causes me to question my faith. If the young man has basic good qualities then I might say that you should carefully approach the relationship with him. Ask him what his feelings are about Christ and salvation and see if he will attend services with you. I once heard a very wise pastor counsel a young lady that was in turmoil over her relationship with her non believing boyfriend these were his words to her " Don't settle for Ismael when Issac is on the way". Are you settling for Ishmael and missing out on Issac? Good luck and God Bless.
2007-06-03 03:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Only hell mama ever raised 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being attracted to a non-christian guy is not wrong. As you get to know him you'll get to know his character. The idea of marrying someone that does not share your faith is warned against because of the stress and difficulty differing faith would bring to the relationship.
When I met my wife she was not a Christian, but she came to faith and we ultimately got married!
2007-06-03 03:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by small group guy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it will lead to problems for you down the road unless he converts and becomes a believer and is willing to live the life, find someone with similar beliefs and avoid the misery that unequally yoking yourself will bring.
2007-06-03 03:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, if the person has the qualities you look for in a person no matter what their belief is why would that be a bad thing.
I'm a non-christian married to a christian.
2007-06-03 03:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by genaddt 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why would you start a relationship on opposite sides of the fence to something as serious as the Christian faith? So what if you love him! We are suppose to love God more.
2007-06-03 03:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by HeVn Bd 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋